Ok, just tried contacting someone to setup an appointment. I thought she had an assistant who helped setup appointments, but the girl, herself, answered. Being really nervous, I mentioned that I wanted to setup some time with her. She said, "Who are you? You don't even introduce yourself?" I apologized, gave my name and she asked where my phone number was from (since it's a cell). I said the town and she replied with, "Do you know where I am?" I told her the town that I read about, then she asked, "Where at though [in that town]?" I said, "Well, I don't know." She promptly replied with, "Goodbye" and hung up. Again, being nervous, I didn't think to introduce myself or what to say, up front, but apparently, I've burned that bridge. Just wondering on some advice since I don't normally setup time over the phone initially, usually emails first.
You're probably better off going back to emails until you get more comfortable with phone calls as your first contact with her.It will allow you to take your time to think about what you want to say and also how to say it.Keep in mind though,that you'll probably have to set up the appt.over the phone eventually.She probably could've been a little more cordial to you,but providers tend to get a lot of BS callers which prompts them to usually have very little tolerance for guys without their game faces on so to speak.And relax guy! This is supposed to be fun!
sounds like one of two scenarios... first, she's a bitch or you caught her in a bitchy mood and your nervousness got on her nerves and/or thought you were LE. Second, you missed the fact that she prefers initial contact by email and it was apparent you were not an established client. I normally email a provider the first time unless I'm looking for same-day service.
My guess is she's either always a bitch or was in a bitchy mood; either way, you're better off you didn't go with her, especially if you're a beginner.
It's true they do get a lot of b.s. calls and their tolerance and patience is low. But they also blow off a lot of business [no pun intended!] by being bitchy instead of being nice.
Here's what works for me: Hi, my name is ___, I just saw your ad at _____ and I think you look really really sexy! I was wondering if I might be able to set up an appointment to see you...
They might then ask what you look like or what you like to do, etc... Be honest and frank at this point if they ask. If they don't ask then don't tell unless you are looking for something specific.
Lay on the complements, and tell them you are clean and good looking, too, if you are; this helps them get an idea that you're not some scum bag... If you're experienced, you may want to mention that as well... or if you're not, you may want to tell them (some do not like first timers and others do)...
This is just a guess, but I'm wondering if perhaps on whatever website it was that you got her information on, she specifically stated her location, and was checking to see how much of her information you had read?
The one and only thing that irritates me when someone calls me directly is if they haven't read through the information I have already provided, causing me to have to answer questions on the phone that I've answered already on my website.
My suggestion would be to go back to her website and read through it if you haven't already. You may very well find the answer to why she was hostile. If that is the case, you may be able to salvage the situation by jotting off a polite e-mail acknowledging whatever faux pas you committed, advising her that you have seen the error of your ways now that you read her information on her site, and asking if you can contact her again.
Thanks to all for the helpful comments and suggestions. Guess I never really gave all the details, but I got this girl's info off eros and she doesn't have a website, only phone number. Since I'm more adept at emails as the introduction, I'll use AboutFun's suggestion and have a rought "script" of what I want to say next time. As some of you have said, she might've thought I was LE and my being nervous can make someone else jumpy, so it's understandable. Thanks again to all for the help. Next time will be MUCH different.
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