I had tried on several occassions to email providers asking for someone that I could become a regular with. Someone that become a friend with. What I am looking for is an experience that is not full of the fake moans and groans. Someone that could take out the time to find out what really makes me scream and would be willing to teach me how to satisfy her as well.

gotta sample the goods first prior to becoming a regular....

See as many providers as you want or can afford to find out with whom you click.

Then you can decide to put the effort into making that person a regular.

Be aware that having a regular, while it has its benefits, also has its downsides too such as developing unwanted emotional baggage.

Here's a metaphysical question to ponder also:

If the provider is so good that you can't tell whether her reactions are genuine or acting, does it matter?

I used to thing so, but now I don't let it bother me.

This biz is about hello and hello. You can't expect that the majority of ladies don't have lives, SOs, spouses, pimps, mothers. What you need is a real relationship. Most providers are not in this to find  "relationships." Find some thirty something with two kids and struggling. You'll likely find someone who can be sweet, loving, loyal, and just as horny as you.

There is is no way around the old meet-and-eat routine if you really want to develop any sort of friendship with anyone. In fact, I'd be wary of someone who told you that she was perfect for you via email.

I'm fairly new to the hobby, but my two cents, here.  The half dozen providers I have met have all been ones I would enjoy returning to (the value of great reviews by the rest of you!!), but I've only returned to one for "seconds".  All have given great, yet different (the wonders of femininity) experiences and I'm still happy sampling.  My advice would be to move on from email, connect with several of the great women out there, start your own sampling technique, and verify that you really do want a long term provider relationship. I bet if you spend more time, and stay with women with good reviews, you will enjoy this all the more.  Two cents, again....

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You need a girlfriend not a provider.  Providers are not generally looking to find 'Mr. Right' amongst their client base.  It's a business.

It does sound like you want a romantic relationship rather than a provider. Having said that, it is much easier (at least in my experience) if you don't mention this in your initial contact. Get to know many ladies, and you will find one that enjoys your company just as much as you enjoy hers. Then you can approach her with your idea. The whole idea of a provider-hobbiest relationship, IMHO, is to take the burden of expectations of commitment out of male-female interaction. Let it happen naturally.

I really want to thank all of you for your responses. I was really great hearing all of the points of view. I have been with a few providers and what I have experienced is what one person responded to a the "business". However, there has be one Non-full Service provider I found that showed a genuine nature. Since, we have been together she has allowed minor experiences past the non-full service limits, only because she knows I am sincere in my escape. She's a sweetheart. She has an SO. But tells me all the time she is glad she found a hobbyist that is nice. IMHO...  I found my regular provider... If any of you get the chance...  watch the movie called BLISS...(1997) starring Craig Sheffer and Sheryl Lee. I loved it