I should probably tell you a little bit about myself before I get to the reason of my post. I am an 18 year old virgin. Yup, and I am not exactly proud of it. Its not that I repel women, I have many girls who are friends, but its never been a sexual relationship. I am a fairly attrative guy, but I have always lacked the time for a relationship.
I was planning on hiring an escort for a weekend and well have some fun. But I have a few questions and thought this board would be the best place to get them answered
Is my age and lack of experience a factor in being accepted as a client?
What kind of price range would it be for a weekend? Money isnt really an issue, just curious.
Thanks for your time and I hope I didnt screw anything up as this is my first post.
I think if you're comfortable with seeing a provider for your initial experience then it's fine, probably preferable. In my experience (if I can remember back that long ago... I was about your age) most of the magic of your “first time” is just the thrill of finally doing it, I don't think it's crucial that it's with the love of your life. (Besides, you haven't met her yet.) With an understanding woman you may get some valuable pointers and you shouldn't have any performance anxieties.
If I were you I would be looking for a woman in her mid 20’s to assist you with your first time, someone reasonably close to your age, who gets high marks on TER. You can use the search engine here to get a list of potential ladies:
If you post which city you’re in I’m sure you’ll get recommendations from other hobbyist.
That all said, I would discourage the idea of committing to spend a weekend with a woman, or more to the point, a stranger. You’d be surprised how LONG a weekend is when you’re with someone you don’t “click” with. Now it’s possible you’ll find that the perfect person the first time, but it’s not likely, and then you’re both stuck. If you want to go all out then find someone who will provide a “GFE” (girl friend experience) type of evening. Maybe someone you can go to dinner with first and get to know before completing your mission. Prices vary greatly and generally the better the reputation the more expensive. You should be a able to spend a dinner evening with a highly thought of lady for $800-$1,200, though you can certainly spend more.
I don’t think your age is really a problem, I would think most woman would eagerly accept such a mission. Just be up front with your age and experience and you should be happy with the results.
By the way, there’s nothing wrong with being a virgin at 18. If you think you’re ready great, if not don’t feel you have to do it now. If you intend to go through with it via the escort route then read the guide on this website so you have a good idea what you’re are getting into and what the proper protocol is.
Great reply by Cableguy. I completely agree with him. You will defintiely find an entire weekend too long. Weekends are not a bad idea, but you need to know a lady for some time before you know if you are compatible for a whole weekend, similar to any other date.
I do suggest that you tell the ladies at the outset that you are a virgin. You might be embarassed or reluctant to do so. She will make it easier the first time, a much more relaxed session.
...let's see, when I was 18 I was in College and my net worth was a'74 Camaro. I was lucky to get a 6 pack for the weekend let alone been able to spend the several thousand bucks it would take to hire an escort.
Maybe it's just me, but the notion that my first experience was one I payed for just seems a bit...let's say different.
I say just ask one of your friends who are girls out or if money truly is not an issue call AnneMarie. At $24,000 for a weekend she may make your first time something really to remember.
Not harsh criticism, just that I think you are going in the wrong direction.
You are only 18. Being a virgin at 18 is not unusual. As for having no time for a relationship, what are you doing at 18 that has your days so busy?
Why don't you just take things easy and meet people and have real relationships and try to find someone special.
Now if you want to ignore my advice, feel free but if money is not a factor as you say, and you are as young as you say, you could be headed for situations you are not well grounded enough to handle. Think Charlie Sheen, not the cool one in Wall Street, but the pathetic one of late. If you start playing before you have a real life, you will have nothing to compare things to. No grounding to make smart decisions.
Is your age a factor in getting a provider to see you? Probably not. Maybe for a few, but you shouldnt have any problems.
Lack of experience? Only if you break the rules in setting up an appointment, but not in the sense that "You are not experienced in sex" once you get there.
Price for a weekend? I don't know. You figure $300 an hour on average, assuming you will get somewhat of a break for quantity, you are still in the mid to high 4 figures in any case. I don't spend that much on a weekend unless I am planning on spending it in Tahiti.
Hey, no hard feelings, and not trying to be harsh. Just giving you what I think is some good advice.
I was thinking about this some more and I do think the others make some good points.
It kind of sounds like from your request you expect the experience to be like "Pretty Woman" or (insert your favorite romantic comedy about the escort with a heart of gold here...)
Don't confuse your first sexual encouter with your first meaningful romantic/emotional experience. Not to over simplify, but most of what us are engaging in is recreational sex that is a diversion or replacement for something we don't get in our mainstream lives. That context is something you won't appreciate for 5 or 10 more years (and count your blessings)! A meaningful, fullfilling relationship, which should be your utlimate goal, is not something you can order up and pay for like a vacation or new car.
Though I mentioned it before I would echo John.Galt's sentiments that being a virgin at 18 is not unusual and in truth it may be too young to go "toe to toe" with an mature adult woman. I know that's not what you want to hear at the moment, but if you were 30,40,50... you would probably agree.
I'm not critisizing or trying to be rude.... But, I think you are a lil out of your league here sweetie. When I was 18 the LAST thing on my mind would have been PAYING a person for sex! What ever happened to the "kegger" parties (now known as "raves") or concerts, road-tripping with your friends and constantly having no time for family events because everyone was too busy being sex-monsters?! I have no opinion one way or another about your first time being with a provider. I think you've gotten some excellent advice here already and unless you're Sean Lennon, believe me, money WILL be factor.
If you're looking for an experinced woman to break you in and believe girls your age don't know anything, you're absolutely right! If thats the case, then I recommend you follow your instincts and if you're a cute 18 year old guy then you may find a provider who will "go that extra mile" to make it a memorable event. Good Luck!
First, John.Galt has given you some good advice. However, at the risk of sounding self-serving, if you're very shy with women, getting some experience with a professional might increase your self-confidence.
If you do decide to see a provider, let her know your situation beforehand, and I recommend you spend much of your time with her learning how to please a woman--how to kiss her, stroke her, touch her. How to go slow (kiss a looong time) and get her so excited she nearly, if not actually, jumps you! In other words, use the opportunity not just to lose your cherry, but to start becoming a good lover.
My concern is that you not get too involved in seeing providers. Take what skills and confidence you gain from your paid encounter(s) and go date or just concentrate on your education or career. Being successful in your career will get you a lot farther with women than JUST learning sexual tricks.
Be prepared to lie to your future girlfriends and wife about how you lost your virginity. Maybe I'm silly and old-fashioned, but if my boyfriend admitted losing it to a "provider" his butt would hit the curb before he had time to give me any "but's" about it. I get the feeling that most women would look very sourly upon a boy who chose to pay for sex rather get out and spend a little effort on a real relationship.
Or jump some drunk girl, but believe me, that's a step down and not up.
As a college freshman I can fairly accurately say that many 18-year olds are virgins. And unless you're a frat cronie, no one is going to be bothered by it.
So now that I've rambled and lost my semi-coherent point I will summarize: resist the urge for a cheap thrill at a high price. Your first time will be awkward and not beautiful but looking back it has a quaint appeal.
Try some real human interaction that isn't motivated by greed and lust. You'll like it, promise.
A semi-old-fashioned girl who thinks virgins are fun.
PS: Sorry so much criticism, think of it as tough love. Good luck!
Maybe I have been around the block a few times but if he told his girlfriend that he had lost his virginty to a provider and she kicked his ass to the curb then he didn't need to be with her in the first place. (But thats my open mindedness on that part)
What she should do is thank that provider for everything that she's taugh him. I think he has made a good choice in wanting a provider to be his first and teach him the art of making love. The way I see it, if he was with his girlfriend for the first time, with them both being virgins, they both don't know what the hell they were doing, it could turn her off of sex for a while til she did meet someone that knew how to do correctly, and could even affect him too from how her reaction was to the whole act.(speaking from experience on this one) So his choice to find a provider and teach him how to make love to a woman is a great idea. Once he does find a girlfriend he will know just what to do.
I can't tell you how many male friends that I know that have told me that they have been with older ladies (or providers) there first time and taught them most of what they know and they are very thankful for that and darlin so was I.
But like everyone else has said, he needs to find the right provider that will be kind to him and do the teaching that he's looking for. Being inexperienced is an awkward thing for a man and a woman.
I now realize that a weekend with a stranger would be excessive. Now I am pretty sure if I were to see a provider, which I am still debating, I would like to have dinner with them, get to know them, paying for their time of course, before i commit.
My life is completely different from the average 18 year old. Most of my time goes into school. With my little spare time I have my own little business selling hand blown glass by a Seattle artist on ebay which is making me a bit of money as I have very little overhead.
As for the "money isnt really an issue" This is something I want to do right. AS with most things I spend money it seems that the more I spent the better results. I do not know if this comes into play in this business.
I am not planning on getting to involved in providers, just a few initial visit in the begining to help out my self-confidence and to avoid some very awkward moments in the real world.
...my first time was memorable because neither my girlfriend or myself really knew what we were doing--the "awkwardness" made it all the more exciting, and memorable--I still think you're making a mistake.
Just remember that seeing providers is not a substitute for having real world relationships. Some of the ladies here are quite nice, but dont miss out on the most important things. Also, be careful of developing very expensive hobbies. I (and my stock portfolio) am quite happy I didn't start doing this 5 years ago when my income was a third of what it is now.
And don't worry about the awkward moments. We all had them, and in the end, they really weren't that big a deal. Its all part of growing up. Looking back, the awkwardness was part of the fun. (I know, the key part here is 'looking back').
But in all honesty, I am glad my first time was with someone I cared about, as opposed to someone I hired.
In any case, good times. I hope everything works out for you, regardless of what you decide to do.
Well it sounds like you'll have some fun at any rate NewB. Have you considered doing it as a pay-per-view event for lewd voyeurs willing to stare through the window, while certain events happen? No one I know per se, but...
I have to be honest with you guy, you're insecurity is what's motivating you to want to loose your cherry with a provider, rather than a non- pro. Please don't be offended by that. Just as many of the responses to your questions mentioned it being totally o.k. and normal to be a virgin at 18, it is just as o.k. and normal to be insecure - especially about sex - at 18. How are you going to feel, after experiencing sex for the first time in your life, when the girl who you had the most intimate interaction with in your whole life just takes the money and runs. I'd bet that if all goes well during your sex session - and it will, because it's the providers job to make sure of that - you will suddenly have these intimate, soft, romantic feelings about this amazingly incredible woman. And of course she's amazingly incredible, your paying her to be - yes, the more you pay, the more amazing and incredible. And of course she's amazing and incredible because you've never had sex before and the entire experience, everything you see, and feel, are so unique that they can't be put into words. They can be so unique that they can overwhelm you, especially if you find out that this woman has little interest in you except as a client - a big let down when you contrast that with what you may feel for her out of your own perfectly natural nieveness and volnerability at your age! Please follow the advice of the others who said that you'd be better off having your first experience with a girl you actually know and can maybe even establish a real relationship with. Take the plunge and don't be afraid of the outcome. Don't be afraid of letting the girl down - it's not all up to you, the girl has just as much a part in having it go well as you do. And, even if it goes just o.k., you'll both be able to share the satisfaction of what you enjoyed together, and that's a wonderfull thing to have between a man and a woman. And even if it's not that great the first time, chances are that she'll be around and more than willing to try again, with you. If she seems nice, and you know each other before you try, she will not judge you on how you do the first time, or even the second, third. or forth time. And that will be the best thing for your confidence!
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