I took a que from the post below to the guys and figured I would throw one out there to the ladies.

Question: Do you think its possible to have a normal relationship with a guy while working in the adult entertainment business?

I was in a relationship with a provider. The funny thing about it was my biggest worry was for her safety, not the actual act of her being with other guys. We were very open with each other and she explained to me the aspects of her work and that it was strictly business etc. This was her economic security and I will give her credit she handled her business well.

The part that drove us apart is that this job is very unpredictable for the ladies. Guys, we may work a normal 9 to 5. We know what our schedule is but the ladies don't. They are on call for various hours of the day. So it would be frustrating when I wanted to come over or do something or spend time and was told no due to the fact that she had a client appointment. This would be fine if the appointment was made before we decided to spend time together, but she was rescheduling OUR time to work. Its hard to come in second to a person's job. To be honest, I wasn't jealous but more so upset that we, our relationship was not seen as a priority. She would have posted work hours, and days, but if a client called and wanted a visit outside those parameter's, and if it was a slow week, she would take the appointment.

Part of me still loves her very much. In her way I know she loves me still. We still communicate often and didn't leave on bad terms. Its just she couldn't give me what I felt we needed if we were to take this seriously.

Ladies was I truly off base? Do you face the same problems or similar situations? Was I being unreasonable, and if so, how could I make it work?

What you explained is how it was for myself.  I no longer have this significant other due to my work.  This is a tuff area to try to have a relationship going on.  For now I will remain a free spirit and enjoy the company of you wonderful TER gentlemen.

As with any relationship, no matter what the terms or the circumstance, if the relationship is not one of growth and progress, it's time to re-evaluate and make adjustments or terminate it all together.  So to answer your question, you did what you felt you had to do and there's nothing wrong with that.

I met a guy about 6 years ago when I first began dabbling in this business. I told him what I did. I didn't want to lie and in doing so gave him the option to continue with the relationship or walk away. He chose to stay. We lasted about a year and in the last few months I could feel the strain. He tried to keep it out of his mind but couldn't, he eventually became bitter and resentful. He told me that even though I told him the truth, he had no idea how much it would bother him down the road. At that point he just let it all out. It was a roller coaster of emotions that I wouldn't wish on anyone. He would think about my dates with these other men and try to be open minded but the bottom line was that his girlfriend was not just his. No matter how many times I told him that I loved no one but him and that it was just work, it didn't matter. In retrospect, he was right.  I think that many men, within their right, want the woman they are with to be with them only. And it's bad enough when they are cheated on with the guy at their job or some other man they meet in the casual world. But when it's a scheduled thing, and compensated, it's almost like planned and negotiated infidelity in their eyes. And there are some men who are fine with it, which is great, because even us working girls want and ache to be in a nurturing and loving relationship. But monogamy and escorting do not go hand in hand, IMHO.

After what happened with "Peter", I vowed never to enter into an exclusive relationship with anyone while I worked. And as funny as this sounds, I couldn't be with a man who accepted my work either. I wouldn't accept it if the tables were turned...lol!

I have not even tried to be in a  exclusive realtionship. I have been divorced for 2 years and the only exposure I have to the opposite sex is my clients. I have not even tried to see if a relationship would work, I do not think I could do both at the same time one of the two would fail. Either the "biz" or the relationship. I would not like it if the wheels were turned either.
Not having a partner is difficult however all I want in my life is for it not to be complicated and avoiding a exclusive realtionship seems to be working.
Kisses & Licks..........
Mara

It never ceases to amaze me that woman in this business have a boyfriend.  I have personally  given up the business for someone i met working.  I gave it up happily because I knew someone really cared about me and did not want to share me with the masses and I took that as the highest form of compliment.  This of course was a previous relationship we are no longer a couple but are still and always will be best friends but even more we call each other our first choice in a family.  In other words if you could choose who was in your family we would be each others first choice.  I just could never be with a guy who would let me do this for a living.  To me it just says he doesn't care or he needs your money or he's some weird wolf who gets off on the thought of you being with other men.  I realize I am the exception to the rule and that most working girls have relationships or boyfriends that they appreciate but not enough to give up the business.  I just am too sensitive and emotional to be able to separate the two.  So for me working and having a relationship just would make me feel bad about myself and my relationship.  But if I met someone I really liked I wouldn't hesitate for a second to give up the business if he asked me to.  I couldn't wait to give up the business in those circumstances,