Does anyone have experience or advice on dating a escort as your girlfriend?.
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discussions on this board, the Kgirl board, and various regional boards. The "search" button is your friend.
With that said, before you even consider this, ask yourself if you have a problem with 20-30 guys (or more) fucking your GIRLFRIEND every month, and her swallowing their loads with the same mouth she's going to whisper "I love you" to you. If you're not okay with what they do for a living, you will get jealous and force her to dump you because of it. Dating a provider is not for everyone. If you're thin-skinned, or the least bit insecure, its a definite no, don't even consider it.
Don't even consider the idea that dating (much less marrying) a provider is a key to low cost sex, in fact, just the opposite.
Girl friends and wives are the largest expenses most men have in their lives, and so don't go there unless you really find the person so overpoweringly irresistible that you are willing to take the plunge. In other words, don't fall in love with them because they are a provider, fall in love because of who they really are.
Just so you know, I dated then married a provider I met 15 years ago, and so I've bin dere dun dat.
Dating a professional will cost you at least double what it costs to be a regular customer paying by the hour. As Fisher says, there has to be off-the-chart real-life passion, which I have had a few times, so I ponied up the extra money and enjoyed it.
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Lots of providers are routinely approached by men with a "cuckold" or similar fetish who want to date a sex worker.... and then, many of them realize that the reality isn't as sexy or naughty as they'd imagined. LOL.
To the OP: CDL has an excellent point. The lady you like may not swallow but would it bother you if she did?
Sure, some ladies are very "low volume" and the one you are into might be; but what if things change and she's seeing several people per day? Would that be a problem for you?
My monthly average is significantly higher than what CDL mentioned and it's not uncommon at all for ladies who TYPICALLY see fewer to be busier from time to time.
So if the number of clients bothers you AT ALL.... then dating a companion is not for you.
Also..... Professional companions have all sorts of varying attitudes towards their work. Some are just doing this part-time, some are FT now but see it as a means to an end for a short term goal while others are in it for the long haul.
It's a career for myself and quite a few ladies I know.
You need to understand what her plans are and whether or not you are truly ok with whatever the situation may wind up being.
Oh and one last thing: I sincerely hope this is a situation where she truly is interested in you too. Be sure of that, first.
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my own experience. When I have had an opportunity to be the outside boyfriend for a provider, it usually came up in the context of a girl telling me she was thinking about retiring within a year and was starting to "transition" back into civvie life, so she is working a little less, maybe taking an extra day off each week, which leaves time for an outside relationship. After several of these types of relationships, I have become more educated over the past 11 years on the true nature of the provider-customer dynamic, so its easy for me not to ever be jealous or envious. Its just a job, and the better they do it, the more regulars they have.
One of my favorite aspects is when she comes home at night from the incall and asks me to fuck her because she just had 5 hours of foreplay from her customers and needs a release. Proof that we are each in control of our own orgasms. LOL
There are probably a thousand ways to describe a relationship with an escort, but in short, if you have to ask, it's definitely not for you!!!
There is only one way to describe a relationship with an escort . . . . "expensive." Lol
I have been friends with providers over the years. Good people who I learned to appreciate and value.
One of the things I learned about them is that it is really not uncommon for a provider to have had some very difficult experiences as part of their work. Over the years some I have known developed PTSD because of those experiences. For a few it was really tough to get through.
I am not saying that sex work is the difficult experience. I am saying that sex workers are at risk of being victims of uninvited violence (not talking about S&M). It is not their fault or choice that causes these situations. It is just that there are way too many bad people in this world. I believe that 1 in 4 of all women in the U.S. have been victims of violence. I don’t know the stats for sex workers. But I’d be willing to bet the risk is much higher for them. Every provider friend of mine has had at least one of these experiences while they were providing.
When you are dating a provider I think it is important that, just like with any other person, you have to be willing to take them as they are. And that may mean that she will go through some tough times processing some of those experiences.
If you sign on for a relationship with any woman who has been a victim (I have been married to a victim of violence - please don’t ask - and speak from experience), you are signing on for the whole package. This includes holding her hand while she processes what has happened in her past.
I think it’s important to remember this when you make any sort of a commitment with any woman. Not just providers. In the first part of a relationship, this is too easy to forget.
That said, this would never stop me from dating or even marrying a provider if we loved each other. In my experience, though, most guys who think of dating a provider never even stop to consider anything but the wine and roses - and sex - part of the relationship.
I found the love of my life through being an escort! That being said I loved him so much that within a year and a half I was done with escorting. We traveled, got engaged, bought property together.... and then he suddenly passed away from a heart attach while we were making love.
It's been just over a year now without him....or any sex.... and I am excited about becoming an escort again!!! Only part time...but I have always had such wonderful clients ❣️❣️❣️
Beautiful post, thank you. You've taken one of your life's tragedies and moved on to chase rainbows again. Don`t compare any to him, if you do, everybody loses. Just compartmentalize and take the best from each of us, always keeping your glass 1/2 full.
With your attitude, you will do well, I promise
GREAT post--incredibly insightful and thought-provoking! Honestly, this is as good a response as I've seen on this topic--(and there have been quite a few discussions on this over the years!!) Well done!!
...when I can have 20 or 30?"
That was the response I got from a provider I've gotten to know over the last few years when the topic was brought up on a different regional board.
... that we get attached to people in our proximity. So if you frequent escorts and something clicks between you, that's the natural organic way to establish a relationship. If instead you are thinking, hey it would be cool to have a escort as a girlfriend, then you are probably focusing on the wrong (by wrong I mean likely unsuccessful) aspects of relationships.
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You don't need an escort as a girlfriend to have a lot of sex. Civies are quite capable. So an escort isn't really bringing anything to the table in that regard that a civie can't. And that's why if you are looking for an escort for that reason, you're really not focusing on her individual character. (Not that many a man hasn't dated a civie just because she was a hottie.)
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Also as a warning, remember that escorts a like ambassadors of pleasure island. An ambassador's job is to advance her own interests using the tools of diplomacy (in this case sex and feigned interest.) Do not mistake them for real emotions. I hate to sound too cynical, but many a man has been swindled by a sweet talking thief.
stripper or CMT, or for that matter a nurse, secretary, or just a plain old gold digger.
I do agree with ALL of you who have said that dating a hooker simply to get free sex is not only dumb, but most likely a LOT more expensive than simply paying her. I DISAGREE that dating a hooker is always expensive. I have had some of the lowest "maintenance" hooker GF's and some of the highest maintenance non hooker GF's.
I hate to sound not cynical at all, but typically what you get out of a relationship with a sex worker is proportionate to what you put into it. Whatever you do, do NOT think to yourself that your big dick, big wallet, pussy eating skills or anything else in that regard is going to impress her. I guarantee she has seen bigger dicks owned by wealthier guys numerous times before, during and after your relationship with her. AND if you have any insecurities in any of these regards you most definitely should NOT be dating a sex worker, your life will become a living hell trying to compete with a couple of different guys every single fucking week of your relationship, it's no wonder that some guys are so jaded about dating hookers.
.... While I agree on many points as previously stated, that fortunately wasn't my experience. I had a very healthy 2 1/2 year relationship with a Provider. As two kind, caring, intellectual and communicative individuals, our relationship flourished. She did what she did and I too still sought variety but we had a great time together.
Eventually, I moved to another city for my job and we tried to make it work but eventually the distance put an end to the relationship. Still friends to this day and I fondly remember the wonderful moments we had together.
I know we've chased out most of the ladies here, but if there's ant brave souls left, How would you feel about dating, say me? Of course if we clicked and all...easy guys with the insults.
My story, I tried it (dating an escort), but I realized as well as her that I'm not "dating material"...Basically she threw my ass to the curb went I came back from a trip.
So ladies, would you date a serial "Hobbyist"....God I hate that term.
but I am fine with "whore mongering pig" oink oink.
and you might be surprised which women are attracted to which men. I have been amazed at the different women I have become pretty close friends with here on the boards who you would think would spit on me rather than be with me strictly on principle.
As for dating YOU, look at it this way, if I can find multiple providers to date, there is hope for EVERYONE, even you. lol
for tastes, but I think we can ALL agree that there are NO women who are attracted to BLPOS.
Starting shit.you really should get over this kids shit...SMH.
in your participation? You really didn't think this through, did you? LOL
The only "Irony" i see here is that you're a pussy for mentioning someone who didn't even participate in this thread. He's has no voice or presents and yet, you did the classic dick move, hit him when he's not looking...Now go to whatever board you kids play in, be a man and jump on him there...don't be a pussy....And LOL at you're own stupidly...now that's a LOL.
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if you think he doesn't routinely do this to me. Would you like me to provide 3 or 4 or 20 links as examples. Are you now dictating which boards I'm allowed to post on? Who died and made you pope, anyway? Lol
You seem stressed. It probably has to do with something happening tomorrow. You're not your usual genial, pardon the expression, happy go lucky, self. Lol
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This is exactly what people always complain about - bringing shit from the Politics board to other boards. You're butt hurt because I kick your punk ass all the time on the Politics board so you attack me in on a DIFFERENT board and in a thread in which I didn't post.
As Hpy said, I wasn't involved in this thread in any way. Talk about living in someone's head rent-free!!! Please prove Hpy is "in mental decline" and prove that I "routinely" attack you when you're not even involved in a thread. You said you can show "20 links as examples." Put up or shut up. You won't "put up" because you're a bullshitter. Tell you what, I'll settle for "3 or 4" examples of times I attacked you in a thread where you didn't post. Let's see what you got, bullshitter.
Or were you just doing it to win brownie points with your mentor GaG? You showed him how tough you are, didn't you? And you used to call me "BPOS" but now you're calling me "BLPOS" like GaG does because you're desperate for his approval like the pathetic puppy dog you are. You're a good little boy, aren't you? Yes you are! GaG will give you a treat for being so obedient. BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!
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You love creating the false narrative. What in my post was about politics? It was only about you and the ladies that won't see you because you sweat on them and have dead fish breath, according to some of them. How is that political? I didn't suggest the dead fish belonged to a political party. You're losing it.
You earned the moniker BLPOS, which is Big-Lying-Piece-of-Shit, because you are the most dishonest poster on TER, a reputation well-earned through your lies and misinformation, not to mention the racism you display on the Kgirl board. I had to run you off the Kgirl board last week when you claimed you never said Kgirls were "disease-ridden." I provided the link, and you haven't been back because you can't show your face through your lies. Your constant denigration of Kgirls is the most blatant racism displayed by ANYONE on these boards.
Thanks for taking the bait.
BLPOS actually gave you a compliment. If you are going to be called a dick, don't you prefer being a "First Class" dick at least? I don't recall you ever calling BLPOS a first class "anything" except maybe a liar, and even then he's third class at best. lmao
"First class asshole", then you are right and I will own it. As I always say, go big or go home. Lol
So should I assume that you are going to object as strenuously when my "fan club" BLPOS included stalks me from board to board bringing their bullshit to other boards?
And do you plan on calling out BLPOS when he inevitably does EXACTLY what you are accusing CDL of doing, or is your outrage reserved for when CDL does this? BTW at least CDL is an active monger who actually sees providers while it's doubtful that the fat tub of lard has been laid in years.
Don't forget to remind me about this post the next time you call out my fan club for bringing P&R drama here. I will be more than happy to post a retraction and to congratulate you for your even handedness. "If" such a time ever happens of course.
I've dated two men who frequently partook of companion services. One had been doing so for years, the other had not.
Neither relationship's demise had anything to do with his hobbying activities.
I'm currently in one of my "I'll never date another client again" moods but who knows what the future may hold lol. 
Was anyone actually gullible enough to believe me??? lol
Truer words have never been spoken "who knows what the future may hold" lol
I bet someday you'll find a guy just like me, but "nice" and he will sweep you right off your feet again. Ok, maybe that means he'll be NOTHING like me. lol
Well, I would be pretty sure I am on VERY safe ground with the claim the future certainly hold more providers offering services to more mongers.
Who wants to be the devil on that one?
So may we ask how you met them? Your posting seems to lead one to believe that they were both former clients?
I believe I've overshared enough for today.
You'll have to stay tuned for the next episode of Days of Heaux Lives.
...about the life of hoes? LMAO!
low participation from the ladies. Of course we care or we wouldn't be here. The all male circle jerk forum is over on the competitors website. Just Google "Where do all my asshole friends hangout?"
if you don't think that LOTS of guys care way too much about what goes on in the private lives of hookers. Some of the guys here are completely enthralled about everything about what these girls do, what they think, who they fuck in their private lives, it's a rather unhealthy obsession with some.
And then there are douche bags like you who just spout off random insults for no good reason at all. If you hadn't noticed she was ASKED about her private life, obviously someone is interested.
At least when I am rude I am not "unnecessarily rude" virtually all my rudeness really is necessary, like when I called you a douche bag.
you know the person they are responding to has really stuffed his food in his mouth. LOL
I agree with both of them. Your comment was completely uncalled for.
but I decided there would be plenty of other times to kick his ass around for being an all around suck up, and given the choice between "suck up" and "misogynistic dick head" I guess I have to side with the suck up, even a BSU
I called him an asshole, GaG called him a douche bag.
Good. The universe is sane again!
I am an asshole, the douchebag is a douchebag. lol
by trying to tell GaG that he's NOT an asshole. . . . . or me either, for that matter. Lol
...about ANYONE's opinion on here LOL!
Especially the very proud and savvy "professional" hobbyists on here, LMFAO!
To write a Provider date Monger who played with provider, Romance Novel.
Did he have an evil twin? Or was he the outcast son from a rich "New Money" family in the oil industry?
Possibilities are endless.
An escort that I saw twice mentioned she dated a client. She was dating him the first time I saw her and wasn't the second time. I asked her about it. She told me that she felt like she had to be another person, around her boyfriend-client.
I was taught at a very early age where/how you meet your man is where you will find your man. I am just not into sharing my man with anyone else.
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one escort, whom i know very well in real life, asked me hypothetically. could i marry her? i said sure , then asked, what about what the guys in the neighborhood would say. my reply to them ---- "Sorry nobody would pay to sleep with YOUR wife! " LOL
A lot of guys expect the same "services" when dating an escort.
I, personally, do not have sex the same as a girlfriend as I do as an escort.
I'm way more communicative and honest, and tbh way deeper on an emotional level and curious about the "why's" with his sexual desires.
I'm willing to explore more, but my sexual "services" are less. Why? I want to do the "things" because of the "why's" but I want to do the "why's" first.
A relationship is a lot more than just sex. And if a male wants to date a female escort because he thinks he's going to get better sex, then he is dating the escort for sex and not for her as a person, point-blank.
A relationship is a lot more than just sex. And if a male wants to date a female escort because he thinks he's going to get better sex, then he is dating the escort for sex and not for her as a person, point-blank.
It's not only older clients of sex workers who misunderstand what sex means in a relationship.
Is she someone you are seeing as a client or someone you randomly met through the grapevine?
I do believe it's possible to date, be in a relationship or even marry an escort/provider under any circumstances... BUT just know if you are a client you have a bigger battle ahead of you in some cases
There are a lot of awesome women in any field... Be it a doctor, lawyer, school teacher or be it an escort!
Having said that this whole gamut does or can bring a lot of grey areas into question. Even the most secure person which I hope you are, can deal not only with certain aspects of her profession/life... But also you need to be an guard as there are a quite a few of these ladies ive met in this hobby that may not be completely on the up & up with you about certain things!
If there is no pimp, no boyfriend, no substance abuse issues... & by all means there is mutual respect chemistry go for it. Just know that some key being some of these ladies are very crafty & could potentially be trying to hustle you. Happens to the best of us with the best of intentions.
If all those boxes check off & there is completely open communcation you only live once. Just use common sense like you would with any woman.
Remember if she a quality persom with nothing to hide as is yourself.. She's just like any other quality women no matter what she does for a living!
COMMUNCATION & HONESTY IS KEY in any relationship!
But if you have any doubts to anything I've mentioned brother in my opinion I would highly reconsider or re-think the prospects of this working.
Good luck!
Does anyone have experience or advice on dating a escort as your girlfriend?.
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I fell in love with my ATF 8 years ago and managed to win the grand prize. She resigned from the Sisterhood and I gave up the hobby and we got married 5 years ago and we are still living the happier ever after life. The thought of her continuing to work was never a consideration for either of us because it was time to move on to the next phase of life. Dating an escort was not easy and it took a great deal of two way communication to get us to the point where we had dug up all the skeletons buried on both sides and knew that we could move forward and only look back at our time in the hobby with a reasonable degree of fondness. It was one of the reasons we logged back on to TER a few months ago just to see who was still here and there was the usual cast of characters actually talking about my wife on the GD board which brought back a bunch of memories. It s a small world indeed.
I have been to a couple of provider-hobbyist weddings, but have not pulled the trigger myself. I have dated several over the years, have no aversion to marrying a provider, but just haven't met THE ONE yet. Its great that you are still going strong after five years. I hope it continues to work for you. I read your review list and wanted to compliment you on your taste in providers. Its got some of my favorite local (SoCal) indies. We seem to like the same types when it comes to American providers. I see more Asian providers than American, but that's an acquired taste. I still see 12-15 American indies a year on average.
It sounds like you went about this the right way. With lots of respect and two way communication.
I hope you both have many more happy years together in the future.
Beautiful story Mr. Niceguy but you are the exception to the rule. For every happy ending love story there are many train wrecks 180* from yours. Met and became good friends with a hobbyist on this site two and a half years ago who fell hard for a successful provider and she fell hard for him. They continued on for awhile with him demanding that she quit the game and she said no way until he filed for divorced. Finally he caved and pulled the plug on his marriage. He was married to his college sweetheart and had two grown successful married daughters who now won`t speak to him. Talk about walking into a shit storm!
He totally signed off on the hobby, me and our friendship which saddened me deeply and I never knew how it ended. I can guess.
My very first provider 5 yrs ago sat at my kitchen table and told me the biggest mistake clients make in this game is falling for their providers and that doing so was a one ticket to hell. I`ll never forget her words. This subject is the most debated and written about here or on any other site.
Haven`t been over here in a while but nice to see the comeback TER has made and still moving forward. I see my man GaGa still holding court, lol.
Beautiful story Mr. Niceguy but you are the exception to the rule. For every happy ending love story there are many train wrecks 180* from yours. Met and became good friends with a hobbyist on this site two and a half years ago who fell hard for a successful provider and she fell hard for him. They continued on for awhile with him demanding that she quit the game and she said no way until he filed for divorced. Finally he caved and pulled the plug on his marriage. He was married to his college sweetheart and had two grown successful married daughters who now won`t speak to him. Talk about walking into a shit storm!
He totally signed off on the hobby, me and our friendship which saddened me deeply and I never knew how it ended. I can guess.
My very first provider 5 yrs ago sat at my kitchen table and told me the biggest mistake clients make in this game is falling for their providers and that doing so was a one ticket to hell. I`ll never forget her words. This subject is the most debated and written about here or on any other site.
Haven`t been over here in a while but nice to see the comeback TER has made and still moving forward. I see my man GaGa still holding court, lol.
I took one last shot at reaching out to him last Sept. and to my amazement , he replied!
He came clean with his wife which devastated her and his daughters, then moved out but they agreed to go for long and serious counseling. Meantime hooker GF didn`t stay in as close contact as he would have liked which hurt him badly. After awhile he and wifey after airing it all out begin to see what went wrong etc. etc. and how to repair it. Chagrined by lack of contact from the GF he started to dig up on her past with , Google, People Search etc. Turns out she has quite the sordid past. He kept digging and the more he uncovered the more it became evident she was tainted in too many ways to even consider trying to make it work. Counseling continued and to make a too long story shorter he is back in wifey and daughters full graces, found peace and is happy to have corrected his compulsive lifestyle.
This turned out well which is probably not the norm and now I can close the book and wish him well.
True story.