how can you tell if a provider is serious about seeing you as a reg date..I have gone to dinner with her and there was hot and heavy kissing no $$ was exchanged...she has called and sounds like she wants to see me again

ask her out. But, please don't expect her to change her lifestyle for you. Remember this is a job.

Shaye

Don't get too 'wrapped up' in the moment. Guard your emotions and heart.

Even if you think your favorite provider is a friend and that she knows you just remember that it is all about the money and that the friendship is unfortunately all one sided and one of strict convenience and usually a little manipulation on the part of the provider to take advantage of the fact that you view her as a friend.

I hope I am wrong and would love to be proven so. The only way you will be able to tell is when a little adversity hits the relationship! Then you will see if the respect, trust, acceptance, the ability to communicate about unpleasant topics, the ability to forgive and care about each other as friends is really present. Remember, you can always count your true friends on the fingers of one hand and have some left over!

Watch your heart and protect yourself!

Again, I sincerely hope that I am wrong on this.

Good luck on the outcome and talk with her about it! Then there are no regrets and you can say that you have been honest and forthright on the issue.

Don't get too 'wrapped up' in the moment. Guard your emotions and heart.

Even if you think your favorite provider is a friend and that she knows you just remember that it is all about the money and that the friendship is unfortunately all one sided and one of strict convenience and usually a little manipulation on the part of the provider to take advantage of the fact that you view her as a friend.

I hope I am wrong and would love to be proven so. The only way you will be able to tell is when a little adversity hits the relationship! Then you will see if the respect, trust, acceptance, the ability to communicate about unpleasant topics, the ability to forgive and care about each other as friends is really present. Remember, you can always count your true friends on the fingers of one hand and have some left over!

Watch your heart and protect yourself!

Again, I sincerely hope that I am wrong on this.

Good luck on the outcome and talk with her about it! Then there are no regrets and you can say that you have been honest and forthright on the issue.

You wrote: "Even if you think your favorite provider is a friend and that she knows you just remember that it is all about the money and that the friendship is unfortunately all one sided and one of strict convenience and usually a little manipulation on the part of the provider to take advantage of the fact that you view her as a friend."

Be it fortunate or otherwise, this all too often is not the case.  People have feelings and providers of character are not that conniving and mercenary.  They can and do think of us as more than just the money and the feelings are not one sided.  

Ladies...?

You may be right about 2% of the time. You have to remember four things:

(1) Enjoy the moment, but be honest with the provider, expect the same and be yourself.
(2) Treat your regular providers with the dignity, respect and appreciation they deserve. Don't be afraid to show them you do truly appreciate them and that they are not objects, but special people.
(3) Business is business but you can be friends over time.
(4) Maintain discretion.

If you ever violate #4, admit it, apologize sincerely and move on if need be!

If you remember these things you may be saddenned and disappointed if a relationship ends, but you'll have no regrets.

If you want total acceptance and unconditional love, buy a puppy!

I'm presently dating a provider.  We began as provider and client, then progressed to friends, and finally, we developed a bond of trust, honesty, and mutual respect.  Are we going to get married?  I don't know.  But the subject has come up (I'm widowed, so no one will be hurt).  The nice thing about dating a provider is that sex is a non-issue.  In non-provider relationships, so much effort and time is spent by both parties trying to figure out if and when sex will occur, what it will be like, and how the relationship will be affected.  With my girlfriend and me, those issues were settled on night-one.  Since we don't have to do the should-we-have-sex dance, we're free to work on the deeper aspects of our relationship.  Incidentally, I my girlfriend continues to work as a provider.  I'd never dream of asking her to stop.  I trust her implicitly.