Find someone who looks better than her and let the new become your atf. That is the only way you can deal with flashbacks. Of course an internal magnetic force will resist the change, lol. Do not communicate with her. Do not look at her pictures. Do not talk about her. Do not think about her. That is why you must see another provider ASAP. If not your cravings for you aft will get worse and worse. Failure to do so can cause migraine headaches. The only relief for the headache is sex, lol.

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admitting you have a problem is the first step. If this is a real posting, go seek help. Be honest! I bet they have heard worse.

Is the only advise out there? I agree that he does need help. But if he's really in love with his provider he can't just "Get over it" by jumping to another provider. And this isn't entirely an addiction issue.  It goes deeper than that.  I mean why do any of us indulge in these activities?  

The bottom line is, we do it for fulfillment, or lack there of, which if not controlled can lead one to risk it all.  This can happen to anyone.

My advise is be strong and cut it off. It's not going to be easy but say goodbye and take a break for awhile, maybe for good. You have to take control and disassociate the money for intimacy equation. If not you will most likely lose your source of income, among other things.

Professional help is an option. However the pain you will feel in the beginning might not let you but you have to try.

Good luck.

Sort of an important question...

In my case, I told her exactly how I felt about her. She broke into tears. So I knew she had some feelings for me as well. But we both knew it's not gonna work as long as we're both in this still. I've seen gotten over it. I did that by not seeing her for a while and knocking some sense into myself.