Do you feel that seeing providers, has made you a better lover?

If so, in what ways?


Just curious to know, as most providers are very good teachers


Thanks,
Miss Kelly

I'd like to think it has, but i feel i still need alot of practice........ ladys???? any takers??? LOL.

But seriously, I don't know if it's made me a better lover or not. What it has done is make me much more relaxed and comfortable with who i am and who i am not in the bedroom and really helped in my ability to communicate likes/dislikes without being embarrassed to do so.

But the best part is that it has allowed me to experience the pleasure of giving pleasure to someone. Not necessarily thru the act itself, but all the foreplay and other things that make the evening complete. I love to ask a woman what drives her over the edge and then, assuming she will honestly answer, attempt to take her to that point. A good "coach" so to speak really helps in this area. That's something that was not really allowed when i was married. Sex was one of those lights off type of acts then, and i really didn't like it that way.

For me, being able to give someone pleasure in that situation is most times more important and fullfilling then my own physical pleasure.  

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posted 2/29/04 11:37 pm EST

Great question Kel,  At age 57, I'm still a newbie.  Six one hour visits In six months.  Four different ladies.  Repeated with two of them.

I pointedly asked each of them to tell me what I could do to make it better for them, usually when my face was between their legs.  No real response.                                      

Two of them seem so responsive to everything that it seems a bit unrealistic.  When I commented to them that I couldn't read what she liked best, I got "I like it all."

One hour sessions don't seem to me to be long enough to learn much about a partner's preferences, unless she is willing to verbalize them.  

I'm hoping to meet someone soon whom I like enough to repeat with often, and develope more of a physical rapport.  Longer sessions would help, too, but I have to choose between once a month or once every two months.

Absolutely! I believe in any endeavor in which you have an interest, practise makes perfect. And paractice, and self confidence will make anyone a better lover as long as they pay attention.

I'm a lousy lay.  On the bright side, I don't take up too much time.

"Do you feel that seeing providers, has made you a better lover?"

Nah. Just call it natural talent.

(Me? Conceited. Mais non!)

Actually, if anything helped/taught/provided a guide, it was porn movies. The lessons I learned from John Leslie have stood me well.

--b.

I'm not any more skilled than I was, but I'm much more confident.  

But give me some more time with my favorite lady.  

Yoda

I want to get an hour if I paid for an hour. If I didn't devote at least two thirds of the session to trying to satisfy my lady of the moment, I'd be gone in ten minutes.
It's a hell of a lot more enjoyable for me if I can make it more
enjoyable for her. Just because I'm paying her doesn't mean it's supposed to be work.

The truthful answer is I don't know. My experiences are similar to Tator's. The ladies I've seen either are much easier to please than civilians or they're very good actresses. Don't ask me which.

Kellie,
I think so but much of that is based on info I have learned here and other boards. Like most who responded to your question, I really want to improve in an effort to make my time with the provider as pleasurable as I can for both of us. Part of it is selfish as I figure if she is having a good time I will too. But I truly like bringing pleasure to my partner and hope I can continue to learn new things toward that end. By the way Kellie, I'll always remember our time here in DC. Hope your well Sweetie!

I wish I could tell you that I learned some new technique or that I have developed to the point I can wear the letter S on my chest, but the fact is, most ladies that I have met are not there to teach, but to maybe have a good time and definitely get paid.

Yes, on a few occasions it has helped me feel like a man again and I have also learned that I have some skills that are applicable to more than one woman. At times it has also served as an alternative addiction.

I think more importantly it has opened up my eyes to eroticism and women. I have to say I am more confused about the mysteries of the female brain today than before I started.

Maybe someday I will schedule an overnight or an extended tour with several of you ladies and let you teach me everything I need to know.

Being an older gentleman who has been "around the block" a few times, I would have to say "No" to your question. Interestingly, since so many of the providers are relatively young and haven't been in the business for an especially long period of time, I often find that I have a little more knowledge than they. It is often quite amusing in conversation during an appointment to have a provider say something like, "Tell me what you want and I will do it!" My response is always, "Tell me what you know and I will select the suggestion that I am not familiar with yet!"

First, it goes without saying that the more women a fellow has sex with, the better lover he becomes, based on the principle that every woman is different (in subtle ways) in terms of what really turns them on, gets them off, etc.

Secondly, since the provider relationship does not have any of the drama of the "outside the hobby" relationships, the communication about what feels good (or otherwise) can flow freely. If a fellow is a good listener, he can learn a thing or two.

Having said that, I have so much to learn that I think I will continue to see providers for a long, long time.

Especially with respect to foreplay/DATY.  I've met women who either require longer periods of attention, or who can withstand longer periods of attention (I'm a bit of a sadist in that regard, and like to keep on licking as long as you keep on squirming , and both have helped with learning how to improve technique.

A Big Thank You, to all that replied (eom)

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