Are there providers who maintain typical relationships (boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife)?  If so, is it really possible to provide services in a "strictly business" manner and then go home and be intimate with your significant other? In other words, is it possible to separate the emotional, physical, mental aspects of sex?  Or, is sex just sex not matter how you look at it?  Just curious...my girlfriend just told me she wants to go into the "business".

Yes. Matter of fact, MOST of us do. My closest friend is a provider and is married; I have a 'boyfriend' who was my main encourager.
Absolutely. Matter of fact, she and I talk all the time how after an appointment, we can't wait to be with our SO's - we're immediately so hot after a date! My guy gets very turned on and he knows what he's in for! It's very erotic, and fortunately, it is for them (mine and hers), too.

Warmest,
Sedona

Sure, it's possible to have a permanent relationship while working in this business.  I think there might be individuals who aren't capable of sustaining one, but in the same way that there are in the general population.  

-Anya

...that a woman never wants it quite so much as when she's just had it.

Haz

Ok, I am married. My husband is 16 years older than me. I am the sex demon (I can have it 5 times a day everyday, no problem.) He is not real sexual at all.
My relationship with him is different from my clients. And my relationships with clients vary.
I also "see" on my clients once a week. He is my boy toy. (We both know what it is. I am leaving my hubby and he will continue to be single.)
To answer that question can I separate the emotional/physical parts..yes..  Very simply for me, my personality is to put a wall up around me. I have been like that since I was a kid. I hate getting emotionally attached to anyone. (Yes even with my man, I have a hard time.)
Geez..I need a therapist.

Philadelphia's Tattooed Escort

I'm HJ only. my husband doesn't like it of course but it is necessary for us while I'm in school. I have no trouble differentiating between a handjob for a stranger on a massage table and having sex with my husband! many of the legit massage therapists I know will give handjobs at least occasionally and most of them are married. I know a bunch of married strippers too. I don't know any married escorts personally but I'm sure there are some.

As a Therapist, I specialize in "Intimacy". What you are experiencing is not unique to our profession. I see people that have developed addictions, which is their natural way of "Self Medicating" for the lack of intimacy in their lives. In our society, we are taught to "watch your back", "look out for #1" and everyone is out to get us. We build up protective walls that separate us from any chance of intimacy. No one wants to appear vulnerable, or weak. We live years without speaking to our neighbors and co-workers. We shop defensively, we drive aggressively and go through life looking through a straw. There are many good "Cognitive" Therapists, who can help you get that "Panaramic" view of life....... As for "normal" relationships, in this profession, or any other, The bottom line is HONESTY...Life is all about choices, If one partner doesn't have all the information, they can't make an educated choice. But if after receiving all the info, a SO, still decides to stick with you, then the relationship can be liberating. For myself, I have chosen not to deal with a relationship, unless I find someone who is as secure with who they are as I am...As a Provider, I can be very intimidating to the average male...Too much work, trying to deal with all that baggage . I look at relationships, a little differently than most. I believe it shouldn't be work, but should come together like pieces of a puzzle. If it's work, it's like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole...A lesson in futility...Way to much wasted energy, beating a dead horse....IMO...Robyn

I am not in a relationship, but, yes, there are a wealth of ladies that have relationships.  I think it takes a strong man to deal with it though.  There is a great difference between lovemaking and pure physical sex IMHO.  There is no comparison.  Both parties need to be able to differentiate between the two.

I am concerned about your girlfriend though.  I do hope that she has an idea of what she is getting herself into.  There is the wonderful side of the biz and then there is the not so wonderful.  That negative aspect is what I believe may tax your relationship.  You will have to be very supportive of her in those times.

Behind the scenes there is a great deal of time spent in emails, calls, demands of her time and takes far more time than you or her may imagine.  It is important that you set ground rules that both of you can live with for both of your sanity.

It is one of the reasons that I do not publish my number and initial contact is done through email.  I have a full time business aside from this and it was getting quite disruptive trying to conduct other business with the phone ringing off the hook and quite annoying to have calls coming in at ungodly hours of the night.  I had to come up with a system that would work for me in that regard.  My number is not given out until screening is set.  The flux of calls are much more manageable now.  It is just one example of what both of you have to consider in making sure that your personal time is not invaded.

Good Luck to the Both of you.

Lauren

I am married and do SFBM only and have a variety of emotions on the subject....It can be difficult on the realationship, trust is a huge issue...It is in my opinion that one has to distance themselves to a certain degree to be involved and work in this business. I enjoy the majority of the people I meet but the ones that try to push me to cross my limits affect me ...As humans, we are not meant to treat our bodies as machines, so "shutting" to a certain extent is important to keep "work" and personal seperate...I associate certain activies as being very personal and those activites are meant to enjoy with my partner only.

As far as your girlfriend getting into  this line of work...she may be treading on dangerous territory! It has many perks but the downside has ruined alot of people's lives...and being involved with someone who is a provider can be difficult as well...

The money and freedom are wonderful but working in an industry where one is valued for looks, figure and youth can be a hard pill to swallow.

providers and not have it detract from my real relationship? Swingers can also do it. Emotional attachment is different from physical pleasure. Unfortunately, most people don't understand that. Hell, some women get "hurt" if you like the restaurants meat loaf better than theirs. Doesn't mean I'm going to go live in the restaurant.

I had been in several relationships and almost married, prior to becoming a Provider.  Once I became a courtesan, I thought that I would never find a SO that could deal with what I do yet not have an ulterior motive.  Ironically, the relationship that I have found and have been involved in for over a year, is the best one that I have ever been in.  I find that it is more than a romantic love, but an extremely close friendship, a mutual trust and respect, and extraordinary sexual intimacy.  My boyfriend has known about my profession from day one.  He has times of jealousy, but he also enjoys the freedom our relationship has.  We have discovered a love that is without limits and is all about complete freedom, not restriction..... It's the best understanding of love that I have ever had...

For me personally...business is business,and in no way affects my reltionship at home. I have been in my current relationship for almost 9yrs. I'm still able to come home and be affectionate and imtimate with my boyfriend,no problems what so ever. The only problem that I currently have with my boyfriend that he doesn't "give-it up" as much as I would like him to....thus the reason that I got into this business...it keeps me very well-balanced

... anyone else.  Some are good relationships, some are bad.  Certain jobs put an additional strain on relationships.  Providing is definitely one of them.

Personally, I wouldn't encourage her to get into it if I was looking forward to a future with her.  Try to imagine some of the scenarios you will both encounter.  My two cents.

I say amen to that...I couldn't have put it better myself....!!!  A smart woman will try to get the recipe...!! *wink   Kiss Kiss, Robyn

I agree, It added more exploring and intimacy.  But the jealousy and the lonely times for him was hard on our relationship.

Until then,

Mystic_Traveler