I recently came back from seeing a provider who has fantastic reviews on TER. However, my experience was not even close to fantastic with her (and I mean WAY off). Since I know that YMMV with providers (and since she has had nothing but fantastic reviews), is it fair for me to leave a bad review for her? Or should I just chalk it up to her having a bad day and leaving it at that?

All input welcome.

It's completely fair for you to write an honest review about your experience with her. If the review turns out to be bad, that's the nature of the beast.

Yes, write it as you see it.

I'm sorry your time wasn't what was expected, who knows why that happens, but although it wasn't the best of meetings with a Provider, it's your rite as a Hobbyist to give what your perception of this "date" was. Maybe there were alot more gentlemen who felt the same as you but didn't write one..The job falls into your lap and yes it's your responsibility to be honest because in the long run you would be helping others, and if she has an issue with anything you had to say, she has a chance at a rebuttal.
Jay

be sure that you are really being fair. When you have high expectations for anything in life, disappointment is magnified. Use the details section to thoroughly and honestly explain your expectations and ratings. And thank you for writing the review...

Please write an honest review.  In the details, explain what your expectations were & how they were not met.  Give her credit for any positives that occured.  
Yes, YMMV.  Chemistry is there or it isn't.

A lady should not expect all 8s or whatever.  Everyone rates different based on their expectations.  I look for ladies with a +/- 1 range...  Say the hypothetical 8 level would probably have a range of 7-8-9.  Anyrate the number scale doesn't tell me what I need to know.  I always read details.
skb

I think some gentlemen might feel it. Now saying that doesn't change what I do or not do in my session. I have fairly good reviews and have had a few I would have liked to question. It is the way the gentlemen looks at what he has experienced and nothing more.

I saw a newbie who gave me a 7 and I had all 8's and 9's. Who am I to say otherwise. He seemed happy and enjoyed himself and what he wrote was the same.The next ladies he saw got much higher marks. It didn't hurt me in any way. Most read the review and look at the reviewer anyway.

A newbie review will hurt or help a provider less than a long standing hobbiest. The most important thing is to write your first review. Be open and honest and do make note of your expectations that might have been clouded by excitement and nervousness.

I'm happy to see you have joined the ranks of posters here on the general board. I hope to see you often but don't forget to keep going back to the newbie board.There is much to learn there

Kisses Haley

I had something similar happen. I know TER is really hard on providers writing thier own reviews. In this case she had several awesome reviews and a couple 5's. My experience was slightly below average but when I went to write a review I noticed she had a really awesome one posted the same day I saw her. Another coincidence is that every time her name disappears off the recent reviews, up pops another one from a new VIP with no other reviews. I think Im going to write it anyway just so everyone knows what to expext.

It wasnt bad it just wasnt her in the photos or they were at least 10 year old pics. Plus her place is really nasty.

As suggested, be sure to include anything that was positive. It's entirely possible that there simply wasn't any chemistry between the two of you.

Objective honesty is the key but can seem like chasing The Holy Grail at times...not quite achievable. Reviews are so colored by each hobbyist's personal expectations and biases that it can be difficult to weed through them all to get to the real experience.

Not long after finding TER, I wrote a review that I believed to be objective and honest after a date with an extremely highly reviewed provider. I did not find her attractive (she averages a 9 in looks) and we did not click to the point that I never reached my first cup (again she averaged 9's in performance). To her credit, she tried and never stopped until our time was up, but it just did not work for me. During our date, my car was broken into and I lost about $3000 in stuff. I wrote an honest review and gave her 6's, but my mistake was mentioning the theft.

TER felt I was allowing that to factor into my ratings and would not post it. I disagreed but I get it (and they might allow it today as I have more of a track record). The point is to try to be as objective as possible. I would always recommend waiting a few days before writing a review. That gives a little time for some of the emotion that might color your review away from objective to be weeded out.

K

Yes I agree.

We need to get toghether in the lab. I bet we can cause an explosion or two or more.

Thank You
XLIII = 4

often a hobbyist will have a less-than-stellar session and write a downright mean review, downgrading the provider in looks as well as performance out of sheer frustration or spite.

That isn't fair.

Other hobbyists will give inflated scores even thought their own experience was just so-so because... well, everybody else did and besides, she was probably just (insert excuse here).

That isn't fair either.

What's fair is to write an honest review, as objective as possible. If she really is a great provider who just had a bad day, that's too bad - but well-reviewed providers aren't crippled by a single bad review.

I come across inflated reviews constantly. I for one am sceptical of anyone who has a 10. Espiecially people with multiple 10's. I mean many once in a lifetimes do you have. I for one will always be waiting for my 10. The day that stops Im changing hobbies.

and I have heard many guys saying the same things and never writing a review for fear of reprocussions from the lady. Here's a clue...don't give out your personal info lol.

I have seen so many 9's and 10's in looks and performance being thrown around like candy on halloween, and most were not deserved!

You also have to consider "who" is writing those reviews. If a girl in her twenties is "decent" shape only sees older men, she is not likely to have too many bad reviews if she is going through an alpahbet of activities.


I will not mention names but there are several girls that have nothing but 9's and 10's in appearance that would not even make a runner up in a swim suit contest lol! You have to ask yourself what do the guys behind the scenes look like that are giving out all those high numbers?

Too many women think because their reviews say there are good, they actually are! It's not that hard to get a guy you are banging to say nice things about you, rather than one you see on the street lol!

A younger, or extremely good looking guy may be a bit harsh because his expectations are higher...thus you will see 6's and 7's more often.

If someone who has great reviews has a bad day, then it is still YOUR bad day. You still paid the fee to HER, and should have gotten the same service, her reviews "claim" she offers.

Also consider that many girls will offer discounts or favors to guys for good reviews, so nothing is 100% accurate on any of these boards.

The staff can do as much as possible to keep them honest, but in the end what guy is going to admit he lied about a girl to get a few bucks off?

I say write about YOUR experience, because that is your right as a member, and it is also what keeps the process honest and informative. She's a big girl and I am sure one HONEST review will not make or break all the other great ones.

Like the old saying goes, call it like you see it! Just be honest, but include the good points too. In all honesty, she may have had a bad day, or whatever the case was, she shouldn't have worked. But definitely be honest.....just my opinion.

Well, thanks to all who replied to this post. I've been going out of my mind wondering what the heck happened with the provider and myself. While I'm not a total "noob", I have seen providers that I've meshed with and others that just didn't click. This time I was stunned because of how the entire situation progressed.

With that being said, I will follow the advice I have been given. I will write a fair, honest review... making sure to state just the facts and not personal biases.

Thanks again for helping me with this matter.

that perhaps the experience wasn't so great because of YOU. I am not saying it was. But, i have had a couple of clients over the years that were either dirty and stunk PHEW or they were pushy. I can tell you str8 up they didn't get my A game.

Like all of the other posts, tell the truth, definitely mention ymmv. And be honest, don't slam her, we've all had appointments that just didn't meet the anticipation. Thanks for the review in advance.

advice above is correct; namely, write the review.  However, you need to be honest with the review.  The question raised is a good one.  Specifically, did you bring your "A" game in terms of hygiene, attitude, manners, etc.?  YMMV is sometimes difficult to determine the cause.

It's an excellent question and ties into the previous question posed by i3 lawyers.

I've been active on this board for at least two years--lurking mostly, but active. Unfortunately, when I joined as a total noob, I used my real first name followed by a personal nickname that friends call me. Yup, you guessed it, I was eventually recognized. So I ditched that persona and created this one.

With that being said, I have met other providers before and definitely bring the game. I never drink beforehand, shower thoroughly before the meet, dress nicely, stay in luxurious hotels, and normally bring a gift. In fact, I even bring covers just in case the providers don't have any to spare (or any in my size). Believe me, I was ready for this appointment.

The strange part is that is seemed as though the provider had a problem before we met... I don't know if something happened at home or in her personal life. We chatted on the phone warmly twice before meeting and she showed up at the hotel two hours late. When I tried calling her cell, I only received voicemail. I was on the verge of checking out when I finally received her call.. and even then it sounded weird... like she was agitated or frustrated with something. However, despite many attempts to figure out what was wrong, I finally just gave up. We eventually met, but it was a rushed, awkward and terrible session. At the end of it, I was as anxious to leave as she seemed.

And this is my question, if something traumatic did happen to her and she had a bad session because of it, would a negative review be fair?

(yup, I'm a total wuss, but I'm a nice wuss!)