Personality, that is key!
Humor a must!

Lex, I realize it's a serious question. Many guys have asked similar questions before.

Judging by the way you presented it my guess is you really want them to say YES it absolutley matters. Then you'll be motivated. What would really help is if one of your ATFs stepped forward and said she would fuck you six ways from Sunday if you would only shape up a bit.  Then you'll be reeeeally motivated.  

Truth is Lex, you and I both know this.  WE feel better when we're in shape and our self esteem is tip-top. We'll perform better, she may actually enjoy it more (if you're with a provider who actually enjoys her session -some don't).

But how can ladies on a board like this honestly answer this question?  They'll likely say that they appreciate a good looking, or fit man, but they'll always have a caveat (but don't worry baby I like all men, or seduce my mind first, or size doesn't really matter, or just be clean or be a gentleman).  this is after all a hobby for financial gain. If any girl came on here without using an alias and said "I'd never fuck a fat guy" or any other discriminatory reference there'd be some repercussions.  People would be wary, her business might suffer etc...

My advise Lex - do it for yourself. If you want some inspiration make a deal with you SO or with your ATF. Something like you can only have greek after every 5 pounds. Or she'll only tie you up if you can bench 350.
I tried this one time with studying before and it worked wonders (though it was with a girlfriend).

However, a long black overcoat, some designer glasses, manicured nails, good cologne, interesting underwear, facial hair, and chest hair all work wonders for me.

Holiday Eating Tips From a Fitness Expert (source unknown)

1.  Avoid carrot sticks.    Anyone who puts carrots on a holiday buffet table knows nothing of the Christmas spirit.  In fact, if you see carrots, leave immediately. Go next door, where they're serving rum balls.

2.  Drink as much eggnog as you can.    And quickly. Like fine single-malt scotch, it's rare. In fact, it's even rarer than single-malt scotch. You can't find it any other time of year but now. So drink up! Who cares that has 10,000 calories in every sip? It's not as if you're going to turn into an eggnog-aholic or something. It's a treat. Enjoy it. Have one for me. Have two. It's later than you think. It's Christmas!

3.   If something comes with gravy, use it.    That's the whole point of gravy. Gravy does not stand alone. Pour it on. Make a volcano out of your mashed potatoes. Fill it with gravy. Eat the volcano. Repeat.

4.   As for mashed potatoes, always ask if they're made with skim milk or whole milk. If it's skim, pass. Why bother? It's like buying a sports car with an automatic transmission.

5.   Do not have a snack before going to a party in an effort to control your eating.    The whole point of going to a Christmas party is to eat other people's food for free. Lots of it. Hello?

6.   Moderate your exercise between now and New Year's.   We can do that in January when you have nothing else to do. This is the time for long naps, which you'll need after circling the buffet table while carrying a 10-pound plate of food and that vat of eggnog.

7.   Target unusual food.   If you come across something really good at a buffet table, like frosted Christmas cookies in the shape and size of Santa, position yourself near them and don't budge.  Have as many as you can before becoming the center of attention. They're like a beautiful pair of shoes. If you leave them behind, you're never going to see them again.

8.   Same for pies.    Apple. Pumpkin. Mincemeat. Have a slice of each. Or, if you don't like mincemeat, have two apples and one pumpkin. Always have three. When else do you get to have more than one dessert? Labor Day?

9.   Did someone mention fruitcake?   Granted, it's loaded with the mandatory celebratory calories, but avoid it at all cost. I mean, have some standards.  Have a few more rum balls instead

10.  Avoid moderation:    If you don't feel terrible when you leave the party or get up from the table, you haven't been paying attention.  

Physical appearance isn't important for me in a guy. Personality is everything but if you want to get "fit" get a personal trainer go to the gym 3 times a week and avoid food that are high in fat. You will see results very quick and also being overweight isn't good for your health, people that exercise live longer and better.

XOXO, Carla Brazil

Now when I started out in this biz, Merley told me if I couldn't stand the way the guy looked, just close my eyes and think of the money.  Good advice, like a roman candle, doesn't last long.  

Is it different for ladies?  What do you think?  Do you think you turn me on if you don't care enough about yourself to stay in shape?  Do you WANT me to be thinkin about the money?  Wouldn't you rather I be thinkin bout your pecs?  I don't care if your nose is big or your dick's little or your skin has spots you were born with.  But if it's somethin you can do somethin about, yeah.  It matters.

What did Aretha say? R E S P E C T.  And that starts w/ yourself....  Don't ask the ladies to enable your self-indulgence.

"People who want to get the benefits of jogging -- without having to actually do it -- may soon be able to have a robot be their pinch-hit jogger.

Sony Corporation has a mechanical creature it calls Qrio. Lazy American joggers can't wait for it to come on the market.

Prof. John Stavis, head of the Department of Exercise Robotics at Congers University, envisions many possibilities.

"For example, I foresee an effortless way to lose weight," Prof. Stavis said. "Instead of cutting down on carbs, you simply determine how many calories you want to burn today, and then tell the robot to do it while you watch TV and gorge on munchies."

Sony denies plans to make Qrio available to consumers, yet the company shows it off at every opportunity.

"I think they just want to build huge demand before placing it in stores," Stavis opined.

Already the medical community is going wild with anticipation. Doctors have long been frustrated by the failure of their patients to get the recommended amount of exercise. Now the patients can have a robot get healthy for them.

Qrio will also solve the problem of patients who lie to their doctors about how much exercising they do.

"The robot can easily be equipped with a pedometer telling doctors how many steps it ran," Stavis says. "Doctors will know exactly how well their patients are cooperating."

At first, manufacturers of treadmills were distressed by a potential loss in sales if humans had their robots exercise for them. But then they realized that sales might actually increase.

"We'll have a whole new market," said one executive, "selling treadmills for robots to use when it's raining outside."
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Happy 2005

We don't want really obese guys either.  Most ladies like real men, well those of us over 30 do.

The younger gals are more particular and subsequently YMMV will be huge with the less mature girls.

Take that into consideration when choosing a lady if you are less than a 7 yourself

Bleh you reminded me. *I* need to go back to the gym for my new years resolution... I havent been going faithfully since my youngin days of 22 (that's 4 long beer swillin' buffalo wing eatin years). It won't be for the ladies (I already have mine) but rather for me.

Aside from the health and attractiveness increase, its a wonderful stress reliever and mind-clearer. The latter are the biggest plus for me.

Another reason is depending on time of day (Evening...) you get a free showing of fairly attractive hot sweaty young ladies to make the hassle of going much more enjoyable