Since I was having a very boring morning at work,  I decided to drop a coupld of emails to a few providers that I'd been interested in, but hadn't seen before.  The email I sent out was very respectful and without reference at all to anything LE would like to hear about.  Simply a Hi, saw you on "X" site, would like rate info & if you have a convenient incall location to mine which I supplied.  I did not ask for directions or locations from them.

The first response I received was from a lady who has had pics up for quite a while, but no reviews that I've found anywhere.  Her reply was very, very sweet.  A little out of my way, but file that in the "going to" pile.

A little while later I received a reply from a "well reviewed" provider.  She's email only, no pics, but very positive ratings on other boards.  The response I received from her was: find my rates on TBD, I'm not near you, and I'm on vacation till "x", thanks.  File that one in the "not if it were the last piece of ass on earth" pile.

Maybe I'm being a pain in the ass.  But is it really so much trouble to be "nice" when someone asks for info so he can GIVE YOU MONEY?  I've met many wonderful people in this hobby.  I've also met some real beauts as well.  Hell, while I'm on a little rant, another "well reviewed" provider a few weeks ago first stood me up, replied to my original wtf? email with an "I'll make it up to you!  And I'll take 50% off!" then didn't respond to my follow ups about her next availability.  While I'm dying to nail this woman, my money goes elsewhere.  

On the other hand, a few weeks ago I dropped NOSC an email and received several extremely sweet.  It's very doubtful that I'll get out to her neck of the woods, so unless she tours Chicago, she's never going to see a dime from me, yet she took the time simply to be nice.  Wish there were more around like her.  File that in the "If I'm ever within a hundred miles of her" pile.  

Ok, I'm done.  Off to wax the carrot.  TGFMLAMP(thank god for my local asian massage parlor.)

We now return you to your regularly scheduled porn channel.

JJ

JJ:
I guess we all get a streak of bad selections now and then.
This was your turn, hopefully that streak has ended for you.

NOSC is truly a wonderful lady.  Although she and I did not "click" in the YMMV category, I have nothing but respect for this fine lady.  She is hard working and puts you the customer as #1 when she is with you.

One needs only look at a random few of her reviews to see how she got her reputation, well earned I might add.
She should give lessons in customer service (pun intended)
Hiya NOSC sweetie, did you try the Tandoori Chicken recipe yet?
--LM

-- Modified on 3/22/2002 2:01:55 PM

Thanks LM.  Needed the little pick me up.

It's just been a really surprising couple of weeks in the "top ten" category of those I've not had the pleasure of yet.

Nicole, I'm probably the only man in America that doesn't like chicken and doesn't drink coffee.  But the beef is here for you in the midwest if you ever travel by.  

Thanks again LM.  Now I'm lmao!

No, it's definitely NOT too much for you to ask for simple courtesy in your email replies from ladies you are thinking of seeing.  And without a website with relevant info, a lady has to expect a gazillion questions in email... that's why so many of us have sites to begin with! FWIW I think a lady could have a site explaining rates, locations, and rules, even if she doesn't choose to have a picture... it would save a lot of time on email!

Now that said I will say that I personally, being an adult webmaster, receive anywhere from 300-350 emails a day. NO I do not mean that they are all related to this 'biz... but they all require some level of my attention.  Emails I get asking for things like my rates, which are explained in detail on my site, do kinda get on my nerves after a while and are likely to induce a fairly short response like, "All the information you seek can be found on my website at sexy-curves.com.  Thanks, Nicole."  I hope that doesn't seem *rude* to you, but the fact is that if I were to answer every question that's answered on my website, which I get again via email, I'd have NO time to take appointments =:O  If on the other hand the email is a) towards setting up an appointment or b) from someone with relevant questions/concerns that are not addressed on my site, and who seems sincere, I do my best to be as courteous and friendly as possible.

So it kinda goes both ways.. for every frustration you experience in seeking the right lady to see, we are experiencing a similar frustration... (rude emails abound!) except, tenfold.  So please don't necessarily jump the gun if you feel someone was a smidge less than *superfriendly* in her response... given the opportunity, most of us are happy to show you how friendly we can be

Hugs*
Nicole

This is the hobby we've chosen, JJ.

There's a lot of dysfunction in this business unfortunately. As a result, not everyone is going to be as professional and friendly as, say, your basic IBM salesperson.

Most important part of the transaction is the interview process. If the escort is willing to spend some time and talk to you, chances are if the conversation goes more than a few minutes, you're going to have a good time with her.

I hear Chicago is pretty tough for escorts, while we have many fine ones in LA (and the situation has improved greatly in my other home of LV). Perhaps a day trip is in order?

I could be wrong, but I'm guessing that when they ask you questions like that, what they are really trying to do is avoid that awkward moment when your tell them that the donation is wrong and that it really is XXX.  In other words, they may have seen your web site, but are just trying to confirm.  Probably a better question would have been..."Is eveything on your web site current?"  Would you have a problem with it if it were put to you in that way?

That may be true, however, I'm sure I am not the only lady who has little mental red flags go up anytime anyone, via email, on the phone, or in person, wants to talk about money.  The pictures on my site are dated... I just posted new pics three days ago... so why would anyone assume that anything on my site would not be applicable??? I'm trying to figure out the logic there and having trouble with it, but maybe it's a blonde thing?

Just like I don't think it's too much for you guys to ask for courteous responses via email, I don't think it's too much for us to ask that a new client coming to see us makes himself aware of our rates and anything else relevant, when it is provided on our websites for the benefit of all involved.  Making yourself as aware as you can of a lady prior to paying her a visit *does* indeed help to ensure a smooth, pleasant experience for both parties.  My reviews don't mention any sudden changes in gift rates...or any attempts at milking more money out of my clients...so please simply assume that if it's on my site, it's there because I want it there.

Hugs*
Nicole

Hmmmm despite my gazillions of emails (and sooooooooo much spam!), I check my mail about ten times per day... if not more... and generally respond within twelve hours if not sooner. If I don't, it means one of a few specific things... a) The email was either rude, or explicit, and I won't respond. b) I'm not feeling well and waiting until the next day to get to my email. c) I'm out of town. d) My computer has become posessed by demonic spirits and I'm having problems with it. (Happened this week, I got the Nimda virus. ACK!)  I just wanted to say that because while I do get a lot of mail each day, each time I check I might have about twenty/thirty emails... many are spam, some will be relevant to my adult webmaster work, some will be regarding the 'biz. I do appreciate the emails I get that are courteous, and I do respond quickly.

I love it when a gentlemen takes the time to write a courteous email, telling me a little about himself and why he'd like to see me and things like that... those are the emails I remember. Something along the lines of "WHAT R UR RATES!" Isn't going to garner a reply from me. Hopefully that doesn't make me seem less businesslike and courteous about answering my email, but moreso... I'd rather spend my time on those gentlemen who take a few extra moments to be courteous when they contact me.

Anyways it seems most of us agree on the "asking what your rates are" questions. They always get pointed back to my site as well.
Hugs*
Nicole of DC

next year.  The classy ladies are always courteous and treat this as a career, not just a job. "Look at my website" is not necessarily a rude reply. It is rude of you to ask for a personal answer to something that is readily available to you. In other words, "I'm busy too, get your own damn coffee" is, IMHO, a very appropriate response.

WHAT R UR RATES?



I'm sorry, the devil made me do it!

-LM

ps-Just kidding, really!

Perhaps the "well reviewed" provider was hurried, perhaps bombarded by emails at that time -- that's the impression I get. It's so hard to portray emotions on the Internet and so I myself try not to take things too much to heart on here.

If she was busy, she was at least taking time to acknowledge your email, and she seemed to at least try to get you to her website where more information about her was.

Some people are also not "writers." Some prefer to chit-chat on the phone while some are just best in person.

+Sugar+
XO
www.Sugar4Hire.com

I go away for the weekend and Look, I sparked a discussion!  

I agree with so many of the comments made here, lemme see where to start....

Basically, if I had gotten "listen dumb ass, look at my web site!" I would have even been fine with that  But the lady in question doesn't have a site and I was referred to TBD.  Not really a fan of that site and don't have a membership there.  I might have read too much into it as well I'll admit.  It was just such a 180 from the other reply I received.  


SCDC, time for you to hire an assistant girl! lol.  I totally agree that you shouldn't even bother with rude or explicit emails.  That's either a red flag or a waste of your time.  Whenever I contact someone I try to be as respectful as possible and limit my questions while keeping them away from anything naughty!  You're also right in that you're in the business of friendly, and nearly everyone I've met has been.  This response wasn't a smidge less than superfriendly, it was on the verge of "I'm bored, you're a bother, why am I bothering to reply?"  If things are that bad for a particular provider (they're obviously not for you) then it's time to get out of the business, or reasses the market you're targeting.  If nothing else a simple word doc to copy and paste from could have gone a long way for this particular lady.  Something like that I don't find offensive at all.  

Dysfunction Professor?  Nahhhh, couldn't be!  You're so right about the conversation thing.  I guess that's what put me off.  Most ladies are exactly that.  Ladies.  When I had emailed Nicole of SC, I basically said something like, "I think you're posts are funny and insightful on TER, do you happen to have a website?"  She came back warm, appreciative and funny.  At least for me, that's what I'm looking for.  Just a smidge of warmth, a simple "thanks for inquiring" or "how are you today" goes a long long way.  

As for here in Chicago, yeah, it's pretty tough.  Having grown up in New York, it's a tad different.  For me, I ask questions that are simply relative to my situation.  I train in from a burb that is in a diametric direction from 99.9% of the providers.  So I'm usually stuck with downtown incalls.  Back in NYC I've run into as many as three ladies in the same aparment building, here it's just a pain.  So I merely ask "do you have incall available, and if so is it convenient to my location xxx"  I don't ask for the ladies location, I give mine so I don't make her feel uncomfortable.

Sugar, if you ever get down here, drop me a line.    Woohoo!

Great conversation.  I should bitch more often!! hahaha

JJ over and out.