Get a grip.
Many providers are like guys... They can separate sex from love. A woman (who happens to be a provider) can love you like Juliette loved Romeo, with true heart and to the death.... Yet she will be able to fuck with someone she is attracted to and feel nothing after the orgasms pass.
Trust? Be open and honest. Trust yourself and accept someone you've evolved feelings for as they are.... Of course if she is not taking care of you.... then See Ya...
People are people. Shit goes right, shit goes wrong....
I have had several-and sometimes they work out, sometimes they don't. But the ones that have not had absolutely nothing to do with their being providers but other issues that could happen in any relationship. I don't equate sexual exclusivity with love, when the level of commitment is defined by other factors other than just sexual monogamy-such as trust, honesty, a deep connection emotionally/spiritually-it actually makes me feel more secure. When I have dated providers it has not bothered me what they do for a living, I have had a lot of relationships with girls who were not providers where it was an open relationship,we were free to engage sexually with others so long as we were totally honest and safe about it. If both parties are in agreement sometimes this can actually work out better, but it takes a hell of a lot of work and communication for it to work; it's worth it though. I'd much rather date a provider than some girl I meet in a club, for a lot of reasons, one being that I prefer to date women who are comfortable with their sexuality. And the times it has worked out it has been pretty cool.
That being said, there are a lot of caveats. For one thing-a girl would have to show an sincere interest in me, the person without any ulterior motives (financial or otherwise) outside of the client/provider relationship. There has to be a connection that goes beyond the financial, even the in the moment passion of the sexual for me to even consider it. And she has to express her interest in something beyond business first (that does not involve finances-loans, buy me this or that, etc), I won't initate it. If she does, and the feeling is mutual, then I will.
And even if you do fall in love, let's say that you know it's not just about the money, or whatever, you're both single, the attraction is mutual and sincere; enjoy every moment of that. Because as with any relationship, whether you meet a girl at a club, or online, or the grocery store, or wherever, you never know how long it's going to last. Sometimes people meet (however they do) and it clicks and they spend the rest of their lives together. Other times people come into our lives and stay for a short while and then leave, leaving footprints on our heart that will always be there.
And sometimes they come back.
Life is short and real love is hard to find, I say wherever you find it, follow your heart. I have met providers who were a lot more real than women I met anywhere else. And every time a relationship has ended, it has had nothing to do with her work but totally unrelated issues.
