There used to be a contest on TER called taking one for the team. Well, I think I have the record (and am willing to relinquish it) for taking hits for the team. If ANYONE here has had a worse run than this, let me know because I just don't get it!
If I sound p*#$ed off, I am! I have been hobbying for quite some time now. Just within the past two years I have been RIPPED OFF and STOOD UP over TEN times!! The part I dont get is I am a respectful, discreet, clean, generous and HONEST gentleman. Being ripped off is something I can somewhat understand because the world is filled with scumbags male and female.
What I would like to understand is WHY (ahem) ladies, and I use that term loosely, go through with the screening process and set up appointments only to leave me standing on the corner where I was instructed to call for final directions to our meeting place and never answer their cell phones? Today was the last straw. I went through the rigorous screening process and at the specified time called to confirm our appointment. She told me she "forgot" the real estate agent was stopping by to finalize some papers for the sale of her condo. She asked me if we could push back the time and I agreed. She then told me she would call when they left to give me directions, she never called back. I called and got her voicemail, left a message but never got a call back.
IS IT TOO MUCH TO ASK FOR JUST A BIT OF HONESTY? I personally don't like being F'ed with. If these ladies really feel for their safety or fear they may be busted, can't they just be HONEST and tell the guy (me) they would rather not see him? If you want to pull the ladies privacy card fearing possible retaliation for their actions, think about it, what's the most I have a cell phone number and maybe an email address? What can I do with that? On the flip side, she has all my personal information to include cell phone number, work number, REAL full name, home address, etc.
I have had some real good experiences with providers, but let's face it, I am a normal human male and desire variety just as much as the next guy. I'm not out to hurt or ruin anyone's life. I have a SO and desire discretion as much as these providers.
So let's hear it from the people here that may have the answers I'm looking for. I'm getting sexually frustrated.

I wonder if something about your manner is spooking some of these women.  Maybe they're getting LE vibes about you?

There is a difference between being ripped-off and being stood-up.  At least when you're stood up you still have your money.  I assume since you're using TER you are picking providers with a good reputation.  So if you're consistently having bad luck with the very same women other TER'ers aren't, then it would seem that some of the explanation has to be the way in which you are interacting with these women.  In any case it doesn't make it right.  I hope your luck changes!

Pardon me for saying this while I am using an alias myself (an unfortunate necessity for a while, although I am sure a few have guessed who I am by now), but it is hard to have much to go on here without knowing who you are.  All you are giving is your version of things and of yourself.  The ladies may be having a totally different take on you.  The only way for us to make any judgement is to see who you are and see that you have some review history, and for us to be able to judge your reviews as being somewhat indicative of your personality.  If you have some well written reviews with established providers, then it would SEEM that you are being treated unfairly.  However, it is hard for anyone, fellow hobbyst or provider, to respond to this without being able to see anything more than your words abouyt what happened.  On the surface, yeah it seems wrong.  However, who knows how you are coming off to these women.  All we are hearing is your viewpoint.

HAve to agree with above.  IF you are really standing out on a street corner for the final call, maybe they can see you and you are doing something to make them suspicious.  Maybe if you don't want to reveal yourself you could ask some of the providers you have seen in the past if you are giving off some bad vibe.  Maybe they can refer to you to someone who won't stand you up if you seek variety.
Good Luck

I am sorry about what happenned to you.  What a waste of time and energy.  Always get an early confirmation when making arrangements.  Unfortunetly,  some people are just unreliable.  I dont understand why this last person didn't call you to cancel.  Perhaps they
they really did forget, or maybe just overbooked.  Maybe they thought you were somoene else when they saw you at the payphone. Who knows what really happenned. It's something that happens on both ends in this hobby.  I have also forgotten an appointment.  It is quite embarrassing. I apologized and tried to making up for it.  Noone likes wasting their time and being stood up is no fun.
We once did NYC incall, 3 out of 4 people didnt show.  Only 1 person called to cancel.  When I called the others,  all of them said they forgot.  Since then we always had a morning confirmation- no matter what time the appointment is for that day.  That phone call makes all the difference in the world.  
                                   Sincerely, Alyssa Young

Something similar to that happened to me earlier this week.  But it's only happened once, so I'm not too bitter yet.

I got screened, and finally we made an appointment after about a week of email back'n'forth.  I looked forward to her all day long (my work surely suffered), got myself more presentable than I've been in ages, bought fucking flowers(!), drove to the agreed-upon part of town, and called for final instructions at the agreed-upon time.  No answer, just voicemail.  Left my number, but she didn't call back.  Went home, emailed her, no answer.  Got fed up, went to a bar, and thought, "If I wanna get stood up, any girl here will do just fine."

Finally she emailed back, health problems.  Hey, that's life and I can accept it.  But why couldn't she just cancel ahead of time, instead of just flaking out and explaining after the fact?  Or at least answer the phone and tell me you're not up to it, instead of leaving me wondering WTF happened.

*sigh*

Oh well, one screwup isn't too bad, I guess.  And I know the girls sometimes have to go through the same kind of crap with clients.  But I don't know if I ever want to try to see that particular girl again; it certainly won't be any time soon, if I do.  I met such a sweet one last week, and am meeting another tonight.  They can't ALL be inconsiderate flakes.

I don't know if this will make you feel any better, but this has happened to me after sending a well-reviewed provider (7 pages) a big deposit for a two-hour session. She called my cell phone while was driving to her hotel to say she was too freaked out and couldn't see me. She said she would repay my deposit, but never did. Then, a year later, I suggested to her she make it up to me with a one-hour session instead of a refund, she agreed, and she stood me up by not answering my call at the appointed hour.

I want to emphasize that this was a well-known, well-reviewed provider...the only kind I will see. So, I learned the hard way: no deposits. For anyone. There are great providers that don't require them.

I would suggest a PM to previous reviewers of a lady you plan to see. I have been stood up by a couple of ladies, and found out after the fact that both tended to miss appointments fairly often. This is the kind of information that really isn't covered in reviews (both of these ladies had lots of great reviews), but can be discovered with a little research.

I would say mor e research is in order.  A Gent once told me he found what he was not doing right, lack of research.  Once he started really digging he stopped having bad or no show dates and met some terrific ladies and planning in advance is mandatory.

So try that actually do me a favor please, invest more time & effort? I hate seeing those skanks make more money than I do!

And giving the good providers all a tarnished rep.

thanks for the kind words Alyssa. you genuinely sound like a really sincere provider (?) I only wish there were more like you in my locale. hmmmmmm, maybe I should take a vacation? ;o)

I see no reason to disclose my identity. I have over a dozen reviews on here and all have been very kind and generous. a couple have actually been turned down for not being descriptive enough!
I have seen a couple providers who didn't advertise on a website or only in adult magazines (probably the first mistake) and one of them recently did the postpone thing to me. but finally (and reluctantly) agreed to take a chance and meet me. needless to say, without sounding cocky, she was quite pleased she took the chance. she did tell me that at first she was nervous about seeing me for the fact that I gave her some wierd vibe. I asked her what that was and she responded about the time it took me to answer questions and even some of the questions I asked (not graphic) for example, "what are your available hours" and "do you offer incall".
now call me strange, but if I was a provider and someone asked ME those questions, I don't think I would be so paranoid. I mean come on, if you read an ad that says;
I am Sandy a true GFE escort, cum and see me, you won't be sorry! (212) 555-1212 [email protected]
wouldn't YOU ask these same questions too? (providing you have a SO such as myself) the only reason I see that I could make someone nervous is because I am shy by nature and trying to be too careful. being attached isn't the easiest thing to get away from at times.

There are as many different stories as there are idiots in the political parties .... so no one answer will fit all.

Also ... we're taking you at your word - and that your actions aren't part of the problem ... so with all that in mind ....

Are you picking the wrong providers?   Are you in search of the absolute youngest, prettiest, hard-body Hollywood types that just got off the bus from Kansas?  The point being made here is simply this:  We're part of an underground industry in which the pretty, hardbody providers are highly valued  (as it should be) but it takes a degree of principle, intelligence and emotional grounding on the part of the provider to not be swayed by that.  Not meaning that they turn into bitches (but that does happen) but just that they KNOW that they're highly prized and that they don't HAVE to put energy into keeping clients, making clients happy or even showing up if they don't want to.

Again ... without painting any ONE provider with such a braod brush, the kind of women who get into this business TEND to fall into one of two categories:

A) The ones that see the earning potential in this career versus being an assitant manager of communications for some geek-o-tron corporation ($27,200 a year) and who intend to retire with at least $576,000 in the bank

B) the ones that are too flakey, lazy  or stupid to KEEP a job at Geek-O-Tron.

Once in a GREAT while ... the Type A girls have problems that couse you inconvenience.

Type B girls live that way.

Fortunately, they're not that hard to spot if you know what to look for.

Wonder if we could recruit good providers at Geek-O-Tron, with the proper screening of course! We would need a proper HR Department. LOL
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