I agree to this.... We are all very different, in what we seek as far as to a client...

Safety is #1.  
Higiene #2.  
Respectful #3.
Overall great positive energy.

last but never the lease---open to the neat experience.... & memory.

 
oxox
Viviann

TMI

Oh I so agree here.  Not until I was Sarah did I ever ask for references. I screened another way, so it just wasn't necessary. Now that I do ask for references, I get all sorts of information about guys that I really don't want to know! Lol! At first it seemed really helpful to have some inside info, but I have also several times (twice just recently) been given info on a gent that made me almost decide not to see him. I went with my instincts over the negative reference each time, and am so glad I did, because they were some of my best times!

I am seriously reconsidering references because of this. I hate to be prejudiced against a guy.  

So indeed:  

"Yes, I saw him. He's fine."

Honestly, that's as specific as a reference ever gets, in my experience.

Sometimes, I see other providers socially. Hobbyists have asked me if we talk about our appointments. We NEVER talk shop. It's not that you guys aren't fascinating but I suppose a privacy thing. I mean, advice here and there, sure. But mostly, it's about screening, or the business end of it, not anything "interesting."  We talk about clothes, our families, our other jobs, and our cars, just like civvies

What...nothing about....

my keen wit and knowlege of good wines??/   LOL

Can be a complete disaster for us both, from refusal certain  of services to outright thank you but here  is your money back I can't see you.  

I appreciate the info I get from references. More so, are the reviews I read that the prospective client writes. These tell me how he operates. A win, win for all.  

There is something to be said for pairing like minds/play methods together that make this great

LOL!  I prefer "soiled doves."  Very 19th century.