Very much in agreement, ladies. What say the Gentlemen?
HBXXX, I am going back out to buy a box of R.B ... was it post or kelloggs? (I feel the need to clear my brain, lol) Great Post!
xoxo
ff
I think escorts should be supportive and helpful of one another. I do think a certain level of professionalism should exist amongst ladies in the "biz". Here's my do's and don'ts list. Feel free to add you suggestions.
DO'S
1. Provide referrals for gents that wish to see another lady.
2. Be supportive of your client seeing other providers.
3. Share information about dangerous/problem cases.
4. Contribute toward the boards if you feel your opinion
might help another provider with an issue she is having.
5. Return the email of providers that email you once you
have verified that she is a provider.
DON'T
1. Be catty.
2. Compete for clients. There are enough to go around
and men are born to sample so be supportive of your
client seeing other women if he expresses that he is
doing so.
3. Share information about clients without the client's
permission. All information should be confidential
unless there is a health, safety or mental welfare
issue at stake.
4. See another provider's boyfriend, husband, fiance,
any party involved in the personal life of a fellow
escort. This denotes a lack of professionalim, shows you
are willing to do anything to make a buck.
5. Put down other escorts because you don't find them
attractive.
Just some stuff I came up with eating Raisin Bran at 11pm.
HB
I would add:
1. Be honest and trustworthy.
2. Keep appointments (double) with your girlfriends. If you are booked for a double keep the appointment, don't replace someone once they are booked for another girl.
3. If you are confirming whether a client is cool, mention any hang-ups they should be wary of. Be polite and objective. Just so she goes into the situation prepared, if there is anything unusual. e.g. I hope you are not allergic to cats because he has several. Be accurate and honest, not competitive.
I think it is almost unbelievable how helpful and gracious providers are to each other. It is extremely refreshing. I wish the whole world was as wonderful.
Very much in agreement, ladies. What say the Gentlemen?
HBXXX, I am going back out to buy a box of R.B ... was it post or kelloggs? (I feel the need to clear my brain, lol) Great Post!
xoxo
ff
doesn’t supply or ask for references from escorts, and it’s not, as has been implied recently, because I’m jealous or catty, that I don’t understand that men like variety, or that I don’t appreciate the positive side of providing referrals. My reasons have to do with trying to preserve some of my privacy, and I am supportive of other women by respecting their privacy and by helping in other ways.
Let’s not criticize each other simply for doing things differently. As a provider wrote last week on the topic of providing references, “Everyone has their own rules they try to live by. Neither are right nor wrong, you just have to respect them.”
xxxooo,
Laurel
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I would have to say that even though I don't agree with your decision to not offer help with information about clients, I do realize and appreciate that this is your rules and you can play anyway you like. I have just found that it always helps to have several girls that you can go to and get help and information from when needed. So, I think you are depriving yourself in this path you have chosen.
I have my own set of rules for engagement and it seems humorous when some of the other girls have not agreed with my process and proceeded to inform me of how wrong I am. I just think this is silly. Everyone needs to do what they are comfortable with. Some of my quirks are I like to see what the gentleman looks like, I want to know what he does, and I for certain want to speak to him on the phone prior to meeting. I do all this to insure that I know we are a good match, so our time together is a top knotch time and he will have the best time I can give him. I want to feel comfortable with him and him feel comfortable with me, prior to our meeting.
BTW, I agree whole heartedly with the list of support items. I would like to add, offer a helping had to newbies, so they do not wind up in trouble which inturn could bring trouble down on the entire group.
I think that there are different rules for different regions and cites.
What might work here is L.A. will not work in, say, Atlanta. Each case (ie clients) is as different as the client himself. I have no problem with, say, Felicia introducing me to Sensual Ashley, as long as we are on the same page. I have no problem with info being passed about me by one escort to another about health issues because that is just common sense.
Where I would draw the line? Personal information that is non-related.
I have always wondered whether there is a database for escorts to check out potential clients. Sort of like the TRW of poohnanny, ya-know-what-I-mean?
I find it a good thing that the AE Ladies of So Cal are willing to work together on the basic issues of safety, and sharing basic information about a Date...BUT...I know of a few databases that the Ladies keep, and I find that the data they share goes way above and beyond reasonable. I have seen enough of them to know what is fair and acceptable from my standpoint, that they can and should share, but I also do not like the idea of my privacy being invaded by these same Ladies, as they relate more than resoanble details about me/us. What a Client is worth, is not your business,and is beyond reasonable. what he drives, how big is his house, where is it located, when are his paydays, does he have a girlfriend, does she work, when does he work, is he religious, does he go to church/synagogue, when are his vacations...etc....All not appropriate. If only they would share their data with us like we share our data with them, then maybe we could have a reasonable degree of safety and security.BUT keep in mind, that we are NOT PUBLIC figures with ads on the internet. We are men of discretion (at least I am), and we do not want our private lives made public by the excessive sharing of data about us. I know I reveal too much about myself during Pillow talk. Well that pillow talk should be kept in confdence along with all private issues. Now, that is just my opinion....BUT whjt do I know? DateAMan
I think in general and I may be a bit off but in general that most girls in this business are supportive of each other. I believe it is the nature of the business itself that makes us supportive of one another. Who else but another provider can truly know what you go threw on a daily basis? Who else but another provider can truly feel your pain when dealing with a bellgerent nasty foul mouth client? And who else can understand the level of isolation we feel at being unaccepted by society at large? I just wish we could all get to know each other a little more intimatley ( and I'm not talking about doing doubles) I mean getting to know each other threw some sort of interactive get together a girls night out if you will. I find that as time goes by I spend more and more free time with certain clients or ex-clients than I do with other females either in the profession or not in the profession. Somehow that makes me feel a little sad for me and for you if that has been your experience too. Maybe TER will turn out to be a more benificial board for providers if anything good should come of this thread. Thanks Heather for starting such a unique,especially to this board thread. P.S. For me it's Frosted Mini Wheats that way I can call it health food as well a cereal. Be safe ladies
Sasha
Sasha:
what you said about the loneliness and isolation is true.
I have several friends in the business that want social contacts/encounters but if you go to a party and they ask what do you do for a living, you can lie and say something like entertainment or tell the truth and either get some ostracizing or some interesting conversations.
I've been hobbying for a long time and it took me a long time to face the fact that I truly enjoy the hobby. I felt so guilty and there was no one to chat about this, besides to go in for some counseling. None of my friends would ever comtemplate on doing the hobby. Hell, it was such a difficult task to just get them to the strip clubs. But now they do enjoy going to the clubs. But to get them in the hobby, I doubt it.
Sasha, I've chatted with you on the phone and need to cum see you soon.