What are the rules for an erotic massage and what should I expect? Is it only the provider touching me? Can I touch her? If so, where? Will they provide oral? Sorry if this is a dumb question, but I didn't see it previously explained anywhere? Just want to follow etiquette and want to see if I am just better off with an escort.

Would you pick it from an orange tree ?

Many will allow you to touch their legs, butt, breasts, etc.  Far fewer will let your fingers roam inside them.  Same is true of oral: it's rare.  Best thing to do is check reviews.

I've come to expect a handjob and light kissing at the most on a good day. I only pay for these when I really need a good massage and not a GFE. Each massuese has her own rules of engagement so you'll have to ask before the clothes come off or just expect what I call a 'blue-ball special'

I've met several different ladies for sensual massage.  Two of them have turned into something much more.  In fact, one of them is very successful at both massage and escort in the Tampa area, and the other, well let's just say that I can't get to Atlanta enough.  Both started out as a massage.  After several visits, we agreed to go to the next step.  It doesn't always happen, but when it does, wow!  There's just something about getting more personal "service" from a sexy massage therapist that you've seen several times.  You wish to yourself that "if only she'd do more". Then it does, and you're hooked.

I haven't reviewed either of them at their suggestion.  The lady in Tampa, Heather, already has 2 pages of outstanding reviews.  As to the other, well that's for me to know and me to know.

Most, if not all ladies that do sensual massage will have certain rules.  Whether it's no fingers, no touching (insert body part here), or it's an extra donation for certain things(usually oral instead of manual happy ending).  I've alway found that if you follow their rules, and are a gentleman, the trust level rises.  when it reaches a level at which the lady feels comfortable, she may allow other things to happen.  This may take several visits.  The key is to alway be a gentleman.  Never, ever try to push things, or try for something that's not there.  Of course this also applies to any provider as well!

It is always a nice twist to offer the lady a massage as a return favor. Very few men take the time to give the lady pleasure. I find this can win you many points

Great point Ciara. If you are looking for anything else besides a sensual massage or rub, you should seek out an escort. I do sensual body rubs with happy endings and no more, not even for extra donations. I am always so happy to see clients who respect my bounds. I have many of them I see regularly and we always have a great time.