I'm a little paranoid of BBBJ's.  Do you guys think it's really risky?

very long discussion about BB in general below. see
http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=74062&boardID=12&page=1

Actually, that thread is talking about going bareback completely!  I'm just talking about BBBJ but every other stuff covered. Any one else have thoughts on this?

this topic comes up frequently and is always hotly debated. people on the "safety" side seem to get very angry at the mention of any form of unprotected sex.

my personal feeling is that if you've decided to have promiscuous sex, then you have decided to take a risk. THERE IS RISK IN SHARING ANY AND ALL BODY FLUIDS; there is risk in breathing the same air (did you know that tuberculosis was making a comeback in the united states?) so the "safety" people have decided that the only acceptable way to have promiscuous sex is to glove and gown up. i say, if i doesn't feel good, why do it? read "welcome to the monkey house" by kurt vonnegut... the solution is right there.

STD's like chlamydia, gonorrhea, etc can be easily treated with antibiotics. they aren't fun, can spread easily and quickly, and of course nobody wants them. but they really aren't dangerous, no worse than a bad cold or common infection, but somehow nasty and evil because they are sexually related. you can get chlamydia from oral sex - back of the throat contact with open tip of penis - swallowing does not affect the risk factor. gonorrhea is NOT commonly known to be transmitted through oral sex, but it CAN happen. HERPES can be transmitted by skin-to-skin contact. there MUST be lesions present for the disease to be transmitted, contrary to what some will tell you, but it's important to know that the lesions can be small, mild, and hard to detect.

i usually talk about bloodborne diseases, because they can kill you. HIV, hepatitis, syphillis.

1. highest risk for BBD is unprotected anal sex; thin lining to absorb fluids, prone to tearing. the receptive partner is at high risk, insertive at low risk.

2. unprotected vaginal sex, similar to anal, but the vaginal walls are stronger, less prone to tear. receptive partner still higher risk.

3. protected sex is next. condoms can tear, leak, and slip off. no condom is 100% certain to prevent transmission of fluid even if it does stay on and intact. if there are herpes lesions outside the area protected by the condom, then you are not protected.

4. uncovered oral sex is last. small risks of herpes and chlamydia. very small risk of gonorrhea. theoretically possible risk of bloodborne disease, but unproven. SWALLOWING IS NOT BELIEVED TO INCREASE RISK.

sorry for the long message. i could go on for days. i'm including a couple of the easier-to-read links:

http://www.thebody.com/Forums/AIDS/SafeSex/Archive/OralSex/

http://www.virusmyth.net/aids/data/rrbprostitute.htm

http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/pubs/facts/oralsexqa.htm

I wish we could just keep your post on the front page of the DB here so it wouldn't need to be constantly reiterated.

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Oral - Genital Sex - An Overview

   Oral-Genital Sex is commonly called "blow job; give head; go down on; eat out; lunch at the Y; etc." Once you get past that, you are o.k.

   Defined as oral stimulation of a partner's genitals, it may be male to female, female to male, male to male or female to female.

   Some people are convinced that their genitals are ugly, that they are dirty or diseased or that they smell awful. Let's deal with these feelings.

   Ugly - Females complain their labia are too big, vagina too "sloppy", clitoris too big or too small. Males believe their testicles are blue, penis too large, too small, circumcised or not, and it may have a noticeable curve to it (see Peyrones Disease). Hey, get over it - it is your body, different from everybody else's and a loving partner will accept and love it.

   There are a few diseases that you would not want to find on you or your partner's genitals. Don't go near an active Herpes lesion, Genital Warts, Gonorrohea, Trichomonas ( Vaginitis) or Yeast infections. A few of these have a very strong (dead fish) odour.

   You may not be aware that your partner has an infection; your partner may not know, so you must be responsible for your own sexual health…practice SAFER SEX. Use a condom every time.

   Both male and female genitals have their own distinctive odour and taste that, believe it or not, are an aphrodisiac for your partner. Oral sex may be used as a pleasurable part of foreplay or it may be used by itself for sexual satisfaction for both males and females.

   MYTHS ABOUT ORAL SEX
   #1. You can get pregnant swallowing ejaculate. NO.
   #2. You are supposed to be an expert on your partners genitals. NO - ask them what feels good.
   #3. Oral sex is safe for the prevention of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STD's). NO - we are now saying it is "risky behavior" for transmission of HIV.
   #4. A guy wants you to swallow his ejaculate. NO - If you're using a condom, you won't have to worry about that pressure. If you're in a long-term, monogamous relationship and not using condoms, you decide whether you want to do that or not. It won't hurt you, but many people find it gross.
   #5. Ejaculate, either rubbed on or swallowed, with clear up your acne or give you big breasts or eliminate menstrual cramps. NOT….. just another line guys have developed over the centuries. Tell him to grow up.

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