I agree ElleWoods, but when I posted my response it was to Sedona's message. Washing only helps prevent urinary tract infections (and not always). If someone thinks he/she has an STD it's time to go to the physician. Why take chances? We all need to cover up.
Hugs,
Ciara
I'd appreciate any helpful suggestions or words of reassurance from people who have some knowledge of the matter.
I saw a provider around three weeks ago, used a cap for the main act but had a BBBJ. My regular partner has, since then, developed what seems to be a UTI (urinary tract infection). I'm hoping to god that this isn't really an STD that I gave her. I guess I pretty much thought I was safe since I used a cap. Was I?
Can you give someone a UTI? Is it a STD?
I have no symptoms at all, but got a urine test anyway. Would it turn up a STD? Will *her* urine test turn this up? Of course I'll have to level with her if this is a STD, but I'm hoping sincerely that this is a coincidence.
Thoughts? Advice?
Of course, at this point, there is no guarantee. However, it think it is likely that all is okay. I have been in this exact same situation. A woman can get a UTI for a variety of reasons, some to do with intercourse, some with nothing to do with a partner at all. I would guess that she just has a UTI for some old reasons, and that you haven't contracted/passed on anything, as long as you were honest in your thread and you were protected during intercourse. Unless you had a cut on your penis, almost anything she would have would have a small chance of "taking" onto you.
Many tests done for STD's have to be for that specific STD, so your health provider should have told you what you were being tested for. If something is there, it will show up in both of you, but if it is, it would be chlamydia first, as it is the most common STD.
Good luck!
Have you asked her how often she gets them? It's the number one reason that a woman goes to the doctor - so, very common. My guess is she takes baths frequently vs. showering (as do I) but uses bubble baths and fancy foo-foo stuff which can easily cause infection. If she does, have her use more 'natural' products.
Frequent sex can actually cause UTI's, particularly when we don't empty the bladder before, during (if needed) and after, or 'between' the 'next round'.
But, most importantly, it's how the woman wipes after using the restroom that reduces the occurrences. MUST wipe front to back, always.
I will just keep telling myself "Women are mystical being that never go to the bathroom, never break wind, and are always fresh as a daisy!" It will be alright...It will be alright....It will be alright....It will be alright.....[fade to fetal position]
but we still have to do things correctly in the bathroom!
Hey, sorry, I'm a straight shooter, and if I think it's important I'm gonna say it! LOL
Wow, if that one got to you, glad we weren't talking about periods..
I agree with you, Sedona. Women get these infections through several means -- one is definitely sex. Other reasons could be: not drinking enough water, eating too many things that counteract with the body's normal functions - like vinegar and salt, holding it too long before bathroom breaks, wiping afterward incorrectly (like you mentioned), not getting the right vitamins/nutrients, men whose hands are not clean or other parts (but I always use protection there), and lots more. It is important for women to be clean and to go to the bathroom before and after a session. Showering or at least toweling with very warm water and soap should be incorporated into the regime after a session. Don't wait until you get home to scrub, if possible. Sorry guys, but it's factual. We all need to know more about each other's bodies -- it's healthier and less disconcerting.
Hugs & kisses,
Ciara
Don't worry about it. This common for almost all women. FYI if you were to get an STD and pass it to an SO as far as I know the test out there today cannot tell where it came from. As in who got it first. DENY DENY DENY.
XOXO Charis
You could play it off and pretend to believe you had gotten it from her. If she's been faithful she'll know your lying, but you were busted in the first place right. At least by denying it she might wonder if there was some unknown cause or she can't tell her divorce attorney he admitted it. What do you think?
XOXO Charis
you have a great future ahead of you in the federal government, Charis. Deny everything... out funking standing! Just like "The X-Files". Between that and your heavenly backside (proof of God if I ever saw it), you could go far in Washington, baby! :P
In the usual course of disease, if you had contracted an STD from the BBBJ (which is very UNlikely, but not impossible), then you would have developed symptoms yourself--like a discharge and painful urination.
Unfortunately, the urine test you took will not show an STD like chlamydia or gonorrhea. Doctors need a little internal swab for those.
For peace of mind, you should quietly go to a doctor and have the STD testing done. I bet you'll be fine, but then you will know for sure and have complete peace of mind.
Thanks to all of you who have so quickly responded. This is really a wonderful community--which I didn't, in all honesty, expect. I'm getting a test specifically for STDs and will hope and pray for a negative response. I'll let you all know.
I learned the hard way that a urine test is NOT the way to diagnose an STD. Like you, my provider gave me a BBBJ followed by covered sex. Two weeks later my cock was tingling like hell and, yes, I had had unprotected sex one time with my SO in the meantime. I went to see a doctor that supposedly ran an STD clinic. He took a urine sample, said I had pus in the urine; based on that he diagnosed me as having gonorrhea or chlamydia and gave me a couple of antibitics. I was sick with worry over whether I had infected my SO.
The tingling goes away, I figure that I'm cured, and again have sex with my SO. Damn, the tingling reappears. Now I'm sure I've infected her, and now I'm really worried. This time I skip the quack and go to a well-respected urologist. It's embarrassing as hell to explain all this but I do. He takes the swab tests (not pleasant having a q-tip stuck up your cock), and also checks my prostate. The result: no STD (he doubts that I ever had an STD), but I do have a non-STD prostate infection that he thinks I had long before I saw the provider. Different antibiotics this time, and the problem is solved. He also recommends that I either (1) don't get BBBJ's if I'm going to worry about infections this much (he says STD's via BBBJ are possible but not common), or (2) see a shrink to get over my phobia.
for your peace of mind get an STD screening
If someone has a partner, why take a chance on BBBJ??? and put yourself thru this agony?? Lets all play safe and keep this community healthy. Just my .02.
and providers should only be mixed with a cap on, women are very sensitive to other outside bacteria and it can travel into your uretha and you can cause your SO to contract some bacterial infections but the man will have no symptoms.
Washing does not help. Think about Provider having done BBJ on others transmitts bacteria to you also, or just the bacteria in her mouth which is foreign to your SO can be the culprit.
I had a SO transmit bacteria to me this way also a long time ago
I agree ElleWoods, but when I posted my response it was to Sedona's message. Washing only helps prevent urinary tract infections (and not always). If someone thinks he/she has an STD it's time to go to the physician. Why take chances? We all need to cover up.
Hugs,
Ciara
Just in case anyone is still reading this thread: I got my STD tests back to day: NEGATIVE. Thanks again to all who gave words of encouragement and also to those who gave me a little kick in the ass for being careless.
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