First time posting on this board,just wanting some insight on some experiences and some ideas what to do next.

I have been going to a particular strip bar I would say once every 2-3 months, say for 1 year.  My friends and I usually stay for 4-5 hours or on the rare occasion until the place closes.  There is this stripper that hangs with me through out the whole time.  Usually we talk for about 1hr and I get like 3-4 dances and then we would talk for the rest of the night usually 3-5hrs till I leave. She does not even ask any other guy for a dance she just stays with me. She is the only stripper I get dances with.  In the beginning I did tell her that she doesn't have to sit next to me, since she is working their for the money.  There are usually 15-20 other guys in the club.  But she donesn't mind doing it.  We have talked about her family, goals, etc etc.  I have asked her for her tel. number twice with no success.  While my other friend has gotten a telephone # and a date with 3 other stripper usually on the 1st day he meet them.

Majority of my friends who have gone to strip joints longer then I, have said that what this stripper is doing is not normal.  They have never experience or seen a stripper like this that only gets like 3-4 dances at most and spend so much time with a particular patron.  One friend says that its "normal and not normal", he has not experience or seen something like this but at the same time says that who else is she going to hang out with a stranger or a person she knows and has fun with.

Any ideas what to do next, it would be nice to get at least one date with her.  I have lucked out 2 so far in getting her #.   Or should I just drop that idea and just keep reminding my self thats a stripper joint is their for one thing a man's fantasy.

thx

You have asked for her contact # and she has declined.  It's time to move on -- if you want to continue to talk with her at the club and you have fun in doing so, sounds good to me.  But, be content that the relationship ends there.

-Hoot.

I tend to agree with the guy who told you to move on.  There really is nothing magical about strippers as they date men they like and have boyfriends like any other woman.  

A lot of ladies never feel comfortable with the fact that they have to hussle guys for money.  If her budget at the time says she can survive by making about $150 between stage and lap dances that night, she may not want to go out and hussle other guys for money.

If this lady hasn't given you her number by now, she probably won't.  You can try to change your behaviour by going to see her by yourself a little more frequently but it may be a lost cause.

in some ways, the minds of strippers are more conflicted and tortured than most providers'. they "straddle the fence" between love/sex/friendship in a peculiarly uncomfortable stance (pun intended). in that respect, they're more confused (or worse: deceitful) than civilians (or providers for that matter)

it's a well known urban-myth type saying that goes (i'm paraphrasing) that providers actually like their job, but strippers don't (and suffer great pain cuz of it). more often than not, strippers are real "man-haters" who have nothing but contempt and disgust for men (although it never stops them from smiling, chatting you up and walking away with your money)

no particular offense to your young lady friend. who knows?  she may be the exception that *proves* the rule!

It is unclear whether she eventually gave you her tel# or not.
"I have lucked out 2 so far in getting her #."
Did you mean "struck out twice"?
Or, lucked out and got the tel# you just said you did not get?
Doesn't matter. It might be a wrong number, like the vet's clinic number for a joke. Or a shrink's office as a hint.

Best thing ever happened to me in this town was when the manager of my fave strip club tossed me out 'cause he thought I was boinking his favorite strippers. I should be so lucky.
I found many other pleasures and interests for my spare time.
Going to strip clubs was a bad and expensive addiction, that surely causes brain atrophy.
The secondary smoke is enough to kill a horse.
Your money is far better spent occasionally on carefully selected escorts who meet your specific interests and needs.
Your time is better spent on doing almost anything else other than sitting in a smoky strip bar with a babe who will not go out with you, much less down on you.
Find some interesting worthwhile leisure time activities.
We live a very long time. Strippers and dumb ball games can get boring and meaningless very fast.

makes you wonder what she does the other 360 days of the year you are not around.  Doesn't sound like this is going to happen for you and you need to ask if you are content as things are.  You could go more often or give her your telephone number but odds are she is happy as things are and is looking for anything different with you.

plenty of fish in the sea

Thz for the responses, I'm not going to beat myself trying to get a telephone #.  I enjoy her time and she has no qualms with me if the relationship changes all the better if not no big loss.

thx

I've known strippers for a long time and there's a saying that they live by " You'll get f*cked at a strip bar but will not get laid".   Just move on.

I would reflect on how much time and money you have invested with this lady then calculate how many sure things you have passed up economically by not spending the money on a true GFE quality escort.
If you are looking for GF or just GFE quality sex you are not going to get the mileage one gets with a GFE in a strip joint.
Sure you can get lucky, Lord knows I have a couple of times but those instances are rare indeed.
But if you are looking to just sit and talk and spend cash for low mileage companionship, you are in the right place.
I guess you just need to ask yourself what you are looking for.
Is this the game you have chosen to play?  or is it something else?

Happy Hunting

--Marty

If she's a stripper, and she wanted you...it would have happened.  Anyone who takes their clothes off for a living is not going to be shy about taking what she wants.

Some of them are uncomfortable with the hussle.  And your friendship with her in the club may also reinforce her being OK with even being there.  She may actually feed off the positive aspects of your friendship - the old "I'm OK, you're OK" thing, even though she's being given a guilt trip by the outside world.  You may be doing her a favor by "pushing" her out into the crowd to hussle her way around.  She'll make more money and you'll have a chance to have some fair game come strolling by.