Hide all your assets, burry your money. Because if she finds out you left to persue the hobby she is going to go for ALL your hobby money & more!

 Honestly feet is this the path you really want to take. I love this hobby too but there are times I truly yern for a SO.

I guess the grass always does looks greener......

  YKSY

Maybe you're just sitting at the computer fantasizing about what it would be like to be single again, but a marriage is a serious thing and the hobby is... well, just a diversion.  That's why they call it a hobby.

Despite all the talk about GFE, when your time is up, you're out the door and alone again.  I've been single for 19 years, and I'm happy to have the opportunity to occasionally enjoy an attractive woman's company.  But it's only a reasonable substitute for the real thing, it's never going to be the real thing.  So my advice is to stop reading the reviews and take a good long look at yourself and your marriage.  Then evaluate what you've got versus what you'd be giving up, independent of any desires to participate in the hobby.  Sadly, I'm speaking from first hand experience on this issue.

One more thing, while you're dreaming about being single again, I'm thinking back on how much I miss being in a long-term relationship and having something of significance with a special woman.... I think there's a message in there.  






-- Modified on 6/11/2003 2:29:27 AM

Boy, I looked at the one review you posted and if that is an example of your hobbying experience, what are you thinking?LOL

Truthfully,  I have had affairs, I hobbied, I was separated for a while.  What people has always told me is that I am in love with that early freshness of a new relationship when no one show their warts and everything is perfect.  Eventually that gets old and then what are you left with?  Do you really want to go home to nothing every night?  What about your kids if you have any?  Hobbying gets expensive too.

Long term relationships are hard to come by and hard to live with.  I would definitely think about counselling before you take the huge step of separation particularly for the one hour thrill of hobbying.  If you can't hobby within the marriage for fear of hurting your wife, that's telling you something.  Cause leaving her is going to hurt her a lot more than her finding out you spent some time with a provider.

Take a breath cause some stuff you can take back and other stuff is forever.

How long have you participated in this hobby? How many women have you seen? Have you ever had a session that was more than one hour, overnight, etc.

What kind of relationship do you have with youre wife? Do you have children? Have you been to a therapist? Marriage counselor?

All of these issues need to be taken into consideration.

And then, unless you are looking to have a "relationship" with a provider...and are lucky enough to find one who wants to have a "relationship" with you...unless you can afford to "keep" her...it's really just sex.