If a girl contacts me. I'm assuming we the providers, are technically the other woman involved. So do you mean why did I lie to his significant other?  
I didn't lie to her at all.... After her five minute venting session I apologized for them both being in the situation they're in. Because I genuinely feel sorry for the woman while I also feel sorry for my former friend . But I 100% do not feel bad for the fact I provide a service and that he reached out to me. So after apologizing I of course reiterated the fact that it takes two as I'm sure this was not the first time she's seen messages from some "other" woman.  
Which is where the question of carelessness and indiscretion on the clients part comes into play. I don't care to know about your other relations when together and definitely do not want it to follow me back to my place of peace afterwards as I'm sure clients wouldn't want that either.  

 


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Some men are dumb enough to share their smart phone (unfortunately the smart phone is smarter than its user), computers, emails, etc.

Modern computers allows you to create more than one computer (Virtual Computers) in one computer. Use it to separate your activity, email, etc. If you don't know how, visit Best Buy, Micro center, Fry's or go to computer vendors website and read how to. Not that complicated.

Far too many take risks they should not be taking just to see a hooker, and then wonder why the wife finds out. I have heard anything from leaving laptop actually open to the email page whilst drunk, using real phone for this with saved numbers (again left out in the open), having hookers to their house and in their bed (Epic Fail), etc. You can't fix stupid.  
 

I once got a call (at work too!) from the boyfriend of a gal whom I saw and he was not very thrilled with my having seen his girl.  (He got a hold of her cell phone.)

I wonder if that happens very often

Here is how I keep my hobbying discreet from my wife.

I tell her something like, "Remember (insert providers name here) that I showed you here ad last week? Well, I am off to have some fun with her. We will be at (location). I will be back at about (estimated time of return). I will call you if anything changes. When I get back I will tell you all the juicy details." Why lie? She tells me about particularly memorable clients and providers she does. I could never pull off the lie so I would never even try.

If this happens again, just ignore.
Inform the ladies of a leak and ignore.

We aren't here to console anyone on anything outside of our bedroom time with them.

This may sound harsh, but it's true.

There are real marriage counselors for things like this.

Also.. A lady may not have 100% solid proof, but by coming to you and getting back to her, now she does.

Odds are she did have proof, even so... Just ignore.
Don't message the guy, don't message the lady, don't message the daughter, the neighbor.

That's what the ladies on the board are for, to help get through things like this..

Hopefully she has moved on. If not, I would just move on myself.
xo

Why get involved? I'm surprised you felt the need to respond to this woman as your response alone is proof of his guilt. You do not owe explanations. You do not get involved. Detachment and discretion are part of your job requirement in this business and why you were hired in the first place.

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