I wonder if something about your manner is spooking some of these women.  Maybe they're getting LE vibes about you?

There is a difference between being ripped-off and being stood-up.  At least when you're stood up you still have your money.  I assume since you're using TER you are picking providers with a good reputation.  So if you're consistently having bad luck with the very same women other TER'ers aren't, then it would seem that some of the explanation has to be the way in which you are interacting with these women.  In any case it doesn't make it right.  I hope your luck changes!

Pardon me for saying this while I am using an alias myself (an unfortunate necessity for a while, although I am sure a few have guessed who I am by now), but it is hard to have much to go on here without knowing who you are.  All you are giving is your version of things and of yourself.  The ladies may be having a totally different take on you.  The only way for us to make any judgement is to see who you are and see that you have some review history, and for us to be able to judge your reviews as being somewhat indicative of your personality.  If you have some well written reviews with established providers, then it would SEEM that you are being treated unfairly.  However, it is hard for anyone, fellow hobbyst or provider, to respond to this without being able to see anything more than your words abouyt what happened.  On the surface, yeah it seems wrong.  However, who knows how you are coming off to these women.  All we are hearing is your viewpoint.

HAve to agree with above.  IF you are really standing out on a street corner for the final call, maybe they can see you and you are doing something to make them suspicious.  Maybe if you don't want to reveal yourself you could ask some of the providers you have seen in the past if you are giving off some bad vibe.  Maybe they can refer to you to someone who won't stand you up if you seek variety.
Good Luck

I am sorry about what happenned to you.  What a waste of time and energy.  Always get an early confirmation when making arrangements.  Unfortunetly,  some people are just unreliable.  I dont understand why this last person didn't call you to cancel.  Perhaps they
they really did forget, or maybe just overbooked.  Maybe they thought you were somoene else when they saw you at the payphone. Who knows what really happenned. It's something that happens on both ends in this hobby.  I have also forgotten an appointment.  It is quite embarrassing. I apologized and tried to making up for it.  Noone likes wasting their time and being stood up is no fun.
We once did NYC incall, 3 out of 4 people didnt show.  Only 1 person called to cancel.  When I called the others,  all of them said they forgot.  Since then we always had a morning confirmation- no matter what time the appointment is for that day.  That phone call makes all the difference in the world.  
                                   Sincerely, Alyssa Young

Something similar to that happened to me earlier this week.  But it's only happened once, so I'm not too bitter yet.

I got screened, and finally we made an appointment after about a week of email back'n'forth.  I looked forward to her all day long (my work surely suffered), got myself more presentable than I've been in ages, bought fucking flowers(!), drove to the agreed-upon part of town, and called for final instructions at the agreed-upon time.  No answer, just voicemail.  Left my number, but she didn't call back.  Went home, emailed her, no answer.  Got fed up, went to a bar, and thought, "If I wanna get stood up, any girl here will do just fine."

Finally she emailed back, health problems.  Hey, that's life and I can accept it.  But why couldn't she just cancel ahead of time, instead of just flaking out and explaining after the fact?  Or at least answer the phone and tell me you're not up to it, instead of leaving me wondering WTF happened.

*sigh*

Oh well, one screwup isn't too bad, I guess.  And I know the girls sometimes have to go through the same kind of crap with clients.  But I don't know if I ever want to try to see that particular girl again; it certainly won't be any time soon, if I do.  I met such a sweet one last week, and am meeting another tonight.  They can't ALL be inconsiderate flakes.

I don't know if this will make you feel any better, but this has happened to me after sending a well-reviewed provider (7 pages) a big deposit for a two-hour session. She called my cell phone while was driving to her hotel to say she was too freaked out and couldn't see me. She said she would repay my deposit, but never did. Then, a year later, I suggested to her she make it up to me with a one-hour session instead of a refund, she agreed, and she stood me up by not answering my call at the appointed hour.

I want to emphasize that this was a well-known, well-reviewed provider...the only kind I will see. So, I learned the hard way: no deposits. For anyone. There are great providers that don't require them.

I would suggest a PM to previous reviewers of a lady you plan to see. I have been stood up by a couple of ladies, and found out after the fact that both tended to miss appointments fairly often. This is the kind of information that really isn't covered in reviews (both of these ladies had lots of great reviews), but can be discovered with a little research.

I would say mor e research is in order.  A Gent once told me he found what he was not doing right, lack of research.  Once he started really digging he stopped having bad or no show dates and met some terrific ladies and planning in advance is mandatory.

So try that actually do me a favor please, invest more time & effort? I hate seeing those skanks make more money than I do!

And giving the good providers all a tarnished rep.

There are as many different stories as there are idiots in the political parties .... so no one answer will fit all.

Also ... we're taking you at your word - and that your actions aren't part of the problem ... so with all that in mind ....

Are you picking the wrong providers?   Are you in search of the absolute youngest, prettiest, hard-body Hollywood types that just got off the bus from Kansas?  The point being made here is simply this:  We're part of an underground industry in which the pretty, hardbody providers are highly valued  (as it should be) but it takes a degree of principle, intelligence and emotional grounding on the part of the provider to not be swayed by that.  Not meaning that they turn into bitches (but that does happen) but just that they KNOW that they're highly prized and that they don't HAVE to put energy into keeping clients, making clients happy or even showing up if they don't want to.

Again ... without painting any ONE provider with such a braod brush, the kind of women who get into this business TEND to fall into one of two categories:

A) The ones that see the earning potential in this career versus being an assitant manager of communications for some geek-o-tron corporation ($27,200 a year) and who intend to retire with at least $576,000 in the bank

B) the ones that are too flakey, lazy  or stupid to KEEP a job at Geek-O-Tron.

Once in a GREAT while ... the Type A girls have problems that couse you inconvenience.

Type B girls live that way.

Fortunately, they're not that hard to spot if you know what to look for.