I am a relatively new hobbyist.  I am quite nervous about meeting women due to LE concerns...I met with a provider yesterday and she was not really what I expected in terms of looks.  I had already booked for the hour and got over my nervousness and we began what was a guaranteed multiple pop session...As we began I was already conflicted about 1. me cheating on my GF and 2. She wasn't a hottie which is what I thought she was and that would be fulfilling my fantasy.

In what might be the move of a hypocrit I did receive a BBBJ and completed and the pangs of guilt combined with my disappointment proved the impetous for my early departure.  As I was dressing she asked me to write a review and even suggested the scores I should give her.  In that situation I couldn't say anything but ok.  She asked for a 9, 9.  In fact, the service was probably an 8 but looks wise only a 5 or 6 in my opinion.  The woman is really sweet and nice but I was uncomfortable from the get go...

So, my questions are

1.  Have any hobbyists ever encountered feelings of guilt about a significant other and how have you dealt with it...and

2.  How would you review the situation?  I posted my review and gave the scores that I thought were accurate and actually feel badly b/c I misled her into believeing I would post something else.  In addition, I'm nervous that she may say bad things about me to other providers in the client review section.  Does this happen?  Am I concerned about a no harm no foul situation?

3.  What is the best way to make sure you aren't being set up by LE?  I know it is unlikely but how do we, as hobbyists, avoid potential entaglements, i.e. a bust.

Thanks.

You have a number of problems here. Let's take them one by one.
Why are you doing this? Is something lacking with your GF? You need to communicate with her.. Until you have made up in your own mind why you are pursuing this, and that you have exhausted all avenues of communication, stay away from this hobby (my opinion).  Because you brought guilt into your first experience before you even started, how objective are you being to the provider. No provider should ever be dictating what you write in a review.

However since you promised her to write one thing and now are doing another, not a good idea. You could get a rep as being dishonest. In the future do not discuss what scores you are going to give. This is suppose to be subjective anyway. For this one, I might not right a review at all. That would probably be the fairest thing to do.. Again my opinion others might differ.

Finally as far as LE is concerned. Certain things to look for that you might be getting set up. She tries to solicit out of you while she is fully clothed what you want specifically.. Your instincts will tell you. I think outcall is safer then incall. You should look at the reviews of this provider. Obviously if the provider is someone new or unknown on the boards there is more risk..

I always wait for the provider to come back from changing in the bathroom before I make any moves to disrobe.

Just some thoughts..

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1) If you're feeling guilt, don't be a hobbyist. Really. There are enough emotional issues to deal with even for those w/o a SO.
2) Post honestly and let her say bad things if she will. It can happen and there's nothing you can do to stop it. She can't blacklist you from seeing everyone.
3) Do your research and stick with well-reviewed providers, and you'll be fine (unless of course you're still dealing with #1).

Given your alias, I figured you'd have told her "Wanted a woman, never bargained for you!"

Sound like you are dealing with everything after the fact, though you knew up front you were feeling the way you were.  I am not sure that her looks have anything to do with anything other your fantasy of the "babe" not being met.

Suggest you rethink what you are doing and why you are doing it. For an hours worth of your time, does not balance with the days of confusion and guilt.

There's a client review section?

They're talking about us too?

(shudder)

He must be referring to another site.

Would be very interested if you could specifically provide the link that mentions this...

She told me they have a review section...add gullible to the list.  Thanks everyone for your feedback.