it didn't live up to your own (perhaps overdone) expectations?

I don't mean that the date wasn't great but it wasn't that "once in a lifetime" experience that you had hoped for.  I have been lucky enough to have two of the greatest sexual experiences of my life (thank you Lesley Warren and Gemini Starr!!!!!!!!) but it is difficult to top those.

Thoughts?

Sometimes the fun for me is not knowing what to expect. Never build up hope of once in a life time, thus never felt disappointed except for maybe once. My biggest surprise was my first experience, coincidently, with Lesley Warren. Far exceeded my expectations and I know ahead of time it would be very good.

See a bunch of glowing reviews and book an appt, only to have a good time, but nothing that lives up to the harlequin romance novels some guys write for reviews.

I had booked a provider who was visiting my area.  The appointment was absolutely amazing and her body was exactly what I dreamed of.  For the first time, I declared an ATF for myself and she was it. I didn't see any need to go to another provider for she fufilled everything that I craved.  I saw her a second time months later and again she was amazing... I was absolutely hooked. Everytime I remembered the encounters I became aroused.

Six months later I booked her for the third time... though she still looked great, the appointment was rather disappointing.  She wasn't at all like the previous two appointments and it was like she was putting on some type of "show" as if she was trying to entertain a kid rather than provide the sincere pleasure she had before.  While I had thought about the appointment for previous week, my expectations weren't "imagined" because they were already in place from the past two events.  I was definitely let down on the third visit, and because of it, I have no desire to see her at all now.  I don't even get excited when I think of her. The disappointment from the last appointment seems to entirely wipe out the memory I had of the previous two.

Not quite the same thing but...

Had an ATF... planned lots of different scenarios for upcoming dates (photoshoots, "birthday visit", etc.), only to have her "retire" (at least from me)

The best laid schemes o' mice an' men...

Well, I'm very new to this hobby having only visited three providers so far, but after 20 years of near abstinence (marriage) I'm still blown away by the fact that I can be with a beautiful woman (who pretends to like me) for a few hundred dollars. Every visit as been better than the last, and each provider has been above and beyond what I expected.

Yeah, I know I'm cruising for a let down, but in the mean time: what a great hobby! My plan at the moment is to quit when I reach 100 providers or die, whichever comes first.

There could be an explosion!!!  Or several, for that matter...

It is human nature to have "expectations" of almost anything.  However, the issue isn't having no expectations...it is keeping them in perspective, and opening up other areas to experience a new person with different ideas, thoughts, and feelings.

Of course, this usually only works if you have some contact with the person you see prior to doing so, but that is almost exclusively the way I see people now.  When you have some exchange with the person, there are so many more possibilities (or "opportunities", to once again quote Sedona) to experience something that the "expectation" usually fades away in the light of the person you are discovering.

Additionally, as "Herlequin romance novel" as some of my reviews might be, that is what I felt with the person.  I don't write for an audience...I relate my experiences and how I perceive them.

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Here's hoping for more experiences of a lifetime.

While my time in 'the hobby' is short-lived compared to some, my experiences have spanned the spectrum - from total bait/switch (my first - not reviewed) to repeats where, in a couple of cases, we converse via email or phone quite regularly -- and where the encounters get better each time.  
And, in between, some have met expectations and others have fallen short because the chemistry just was not there - no one's fault, that's just the way it is.

I think the ladies, as well as guys, can experience different levels of connection with the other in this hobby.  So, MMMV and YMMV!  In the meantime, we all have lots of fun!

Isn't life great!

Never try to create the illusion of a session to be a mind boggling experience.  You will almost always be disappointed that the lady did not meet your expectations.  And its not her fault.  Its not fair to the provider to have to meet those unreal expectations.

Just enjoy your sessions and take them as they come.

1. It might have just been an off day for her.  Also some ladies that travel and also work locally when not travelling feel that their best work(and reviews reflect it) is done when they are able to sleep in their own bed at night.

2. The oldest saying in the book is that "Familiarity breeds contempt". If contempt is not the right word boredom may be.
By the time of the third visit some of the newness may have worn off and she was bored.  Just as some guys get a thrill out of seeing a new lady each time the reverse can also be true.  Since it is not a relationship either party may decide that it is not worth the effort to keep it fresh.

3. With the internet the situation in 2 may be more coomon.  Guys have a large selection of attractive well reviewed ladies and popular visiting ladies get hundreds of emails trying to book appointments.

4. (Other) Certainly the reasons above only scratch the tip of the iceberg.

I am sure that there are some "click" issues with you, but aren't most men you see pretty taken with you?  I would wager that they are all happy with the package you present.  I know I would be a tad intimidated by you physically, even though I am pretty sure conversationally we'd get along.  Carnal clickage is always a bit of a crapshoot...

Damn Santino, I'm getting sucked in again.  I've wanted to got together with Nikki for some time.  Her reviews are stellar, and her photos phenomenal.  Our schedules conflict a bit, but we've come close once.  I've often thought that nobody can be as good as she seems, and it's kept me from moving heaven and earth to make that appointment.

Now you make those comments, and she's back in my head.

Recently met up with a lady with very good reviews, and we just didn't click.  Our time spent horizontally was tremendous, but physically she was not my type.  I'd seen the photos, but perhaps misinterpreted what I saw.  The conversation was strained, and she was somewhat mechanical (although VERY well oiled...LOL).

It wasn't a bad time at all;  it just wasn't what I'd hoped for.  I've been contemplating how to write the review, so for now I'll just hold back.  I want to be certain to be fair both to her and to all my fellow hobbyists...