Maybe he just has a bathroom fetish. I wouldn't use any personal item in that bathroom until you get one of those CSI blue scopes and do some tactical sanitizing. Who knows what this guy used if EOM is right. You don't keep a poofy soap sponge in there do you?
I recently had an odd encounter... This gentlemen came to my condo, seemed very nice at first took a shower and we chit chatted a bit then he said he only wanted a shower! Very strange he left the donation, kissed me, then said good bye. He keeps calling me. Has any providers ever had this happen and what do you ladies think? Is he a stalker? should I be concerned?
I had one a little similar.. In Rochester NY. Client knocked on my door.. Gave me the donation.. shook my hand.. smiled and said he just wanted to meet me and see me . That was all. Then he left... I thought " oh my god" maybe he thought I was ugly.. LOL
After about 10 minutes it clicked in my head maybe he was a cop.. It was the end of my appt day so I hitailed my ass out of there with a quickness.LOL
with you of course... nothing else but a shower. What we do in the shower is between two consenting adults. LOL.
that I had in DC about 10 years ago. I called for a provider from an ad in the phone book. She came to the door, asked for the money, stuck it in her pocket and said she'd be right back. Of course, she didn't define the word "right". In DC I guess it means "never".
I was in Brazil with a good friend of mine, who is married. We met some great ladies at a bar and drank with them most of the night. He and the beautiful blonde he was with left us to go to his room. They came back down about 10 minutes later with her looking very confused. Ends up once they got to the room guilt got to him and he decided not to continue. He paid her the full amount, in that he rightfully realized that he had taken up most of her night (plus he really liked her). They rejoined us for drinks and did not mention what happened, but both told me the same story when I talked with them seperately.
regular clientele. I would be a little concerned, but I guess it would also depend on the conversation when he calls.
If you had never heard from him again, I'd agree that it was just a change of heart, or maybe you're not his type.
But calling you afterwards, he wants to be "special"!! He is wooing you!!
At least that's my take on "peculiar client" for what its worth.
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Opps, wrong comic!!
Seriously, let me walk through the male mentality for a moment, OK ladies?
One of two things may be going on with this guy. First, he may have gotten to your place, and either saw that you were not what he expected - that is not a street ho... and he kinda chickened or he just got cold feet. Shortly after he left, he realized what he missed, and regretted it, hence the phone call back to you to set up another appointment. Has this happened to me? yes.... but I will admit, I did not go back. This one is not the stalker... see below for the reason for the warning sign.
The second thing that could have happened is that you have been on this dude's radar for some time. In his warped little neuroconnections he has built a world for you and he is there to "be a different" kind of client. One that you will notice and pay a different type of attention - you will be so impressed by his restraint that you will be "curious about him" and you will eventually seek to be with him - on his terms....
While this one is not yet a stalker - he is rapidly going down that road. If he continues to call, you should over the phone ask him what he intends and why he did not go through with the session. The answer you get will provide you with the information to decide - innocent shyness or potentially dangerous stalker.
In both instances, the dude is not thinking about YOUR real perspective - only his fantasized stereotype of an image he has of you.
Be careful
the incident could have been a mix-up with a confused client who decided to back out at the last minute, or it could be a potentially dangerous situation at some point in time. Either way, if he calls you again, I would definitely ask him (graciously) why he only wants showers because this is so different from your other clients? Make sure you say "clients" so he knows -- upfront -- that this is only business.
Hugs,
Ciara
Just because you're Paranoid it doesn't mean they aren't really after you.
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could be that in his own imagination he built such an idealized version of you that led to his "disappointment" with the real you. A less likely reason is that the short chit chat you had disappointed him...
Maybe he just has a bathroom fetish. I wouldn't use any personal item in that bathroom until you get one of those CSI blue scopes and do some tactical sanitizing. Who knows what this guy used if EOM is right. You don't keep a poofy soap sponge in there do you?
So you're right...his mind must be on overdrive.
or one of the other LE/Stalker/Freak scenerios mentioned above.
Personally, I've only been desparate and/or miserable enough for a shower to pay for it twice. And once was at Scout Camp when I was in 9th grade.
But she threw in a Kiss! That's a different story.
Oh my god you people are to funny Im not paronoid lol, there is no hidden cameras, no missing meds and he diffently was not dissapointed if he keeps calling to come back I posted here for advise not peoples opions on what he did but thank you anyways
Cleaning out the shower and putting on lip gloss sounds like an easy client!
How come you haven't booked him again?
I think I could elaborate a little more.
He did it to get your attention and to show that he's "not like those other men." No, he's better than the resto of us; he really respects you, and won't "take advantage" of you or use you the way the rest of "those men" do. (That's not my presentation of what clients do, that's my simulation of how his mind is working.)
Now that he has shown you his moral superiority and self-control, not to mention having paid you, he's expecting you to be impressed, moved to tears, and ready to fall at his feet because he really does respect you as a human being as you've always wanted, of course. When his expectations of this are dashed, he will then judge you very harshly according to the moral code that has twisted him and will begin to stalk you.
I would be alarmed. Through his phone calls he has shown he is attracted to you and is expecting something, with his refusal to have sex, he perhaps shows that he feels some contempt toward the usual hobby practice-- the practice you are affirming by rejecting his clear moral superiority. This indicates potentially two qualities I've always observed stalkers to have: a strong attraction to a subject but to a subject of whom he has made a scornful judgment.
Apologies to Bizarro, but I don't even entertain the other possibility. The oddity that he's refusing sex with an attractive lady, compounded with the fact that he pays you to not do it, and he looks fractally weird.