Ah, another oportunity for TER members to bash civilian relationships. This isn't what I think the original thread was about, but it always seems to go in this direction whenever civilian relationships are brought up. Man, do we have a lot of unhappy couples out there!
Look, people...no duh that providers are more fun to be with in the sack than spouses/girlfriends/ whatever. For the majority of providers, this is their means of living/putting themselves through school/giving them "financial independence"/ whatever. Would someone do a better job in their workplace if they knew they had to really impress their bosses every time they turned in a report or if they knew they had the job regardless of their performance (within reason) for life? Also, if you didn't have to see your wives/ whatever's for a few days/weeks/whatever in between each time you fucked, would you enjoy fucking your wife more, especially if you didn't have to talk about who was going to take out the trash, who was going to pickup the dogshit, and how you are going to pay the bills? Oh, and don't forget about if you could change your wife anytime you wanted to by just picking up the phone and calling a different one, ooh boy, getting it on with wifey #10 tonight sure would be hot, huh?
It amazes me that people talk about these scenarios like they are comparing apples and apples.
And I'm just getting started, people...now let's talk about Mr. Normal's issues.
Gee, I am shocked that 99% of women using personal ads are looking for long term relationships. I mean, if you are a woman, and you just want to get laid, and you aren't too particular about who with, maybe you wouldn't need to put out an ad? And maybe most adult women who are past the bar scene aren't interested in JUST getting laid in the first place? For some reason, I don't look at this as a bad thing.
I have been dating people through the personals for almost fourteen years. Personals didn't just happen recently. However, depending on where you work (as Sedona mentioned) and many other factors, people nowadays are much less likely to
find people to date than in ages past. The breakdown of social structure, more women working and being self-reliant, families being and option and not a necessity, and the broadening of workplace environments all contribute to it being hard to meet quaility eligible people. Since 1988, I have worked in places that women make up a small percentage of both the employees and the customers. So, there are few prospects there and few women there to introduce me to friends with. In addition, I have no family in the area, and prefer to have a few close friends to many acquaintances, so I adapted and met women through the personals. I have had great success with this.
I personally do not see the proliferation of Net dating sites and an increase in escort sites as being related, other than to show that there are a lot of lonely people out there. The Net just makes it esy to do a personals site, and they are highly profitable. As for the escort sites...
shhhh!!!! :P
I am a single man, and I meet providers because I am in between relationships. Even if I had the money to blow (so to speak) on providers regularly, though, I would have no interest in doing so if I was with the right woman, and I have been with a few that I felt this way with (and things unfortunately did not work out "forever" with them). I doubt that most "mature" single men would choose providers over being in a relationship, even if they had the money.
I have no idea how you concluded that as most women using Net personals look for LTR's, they can't get men interested in them. Most men who use Net personals are looking for LTR's as well. Additionally, there are more men than women in almost every personals organization out there, whether Net or not (at least until you get into the 50/up crowd). In general, most women PERIOD are interested in LTR's, as most don't need a "quick fix" like most men do.
Men's "discretionary funds" for excorts... bwahahahahahahaha. Aside from the legality issue, uh, if most of the men on here weren't hiding their activity from their SO's, there would be a lot of providers out of work. Don't count on this becoming accepted into general society anytime soon.
People on here are constantly talking about how bad civilian women are, both in terms of dating and in terms of their sexual performance. All I can say, guys, is that you are meeting the wrong women. I have dated a good number of women in the past fourteen years, and none of them have "played games" with me in a way that is unrelated to or worse than what men do to them in return. Part of the reason for this is that I am choosy about my partners. In addition, almost every one of them has rocked my world in bed, and several of them have done so better than any woman who I met for a couple of hours could, no matter how hot she was. Love takes you to a higher place, but you ve to give that type of love to get it in return.
Some guys mention that they have been turned down because of their appearance. Of course, no woman has EVER had that happen, right? Seriously, though...I am no prize myself, but I don't go looking for "hotties" to date, either. I stay in my range, and it works out. If you are heavy, or older, or short, or whatever, you may have to look for someone who has similar physical attributes to be "accepted" physically. If you don't like that, and you can change your physical state, then it is up to you.
The sad thing about all of this is that nowhere has anyone said the word LOVE. I am not even going to bother getting into that...but it is funy to see so many people discussing sex do to the minutae and not even think that love is something that exists or has a place in "reality". In my reality, if there isn't love, or the hope of love, what is the point?
Sad, sad, sad...I may be a romantic, but I somehow don't feel that I am the hopeless one.
By the way, you'll never catch me home on a Saturday night wondering why I'm single. I figured that out long ago.