Keep in mind, however, that there was no effort made by police or the media to keep her name or occupation out of the paper and the court records...
Yes, they busted the little punks...but, yes, she was exposed.
As much as I hate to see anyone get away with something like this, there is a real risk to official or "unofficial" retribution..
One of my close friends during her visit to one of the cities was almost assaulted by a client, he was trying to make her do certain things and she refused so he started to get rough, she was too scared to do anything about it then and just ask the guy to leave, but what can she do about it now?
she has his cell# and name.
I once had a guy who gave me fake 20's and I reported him to Secret service and they didnt care about my profession and I think they got the guy but this is a different issue and she is afraid to go to the police ,p s she isn't at the same city as this guy..
I wanted to know your opinions on this...She really wants to do something about it and I am encouraging her to do so but first I wanted to make sure if she won't be in any kind of trouble after reporting the incident.(once they know she is an escort)
I am sick and tired of hearing some idiots mistreating escorts and ruining it for others so I think we all should do something about these guys instead of just "letting it go" and "learning our lession from it"...What do you think?
One of the providers that I see a lot just recently had a run in with a guy like that. He bruised her up pretty badly. She didn't do anything for fear she'd get in trouble.
But I have a friend who is an officer, and he has actually has seen a few providers, and doesn't think what you girls do is a crime at all, so I'll ask him, and get back to you about what she should do.
I'm fascinated by your response! And I would love to know the outcome of your conversation with your friend!
I will also PM your further..
Sedona
Unfortunately, unless she is willing to admit what she was doing at the time, it is highly doubtful the police will even take the report, let alone the States Atty's office filing charges. The guys attorney would demand that charges be filed against your friend for prostitution if they did. That leaves her with several options.
a)File a police report without pressing charges, while he may get away with this one, if he assaults someone down the road, her police report shows he has a propensity towards assault hence he may get a harsher sentence.
b)she has his phone number and name? Make his life a living hell. Call his wife, employer, etc. Revenge is sometimes as sweet as justice.
c) do nothing, but use it as a learning experience and thank god she wasnt seriously hurt.
some guys are crazy enough if you threaten their marriage or job to escalate further. If he gets more violent, there is no satifaction to filing a police report from intensive care.
By the way, if you told the police he picked you up say at a bar, then it's his word vs. yours whether he paid you or whether he just tried to rape you. He would at least have to go through the hassle of an interrogation and who kows he might have a record of such behavior. Then you don't really know what the law will choose to do.
Sorry for the length of this. There are a number of points I want to cover. I'm really sorry to hear about this but, unfortunately, it does happen occassionally.
The only way I can see anything working at this point is if the guy is married. That would severely limit his options. Might not be so enthusiastic about using the "she's a hooker so who cares" defense. He might even cop a plea just to get the whole thing over with quickly.
The downside is
1) She has to go back to the city where it happened.
2) The police may or may not take action. I don't think she's in any danger of arrest herself (but she should consult a lawyer on that).
3) If it does go to trial she should be prepared for her entire life to be raked over in court.
I'm not sure what you mean by "almost" assaulted. If the guy didn't actually attack her, and left when requested, then no matter how traumitic it might have been I don't think it amounts to much legally.
Is there a provider-only board where she can "out" the guy explicitly? That would certainly be helpful. I'd be in favor of outing him here on TER but it's probably against policy.
Finally, your friend (and every provider for that matter) should decide in advance what to do in the event of any similar incident. Whatever action is taken, the sooner it's taken the more effective it will be.
Leila,
Not long ago there was an abusive man in Boston that beat quite a few providers before someone decided to speak up. Eventually several women complained and they went back to video survalence in the hotels to ID the guy.
This only works however if you speak up. Unless someone speaks up there is a chance that a sister will end up dead.
Sorry this happened to your friend, but she should add his info to the bad client list, if there is one in the city where he lives in or where it had happen. And let it be learning experience. Let her Post to the providers in that city to email her and have her email his inform to them so they are aware of what happen. Don't call HIS wife or job he might get so angry that she might regret doing so.
Good luck to your friend
post all details on providers only boards, and also post the non personal details on the TER regional board where this happened to warn the other ladies. Tell them to PM you if they want his name and #.
Several months ago outside Washington in the MD suburbs a provider was beaten up by two teenagers who approched her saying they wanted to make a porn movie. The girl was badly beaten and she reported the occurence to the Montgomery Cty police. Well, there is justice as these hoodlums were found, prosecuted, and I think are in jail. LE didnt really care what the circumstances with the girl were. Your friend should follow her heart on this. Best of luck to you both.
Keep in mind, however, that there was no effort made by police or the media to keep her name or occupation out of the paper and the court records...
Yes, they busted the little punks...but, yes, she was exposed.
As much as I hate to see anyone get away with something like this, there is a real risk to official or "unofficial" retribution..
you seem like a great friend.
I have had a bad experience before with a client
and went to the police NOT LE
as a rape victim her name will be protected and kept private
the police are also very sensitive to the fact that hookers too can be raped and they treat the case with just as much importance as they would another rape case
someone being made to have sex or perform sexual acts against their will, or from fear and intimidation(as in your friends case) is considered rape
good luck
I will pass all of these sugesstions on to her and at the end she should decide what to do about it.Meanwhile I will try to expose this guy on the boards so at least other ladies will avoid seeing him.Even if I can stop it from happening to one more girl it'll be well worth the effort. xoxo Leila