One of the most common needs that most of you ask for is discretion. Don't keep my information. Don't call me unless I tell you to. Well, it is a two way street and as many precautions that a lady takes, it is up to you to take responsibility on your end.
DON'T SAVE YOUR E-MAILS EITHER. I have heard tale after tale of ladies that have had significant others call after finding those. In some cases the lady can cover, but there isn't much a lady can do to cover when e-mails with details are all laid out for them.
I for the first time in this endeavor have had such an encounter without any means of explaining it away. Website address all correspondences......everything to leave no doubt of what they were all about. Needless to say, I did not appreciate the threats or the insults.
Discretion as my clientele well know is equally important to me and expect the same courtesy that I extend to them. The last thing I need is a raving lunatic wife with an ax to grind for the sheer fact that you did not cover your trail well enough. Please use the delete key.
Do not become to complacent....things have a way of sneeking up and biting you in the you know what.
Just a public service announcement-LOL!
Lauren
Thanks for the post Lauren.
While a background check is not everyone's cup of tea . . . the ladies sure have a hell of a lot more to lose than do most of us. Especial a known provider, where LE or some rip off isn't an issue, if you want to see them . . . cooperate. Those that whine about it and want to participate in this hobbie are beyond me.
for that. I beleive that it goes to the stereotyping that gents tend to make. To be a bit crude, some seem to have the attitude that all a lady does is sit around all day with a dildo shoved up her arse praying for the next appointment to come around and nothing to lose.
All have separate lives as the gents do and some do have the same basic need for discretion as the gent does for they do have a just as much to lose in ways of careers and families as much as the gent does. I do wish that more gents would take that into account.
As open as this forum is becoming, I do feel that to oft discretion is blown in the wind on both sides of the fence without regard to the consequences. Many are becoming to complacent.
Ladies do not think twice about contact, calling on a whim and not thinking about what compromising position she may place that gent in or his cirumstance. The complaints and stories I hear is enough to make ones toes curl. It is counter productive for the lady for those gents do not tend to see her again. Maybe I shouldn't say anything, for those ladies do tend to help my end of the biz-LOL!
Gents are bold enough to use unsecure email addresses and phones at their employ without thinking of the jeopardy that they could place themselves in or the lady they have contacted in.
The attitude seems to be...that they are all infallible and that is when they leave themselves wide open for something they think will never happen to them.
Discretion within this forum is a must. We can never fully protect ourselves, for if someone, no matter who, has you targeted that is it. Taking every precaution necessary will help those odds IMHO.
Lauren
Guys, if you're going to correspond with providers using e-mail, for God's sake, get a web based e-mail account like yahoo, hotmail, etc. They're free, and no one else who uses your computer will ever be able to find sensitive messages.
Also, when you're doing the corresponding, go to the library. You'd be suprised at what stays on your computer, even after you think you've deleted it. And today's divorce attorneys and private detectives are skilled in computer forensics.
Pulling up a provider's website at the library could be dicey, depending on how explicit it is.
Aphroditez makes some excellent points about discretion and confidentiality. Another one: ladies please don't send a group email to men announcing that you're back in town, etc. In my case today, everyone on the email list is shown. I live in a fairly small town.
I knew she meant well, and maybe she didn't realize that every email address on the list was viewable by everyone receiving the email. The message to the men: don't communicate in this business with anything but an anonymous email address, ie. stage [email protected].
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Here's a tip for the providers. If you only put the addresses in the BCC field, then nobody can see anybody else's email address. But, we as gentlemen shouldn't be using our [email protected] email address anyway.
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Also - people be aware that some viruses can attach themselves to e-mails and do a mass mailing to everyone in your address book.....Another reason to be very careful with your emails.
Who would want everyone they know get a copy of their e-mail to a provider..
Thake care .
Scot.