Anybody feel the same way I do? I started this hobby as maybe once a month, now I can't go three days without finding a provider. There are so many beautiful women out there to fuck, all races, sizes and dispositions.... sigh, I am gonna go broke.

All guys feel that they can't get enough sometime (some of us feel that way most of the time), you just have to exercise some self control and have your fun at the time of the larger brains choosing. If you listen to the small brain, your prophecy will be self fulfilling and you will go broke. You'll never be able to have them all no matter how much $ you have so you might as well hold a little back for some of the less important things in life. You know, things like food, shelter and transportation.

A lot of us feel as you do and lot of us started the same way. Once a month, then twice a month, then you find an ATF and you're seeing her twice a month but you still want to sample others. Now you're up to once a week. Then two touring favorites come to town the same week and you can't choose so you have both. Meanwhile all the stuff you used to be real good at keeping up with (auto maintanance, house keeping/repairs etc) starts to be neglected. By this time unless you are independently wealthy you're living pay check to pay check wondering why it's so hard to make ends meet. You know you should cut back but now your ego is into it as much as your penis and by god your not going to deny yourself the most basic of human pleasures.

  Take heed; For I started much like you and look what I learned in only 1 year.

  NOTBBM.
 

Prior to Al Gore inventing the Internet, the difficulty of finding a steady supply of CSW's acted as a natural corrective force for those inclined towards overindulgence.

But now that its possible to burn your retina from reading hundreds of pages of ads and reviews, it takes a little more willpower to keep from losing your perspective.  You probably WILL get over your current "kid in the candy store" feelings, but the question is will you go broke in the process.  

As I see it, there are five stages of hobbying, and you're only in Stage One:

Stage One:  (Adult) Kid in a candy store, stuffing his face on all the goodies (or at least burying his face in warm, soft places)

Stage Two:  The "I've really got to cut back" realization (but you won't stop)

Stage Three:  The "I've really got a problem here" desperation  (but you can't stop)

Stage Four:  Burnout and despair

Stage Five:  Selectivity

Now that you know what lies ahead in your future, if you don't want to go broke you might try jumping ahead to Stage Five.  But be warned, many a good man has gone down in flames trying to skip from Stage One to Stage Five.  

On the up side, it does make for some great stories, like the time I got burned by THREE separate cash-and-dash girls in the same day before finally hooking-up with the fourth.  How can you put a price tag on memories like that?  Well, actually, the price tag for that day was $1200, but whose counting.  I think you see where I'm going with this...

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I wish I could lose $1200 and not get too pissed.

I would suggest you do more incall. The cash and dash doesn't work for them. They dash out the door then come right back in

And to make matters worse, I was actually out of work at the time and in no position to be losing that much money.  

My example is hardly unique or the worst I've heard, but it does show how bad things can get, which is the concern of the original poster.  Unfortunaely, I wasn't completely joking when I wrote about the five stages.  I didn't go broke chasing providers, but I did spend money I shouldn't have spent, so its about the same thing.

..at Stage Five the gentleman knows what he wants and knows what's out there....at this point, I've found that they can see when a girl has made an effort and has gone above and beyond what is expected..and most importantly, they appreciate it, as they have more to compare the experience to.
 
And this is why I stick close to my Stage Fiver repeat gentleman....
 





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Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! Made you look!

I think what you are experiencing is very normal. Knowing you have all those beauties and experiences at your fingertips is a huge tempation, and this hobby certainly is addicting.

You just need to ask yourself if YOU think it's become a problem for you. Are you flaking out on your responsibilities (financial and otherwise)? Are you selling your stuff or dipping into your 401K to pay for this? Think of alcohol, cocaine, or even golf addictions....playing once a week, or every few days, doesn't by itself mean you have a problem. But if it's causing impact and damage to your life and others than maybe you do have a problem.

I must admit that my pattern has been similar to yours. Although my itch can hold out for more than three days, I found my once a month rule didn't coincide with the bevy of beauties and great experiences that were available to me.  So once a month went out the window and once (occasionally more) a week on average became the norm.

However, I never felt (and still don't) that I had a problem that was out of control. While I was spending more than I care to count, the bills are all paid, I'm still investing each month, I am not going broke or dipping into my 401K to pay for this. I'm not married so I'm not putting anyone else (wife/kids) in harms way.  When funds are tight I have enough control to hold out.

Do a reality check on yourself, and do them often!

I definitely was at stage one 100%...wishing there was more time to enable me to 'do' all I wanted to.  I may have lingered at stage one longer than some guys.  

Stage two was sorta forced by the economy, but I did make some adjustments.  

Stage three was really more a question of realizing stage five was the place I wanted to be.

Fortunately I bypassed stage four.

Stage five is where I very happily am right now.  Experience has taught me, that at least in my own case, the time spent with a woman who has proven to be right for me is far more satisfying than the thrill of meeting someone new.  But it does take a unique woman & finding her may not be the easiest thing in the world, but when it happens it's damn well worth the 'effort' of looking.

I suppose when you are married there really is no such thing as truly disposable income since since there is always one more thing you could buy for your family.

"Fortunately" I met my ATF who doesn't live in my city.  I spend my money on her, don't worry about what else is available.  I suppose that is stage 5.  Exclusivity for her would involve stuff I don't really want to think about.  Exclusivity for me means not having to deal with a whole bunch of stuff I don't care to.

"the time spent with a woman who has proven to be right for me is far more satisfying than the thrill of meeting someone new."

 Very well said gw.

I am close to entering stage 5; how about a reconsideration for taking "selected" new "Stage 5" clients! LOL,
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I appreciate your insights. It was getting to the point that I was spending every afternoon fucking, to the detriment of work and family. I dont know if being a regular with one provider will work for me, because that is too close to marriage, but I will try some self discipline and stop trying to repopulate the planet all by myself. This was cool, thank you all.

Money spent on this hobby is money well spent.  I don't even think I've spent all that much.  I'm very particular and rarely repeat unless I find someone special.  I did what a lot of guys do and have a short list of 3-4 girls that you just rotate through (like a baseball pitching staff!!) I've had good self control until I met my most recent ATF who just fulfills all my fantasies.  I've seen her as much as three times a week and she treats me like a Prince  I just think about the thousands that I would spend on an affair (perhaps hundreds of thousands) and I think that the pennies I've spent on my ATF is a bargain.