You're not really looking for a way to numb out! What you want instead is a technique to extent the window between being intensely turned on and the point of no return. For the majority of guys this experience is akin to sliding and picking up speed without the possibility of downshifting in the middle of the experience. With practice you can learn how to slow it down and back off from the edge for extended periods of time. When you get good at it, you'll feel waves of pseudo-orgasms, fluttering prostrate contractions that don't result in a full orgasm, but feel darned close. Sorry to be repititous, but this involves breath control, body consciousness, and mental coordination. Then you'll discover how to sloooowly build up to
a monster orgasm over a half hour, full hour, two hours, however long you're in the mood for, while completely grooving on all the places in between. First trick to this is to get all competitive ideas out of your mind. Don't compete with porn movies, some other sexual experience, things guys told you, or rules from sex books... clear all the background noise out of your head, breathe deeply and steadily, feel the being of the person you are with, and get into the physical communication of it. Remember, the flow state is your friend. Get there and your instincts will do all the housekeeping for you.
Anyone had experience with the newer extended pleasure condoms? Mine with Trojan Extended Pleasure was a disaster! Lost erection and was so numb it felt dead. Never again!
And when she went for the CBJ her mouth got alittle numb, talked with a slur.Never again!
You're not really looking for a way to numb out! What you want instead is a technique to extent the window between being intensely turned on and the point of no return. For the majority of guys this experience is akin to sliding and picking up speed without the possibility of downshifting in the middle of the experience. With practice you can learn how to slow it down and back off from the edge for extended periods of time. When you get good at it, you'll feel waves of pseudo-orgasms, fluttering prostrate contractions that don't result in a full orgasm, but feel darned close. Sorry to be repititous, but this involves breath control, body consciousness, and mental coordination. Then you'll discover how to sloooowly build up to
a monster orgasm over a half hour, full hour, two hours, however long you're in the mood for, while completely grooving on all the places in between. First trick to this is to get all competitive ideas out of your mind. Don't compete with porn movies, some other sexual experience, things guys told you, or rules from sex books... clear all the background noise out of your head, breathe deeply and steadily, feel the being of the person you are with, and get into the physical communication of it. Remember, the flow state is your friend. Get there and your instincts will do all the housekeeping for you.
It also helps to try a variety of positions. Have the provider
sit in your lap and use your toes to and legs to work. Switch to
doggie while she is on her stomach. Switch the speed, change the
position of motion from low to high. You will be amazed how long
you can go. Then you hear the provider say "Oh God, it feels so good"
They will scream out in pure pleasure.Then you can drive it hard as
you can for the massive pop.
slippery skin is hot, dry skin is not. Invest in a bottle of Wet Platinum. If she's on her back and you are on your knees, pour a small amount in a circle around her navel and proceed to gently swirl around her belly while you slowly rock back and forth. Remember all you basic grooming. Fingernails short and filed. Scrub your hands and use a moisturising lotion because dry patches and calluses thay you don't notice feel like sandpaper to her. Slide your hands over the length of her body. If she's on top, facing down, go slow and stroke her from her buttocks to her neck. Get her neck to relax. Most of the girls hide their tension in their neck. If they relax their neck and get their breathing in sync with yours, be prepared for an interesting time. Much of this will come down to vibe and trust. Look at it from her side. She's got to have barriers to keep her mind free from problems the guys bring in their mental baggage. If the rapport is there, she can let down the force field as much as she is comfortable with, you spend some time getting into the groove of her sensuality, then you get a sweet little rhythm going, make some music, accentuate the topbeat, gradually shift to the backbeat, stay shallow then glide in all the way, here, there, and everywhere. Maybe some daty for intermission, draw designs on her with your tongue, z shapes, lightening bolts, alchemical symbols. Sex is now. There's no place you're going. You are there.
You are 100% right on about everything you said! The relaxed and controlled breathing, taking it easy and leaving the porno scenario at the door...using your pc muscle and putting pressure on your prostate from outside...near your anus! It all works towards fantastic, unforgettable erotic encounters...multiple male O and holding off till you pop and have something huge..really huge is really worth the effort and self discipline. Try seeing a highly rated Tantra "teacher" and go to www.tantra.org and check out "yoni" massage and "lingam" massage...become a self teacher and things really begin to open up and it's a damn lot of intense fun TOO!
it's not always so obvious unless you know the girl....
My atf semi-girlfriend and much reviewed gfe/pse babe has these insights. When she's really turned on she gets so relaxed she almost seems to be dozing off. Her clients generally need the sex crazed wench act to soothe their egos. She's not feeling it nearly as much as she appears, but it gets the customer to come quickly and go quickly. She doesn't like large penises. She really doesn't like agressive guys who pound away at her with large penises. Her real style is slow, feely, tender, and mellow. She wants to make love in total silence because it is more intimate. She will moan, gasp, talk trash, or howl like a banshee if the job requires it. Good acting skills....
She does like intelligent conversation about other subjects than sex. She's as much into the afterglow as she is into the event. She loves to hang out and gaze eye to eye up so close you can't focus. It can be so intimate it is almost painful.
A lot of guys strike her as incredibly arrogant. She's an object there to make them go pop. This completely turns her off at a personal level, but she'll do such a convincing job of going through the motions you won't know the difference. That is, unless you know the difference, and that difference makes all the difference.
That also depends on the provider some like it slow others like it fast. You will notice them positing there leg in a certain so you can go deep you also notice they get extra wet an slipper inside. On the other hand if you are going to fast they will position there legs in another position to make you slow down, they might not want you to pop that fast.