not only is "Assbusty" a rip off, but an "Asshole" to boot....

sorry to hear you got ripped off... that just aint right...


the reason he was able to cancel his payment.. is because you didnt 'claim' it... you received notice (via email?) that the money was sent.. but until you log in to paypal and claim it.. its doesnt transfer to your account...

you can still use paypal if you want the cc option for your clients... just make sure you handle it responsibly...

some tips for using paypal..

1.. become a verified member... take the time to go through the motions of verifying your email address and bank account...
2.. always 'claim' or 'accept' payments and verify that it has credited to your paypal account...
3.. or set up in your preferences to automatically accept payments...
4.. don't accept payments via a checking account.. it can take up to 5 days for the transaction to clear and during that time the sender can 'stop payment'... (unless of course the payment is made far in advance)

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Cancelling a Payment

Q. Can I cancel a payment that I've already sent to someone?

A. You may only cancel a payment if the Status of the payment is Unclaimed and/or the recipient has not yet signed up for PayPal and collected the money.(If your payment is Completed and you want to request a refund, please contact the recipient of the payment.)

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It takes 7 days to clear and this way if their is any questions etc. I know about it prior to our meeting.
Robyn I feel your pain I am sorry this happen to you and thank you for having the courage to post it on this board. Letting all of us know.
I hope your week gets better..................on a postive note think of all the fun we are going to have in the Vegas Mixer in just a few weeks.......This should put a big smile on your face......if not I promise I will put a big smile on your face!
Kisses & Licks........
Mara

Robyn,  So sorry that happened to you.  I'm sure you feel pretty taken advantage of, but it's only a reflection of him, not you...but I'm sure you know that.

I find that in all of life, 90% of the people are just fabulous, quality people, and, there's 10% in anything that pretty much sucks.  That's just life.  

If it makes you feel any better, I once drove all the way to the valley (over an hour with traffic) only to find that my lady wasn't home, didn't answer her phone, and had a full voice mailbox.  Back home I headed.  This, after I showered, dressed, and looked forward to her all day.  Ever try driving with a raging hard-on?!!  Hey, at least you got to have sex LOL.  I feel your pain, and I'm sorry.  Rock on, Robyn.

The guy is obviously a jerk and deserves what he gets but I was shocked to read that you posted his real name.  I'm torn about that because as I said, he deserves what he gets - I've always said "there is no such thing as a free ride," but still a little taken aback that you would post his real name in this forum.

Silky, I wish you all the best in the world and I'm sure you are a great provider and a classy woman but I'd have to think long and hard before seeing you, or any provider for that matter that posted a real name.  Again, I'm not saying you weren't justified but it still freaked me out.

As to the PayPal paper trail - I'm in law school studying privacy issues and can tell you that the information used by PayPal can easily be traced (with a warrant) by law enforcement if they were investigating you.  As others have suggested, use Western Union instead - no one has to use a real name to send or collect.  This is just my opinion not legal advice.

Best of luck to you.