I know the easy answer to my question is, "If you don't feel safe, don't play."  But, is anyone else out there afraid of catching an STD by participating in this hobby?  Hundreds of BBBJ's and DFK HAS to pass many STD's on to providers, who then will pass them to hobbyists.  

My question is, do single people care as much as a married man like myself if they get an STD?  Most STD's are easily cured with antibiotics.  If I was single and got one I wouldn't be too freaked out.  

Providers, do you care if you get STD's?  I suppose if you get checked monthly you can get medicine.  I just don't sense that this is a real problem out there.  Is it?  Or am I being paranoid?

Ditto.  With you brother.  Terrified and married like you.  From what I am hearing the risk of transmission from the girl to you is very small. While STD's can be transmitted through salivia it is very rare. The key questions you need to ask is do you have any open cuts or sores on your penis?  DATY is riskier to you..
The other thing to keep in mind that the more upscale ladies are professionals and are being checked on a regular basis..
The best advise is after you partake in one of these meetings is to get checked out by a clinic. Will cost you a few but is worth the piece of mind. Other then if you want to partake use more protection, risks go down but so does the pleasure...

I decided early on I wasn't going to see five gentlemen a day or five gentlemen a week or even five gentlemen a month.  I spend my downtime keeping myself up for that special gentleman that I am going to be with.  Always safe in my practices, and still I see a medical provider who is completely aware of my situation every other month for appropriate testing. Of course, my rate reflects my exclusivity....

You answered your question already brother.  Since you're married, teach your wife how to throw it and save some cash for a vacation with her.

I've been hobbying for many years, engage in DFK, DATY and BBBJ. Have never caught an STD. Imagine most of the higher class ladies are pretty careful, but there is always a chance.

I am an independent provider in Phoenix. I am educated as an R.N.   I am clean and want to remain that way.  I always do covered bj's for the safety of my client and myself.
Kisses, Michelle

My way of limiting risk:

I try to see just a couple (and the same) providers on a regular basis.  And I don't do this too frequently (no more than 3x times a month).  Other stuff: don't shave or floss (brush teeth, yes) before a session.  But, I don't limit my risk to the point of compromising pleasure, i.e., I don't use dental dams, but do DATY.  

-Hoot.

The problem with your logic is these damed communicable viruses that do not discrminate like you. Do you know how may other providers your select gentlemen see?  Are they as careful as you? That's the problem. Sorry to put a damper. The truth of the matter is that we all accept certain risks in this activity. We can take all the precautions but the only sure fire way to be sexually active and 100% assured that you are not going to get anything is to be in a monogomos relationship with someone you trust. Something I don't think any of us are prepared to do

get over it or go play somewhere else

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I think all of us need alittle reassurance that it is okay.  Especially from you more senior hobbyists and the ladies who really take more of the risks that it is okay. That the risk is low. To hear that you guys have been doing daty, and BBBJTC and have not gotten anything, makes the newbeys feel more assured and more willing to take the plunge...

Michelle,

How serious is the risk of Uncovered? For the gentleman for the lady? Do you let the hobbyist DATY you? IS the risk that high?
Alot of the top providers seem to be doing the above along with many of the hobbyists but aren't getting anything so they say..

Its a tough question and you alone have to decide if its worth the gamble. Most of the providers are responsible and get checked on a regular basis. Plus its there reputation and there income thats at stake if a client get a std.

But no matter how careful a provider is there is always a chance of getting & passing something to others. In this game it like playing Russian Roulette sooner or later you going to catch a Bullet (std).

You can minimize your risk...no bbbj, no dfk, no uncovered datty.
If you don't feel comfortable in a situation don't participate. If it dosen't look right, smell right, don't participate. Think before you leap and you should be okay!

I think we have covered this topic before, but again, for myself I get checked out every month for the full fireworks. I do worry about some of the other girls and guys out there, hoping that they don't have the "what I don't know can't hurt me" syndrome.  Get checked and if you want to remain anonymous, check your yellow pages for such clinics and expect to pay around $100-150.

Somes you have to reach out onto the limb for the fruit.  Sometimes the limb breaks.
Sometimes you feast on the juicy fruit.

Go to google.com and type in "oral sex STD" and see what you come up with. Through the research I have done I will say this... the risk for HIV for either party thru uncovered oral sex is slim to none. (Odds are higher of getting hit by lightening.)  The other STD's are obviously higher risk... herpes and warts are my biggest concerns though as the others are easily cleared up via antibiotics, but you can tell a lot by just LOOKING before you leap.

But please do not take my word for it. Do the research for yourself to determine what risks you are willing to accept. I feel I've found a happy medium between living in a bubble and doing anything *too* risky, but everyone's comfort level is different. You owe it to yourself to find out.

Hugs*
Nicole

Well, I'm very afraid and do take precautions. Several years ago (15 or so) there was a provider in CT that was passing along a curable STD through BBBJ's. I was one of the lucky ones that never visited with her.