I don't think you have to worry half as much about what a provider thinks as you do about what your wife will think if any of the number of bad things that can happen by you taking off your ring do happen! You can bet that 99% of the providers are assuming that 99% of their clients are married anyway whether you are wearing a ring or not. If they take the time to care at all! Unless you are out trying to pick up single chicks in a bar I wouldn't worry about a ring being a problem.
I have been hobbying for a couple of years now. Last month I got married and I am now wearing the dreaded wedding ring. Sometimes I do the MP thing and sometimes I do the Escort thing. The other day when at an MP for the first time since the marriage, I noticed my ring on and kind of freaked. The girl was due in the room any minute and I hurriedly stuffed the ring in my pants pocket that was hanging up. Later when home, my chick looked at me in shock and asked where my ring was! Shit. I reached in my pocket and quickly put it on and rendered an excuse that was possibly believed.
What does everybody else do? I guess it shouldn't matter but it seemed strange none the less.
Should I hide it or just leave it on.
BTW, if you payin, you aint cheatin!
I can relate to your feeling of unease, but nevertheless I recommend leaving the ring on. First, as you experienced, it's easy to forget to put the wedding band back on. Plus, there's always the very likely possiblity that you could LOSE the ring. Try explaining THAT to your honey. Although I've always been curious whether or not providers "look down" on us married hobbiests.
I don't think you have to worry half as much about what a provider thinks as you do about what your wife will think if any of the number of bad things that can happen by you taking off your ring do happen! You can bet that 99% of the providers are assuming that 99% of their clients are married anyway whether you are wearing a ring or not. If they take the time to care at all! Unless you are out trying to pick up single chicks in a bar I wouldn't worry about a ring being a problem.
Do what I did. I lost mine years ago and have never replaced it! Actually, lost it in the Pacific Ocean over in Hawaii.
not really sure why. Maybe because I frequent MP's and the girls often see me drive up in a nice car and maybe, just maybe, some girls think that I am single and available??? Who knows???
I just stick it in my ashtray (non-smoker) until I am done and then put it back on once I get back in my car.
Also, I go to the gym frequently and always need to take it off then (boxing-aerobics requires that I wrap my hands and wear boxing gloves) so when I forget to put it back on its no big deal and does not raise suspicion.
I also prefer not to wear it because when I shower at a MP (or a rare incall) I always worry that my ring may slip off and go down a drain. That's all I would need!
Take it off, put it in a secure place in your car and put it back on before you even put your keys in your ignition and you will be fine.
In both MP's and private providers, I have found no ring gets better mileage. I have tested both. My sense is that the provider may think that somehow there is a possibility of more than a client relationship and becomes more friendly. In fact, one asked why I never asked her out on a date.
Dear Readers,
Who knows, maybe it is mostly psychological, but I feel like I get better mileage sans ring as well. I do exactly as others have mentioned, I put the ring in my ashtray before the session.
I think that some providers react a little better to a man they perceive as available, YMMV of course. Numerous times, I have been halfway through the session, or near the end, and a provider will ask if I'm married. I don't continue the charade if she asks, I tell her.
Now again, maybe this is just me reading into it, but in a few of these instances, it seemed like the enthusiasm level dropped just a notch. Also, unless they had some interest about my status, why would they even be asking? Of course, it could just be idle curiosity.
Having said that, be sure to keep careful track of that baby. Once, instead of the usual ashtray routine, I slipped it into my front pants pocket before the session. This was nearly disastrous. I didn't notice it fall out upon my return to work, as I was stepping out of my car. I had no idea where I had even lost it. I frantically called the agency, spoke with the provider, had her check the motel room, ripped apart my car. No luck!
The next day, (having spent the previous evening at home hiding my ring hand) a few hours away from buying a replacement, I combed the parking lot where I had parked the day before. Sure enough, lying out on the pavement, there it was. Hallelujah.
Not sure the mileage accrued, real or imagined, was worth this headache! LOL.
iceman
You were really lucky to find your ring, Iceman. I lost a one-carat diamond ring once when I put it in my pocket (I didn't realize the pocket had a little hole in the bottom). I retraced all my steps, but never found it. I finally had to tell my boyfriend who gave it to me, and he bought me a new one.
I suppose I am lucky and I only wear my wedding ring on special occasions. I work with electricity all the time and my wife would rather have me alive with all my parts than dead with a ring on.
I only see providers. Never did the MP thing. I usually remember to take it off. I just feel funny with it on. I leave it in the glove compartment and put it on as soon as I get back in the car.
When I have forgotten, it hasn't been a big deal.
The providers that I know do not look down on married men. They wouldn't exist without them. I would guess that at least 50% of their clients are married. I bring up the family in my regular conversation with these ladies. Most ladies that I have seen have children and enjoy talking about them. These ladies are truly real people.
I always wear my ring and quite frankly haven't even thought about it much. Since I'm the one paying does it really matter?
If I am going to a MP or a new escort, I leave it off and someplace safe (my desk at work). I do the same thing with credit cards. If the worse happens and I get robbed, I can handle the lose of money. But explain the loss of the wedding ring can be very difficult.
I just leave it on when I am seeing a regular or someone well known.
If you want to lie to make your provider feel better, make up a story about the ring. Say you inherited it and it just happens to fit that finger best. It depends on how weddingish it looks. If it is stylish you can lie about it being a gift.
It's easier to explain to a massage girl or escort why you're wearing the ring (I'm not married anymore, but the ring is stuck) than explaining to your wife why you're NOT wearing it!!
i'm single and when i go to an mp, they always ask if i'm married. i tell them no but they laugh and don't believe me. i tell them if i'm married then why would i go to a MP. they laugh even harder and say most of their clients are married. incall may be different, but for a MP i say leave it on. as others have said, its easier to explain to a mp girl then to explain to your wife.
In fact, I keep my engagement ring on as well. (Its much too big to remove) *wink*
The first time a saw a well reviewed provider here, I took my ring off.
We were talking after the session and she held my hand, took her finger and rubbed it over the ridge that the ring created.
I knew I was busted, nothing was spoken.
Next time I saw her, I left it on. I think it's more honest.
Leave it on--don't loose it. Many girls would probably prefer married men. They are more likely to behave themselves.
it is still hard to say. The perceived loss of attitude on the providers part is scary to me. But I feel like a sneak taking the ring off and on. (like I'm not a sneak anyway). The risk of losing it is also a big threat. So I guess the answer is...
become an electrician and say fuck it.
Leave the ring on I always love a married man it brings out the beast I mean the best in me. Call me a brat but I find that my oralskills improve when I see a weding ring. Just my 2 cents