If you were both of the same race and you had the same great provider experience only to find out that she thinks guys who pay for sex are losers and that she can't really stand them, would you still feel conflicted?

My guess is yes.  You admit to being loopy for days afterward and now your find yourself having second thoughts about visit #2 upon this revelation.  It seems that the wonderful illusion that was presented to you when you were together is somewhat altered when you realize that it was an act.  So to your bottomline question...

If you can clear your head and accept having  rock-your-world sex with someone that has a quality that you find despicable then go for it.  If you know yourself and fear that the lingering thought will impact your pleasure then stay away.  It's been said a million times...our brain is our most sexual organ.  Personally I know myself and I would be unable to push aside what I learned.  I'd start looking for another wonderful lady becuase there are plenty of them in this hobby.  Good Luck...                    

-- Modified on 9/22/2006 11:38:53 AM

You already have had a session with this provider, but did not see her website until afterwards?


How did you find out about her in the first place?

Why weren't you curious to find her website before you made a date with her?

Why would a provider put stuff on her site that is guaranteed to turn off a sizable portion of her potential customer base?

You would have had to know her website in the first place to even post a review here, or was the site a listing on Eros, or some such thing?

In any case, here's what you can do about it:  Ask her why she would post something that is so offensive.

And what does she mean about "giving it (the money) to the people?"  What people?  Can I have some?

This thing has weird written all over it.

Please share with us what she says.

And for what its worth, I know an African-American provider who won't see African-American clients.  She says they are "in general" too disrespectful of her.  So things do go both ways.

Would you frequent the shop of a businessman that dispised your race?

then you're too on the fence to have a good next time.  Really, think about it, even if you could forgive the things she has on her site, could you really forget?  Willy Nelson has the answer to that question and the answer to your "dilemma" is quite obvious:  Find someone else.

I agree with mrfisher and jaytee - something sounds fishy about this whole thing.

Her site may have been hacked but if it remains that way for more than a few days then chances are it's intended to be that way.

Bigotry and intolerance are the cause of untold misery in every corner of the world.  If she *is* racist don't see her again.  Do you really want to f*ck somebody who thinks you are inferior?

Check out other links, like from this board and from TBD.

I doubt that it's been hacked-- that's generally too difficult.  There's a thread down further about dirty tricks pulled in this business.  Check the URL carefully.  Check the email address given on the website-- it might be slightly different from her actual email address.

Then ask her about it.  Mr. Fisher is right, it's just strange to put that on a website meant to attract business.  

If it all checks out, just the remember the good time you had and move on.  You will regret it if you don't.

-- Modified on 9/23/2006 9:51:17 AM

Since we cannot see what she wrote in totality, nor in the context in which it was written it is hard to play decision making for you.

However, armed with what little you have explained, I personally would call and chat. Not "confront", that ruins any chance of communication. I would want her to explain if she feels up to it the vast difference in the great experience she provided, and her written words if they are hers. There might be a very plausible explanation (seems unlikely) and is worth a phone call if it was rock-your-world experience.

If the conversation goes no where fast, it would be thanks and goodbye for me.

I don't deal with bigots, regardless of race etc.

...I agree with the idea of talking to her about it.

Granted, it may be hard to hack in and sabotage a site these days, but its not wholly unlikely that something could have happened where someone else, like and ex or something, had access to it and went in and changed it without her knowing and then locked her out of it... my girlfriend had that happen to her when she left her bf, he screwed her royally. But, seriously, think about it-- that could be why she never gave you the address to it in the first place, and why it wasn't linked onto whatever ad you originally found her on. Perhaps she had it removed so people could not see what happened. Honestly, that just sounds entirely too contrived to be real. It sounds like exactly what someone would put up to try and kill someone's business. I mean why would someone put something like that up on a public accessible site they try and conduct business off of...

I say, call her up (don't email, it gives her a chance to think up a good answer if she is truly a racist), and see what she has to say about it...

(bychance, would you mind sending me the link to my personal email? I am curious and like very much to know who she is. I am not going to say anything, I would just like to see for myself...)

Dani

She sounds like a racist.  Mel Gibson was trashed for silly comments he made when he was drunk yet this provider is sober when she posts them. Why would you go back if she hates white people? If you said those comments about her then it would be war!

I would never see anyone who think that way. Many times I was told after showing up that I don't see black males. I just thank them for their time and leave. I know it is part of life but nothing can beat anyone who think like this. She need to realise this is a two way process and her success depend on people like you exposing her for what she is doing. Move on!