I am going to be the odd woman out in this discussion. I absolutely do not find pain of any sort a turn on at all. Call me a powderpuff, but soft and sensual is the way for me. Tried other forms but so not into it....that goes for giving as well. I'm speaking purely about my private life with persons that I knew and trusted and had deep feelings for.
I posted this on another Board, but I would like your opinions as well.
I went to see a provider yesterday and she seemed to like domination. When I was doing daty I began to squeeze her breasts and she said, "Harder". I increased my grip and she said "Harder".
I told her I didn't want to hurt her but she insisted it was not a problem, so I put the old vise grip on her breasts and pinched her nipples between my fingers and she just moaned in delight. She earnestly loved it and was becoming more aroused.
I became curious, so while she was doing bbbj, she was turned kind of sideways and I began to shove her head down on my manhood harder and slapped her ass. It had to sting. She responded like ... give me more.
Finally, I turned her around and pounded her Greek as hard as I could and started slapping her on the ass again. Ouch!
She loved it and seem to get sexually hotter and hotter.
I have never done that before. To be honest, I was concerned I would leave bruises on her, but she kept saying, "Yes, more, more".
I really didn't want to go any further. I started thinking ... she could file charges on me.
Just curious ...Any of you guys into this? Could use a little insight. It is not really my nature to inflict pain for someone's enjoyment.
This sounds like a job for holeydiver. PM me her name and I will conduct a scientific study firsthand. If I can validate your claims, you stand to receive a Nobel Prize for your findings.
I have found some providers definitely get into ass slapping, grabbing of her hair during a BJ, pinching nipples, etc. However, I agree with your concerns of how much is too much. I too have been very hesitant to really play it rough for fears of actually hurting the provider. Your right, if you go too far who knows what kind of trouble you could find yourself in.
findings are suspect, or you wish verification, Turkana has a 7 point tuneup test to see if the subject is indeed submissive and if so, in what degree. A printout, with diagram, will be provided, together with safety tips and ideas on how to increase your pleasure.
Seriously, the question is whether you're naturally dominant enough to get off on it. If your dick gets hard from spanking her alone, or from pinching her nipples, you're probably where you should be. If you're worried about hurting her, or not turned on, please explain that holeydiver and I will do a complete personality inventory at no cost and that will leave her feeling better, much better.
...use a color chart to judge the shade of her ass checks, like using ph indicator strips. When it reaches a certain color, any color, torque those nipples like propellers to high heaven. Then give her a GS and tell her this is all the rage in Paris right now.
I am a provider who likes to be spanked(fairly hard)and I also like a "good hard pounding".That is the only s&m I provide.I have run across guys who like it rough on them--nipple clamping,spanking,anal probe,etc.I say "whatever makes ya happy"lol...kisses,Dallas
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I've met a few ladies who like it rough and know of a few who like it brutal. (I'm not going to shill for anyone, but one famous provider says right out that she loves to be treated like a piece of meat).
I've experienced this from both the S side and the M side now. It's not the kind of thing you easily find outside the hobby. It opened up new horizons for me, but: it's not the kind of sex I desire with every woman, nor even all the time with the same woman.
Before I was in the hobby, I had one brief experience with it that freaked me out.
It would take a book to explain why it would work that way that pain, or inflicting it, or submission or domination would be so enjoyable. However, it is and it makes it intense. Sometimes sex is like any other contact sport.
some time back, maybe 10 years ago?
The defendent was a guy who had "rough sex" with the deceased woman.
Basically his defense is that she liked rough sex but that he got a bit too carried away.
Does anyone remember the outcome of the trial?
My first thought on reading the accounts was "yeah, right", but after learning a bit more about the subject, now I'm not as certain of his guilt.
I still find the subject unsettling, but on the other hand, if there was no intent to kill, or even to harm beyond a reasonable point; then involuntary manslaughter should have been the verdict, not murder one as the state was trying to prove.
Google "the preppy murder case" for details. eom
I am going to be the odd woman out in this discussion. I absolutely do not find pain of any sort a turn on at all. Call me a powderpuff, but soft and sensual is the way for me. Tried other forms but so not into it....that goes for giving as well. I'm speaking purely about my private life with persons that I knew and trusted and had deep feelings for.
He was sent up to Sing Sing for a good long while. The defense of "rough sex" was never credible. He had problems with anger management. He got out a few years ago and was unable to control himself. He's been back in the klink for drugs, for bad behavior, etc. several times...a general no-goodnick.
Not a spokesman for those of us who engage in clean, safe rough sex from time to time.
Rough sex wouldn't ever be life threatening. You have to keep in mind that the purpose is to play a role and create some extra sensations with it.
However, that being said: I remember a survey on escortblogs with one of the questions being whether you've ever broken a bone having sex. One of the women answered: "No, but I've broken somebody else's."
I am another provider that likes hot, intense sex that includes a hard pounding, ass slapping & hair pulling. I also get into some name calling, I think it's hot!
I'm not really into the nipple twisting & don't ever expect to get hit hard enough to leave a bruise but then again, I don't bruise very easily.
1. I would never want to inflict unwanted pain on a partner.
2. If the partner gets sexually excited by pain then, yes, I enjoy that, within limits.
3. Because of #1, I won't go to #2 unless I am confident she wants to go there.
4. One way to figure it out. Ask her to squeeze or pinch your nipples. Hard. See if you like it. See if she likes doing it to you. Ask her if she wants you to do it to her.
5. I have learned that you don't have to into S&M to enjoy a little rough sex in either direction. You learn something about yourself. I've discovered I like a little pain in my direction. I'm not turned on by the reverse, unless she is, and then it's blast off. (If you want to know what I'm talking about, there's a certain Chicago provider Zinaval was referring to who will be more than willing to help you out . . . .)