This person found me here on TER, and reached out. To inquire how much does that run?

I feel you should list on your website the menu items, and I think you do.

Yes, my point exactly.

First, if the person reached out to you on here, they have a vip. You cannot send pms if you don't have vip.

I don't know why my website did not help. I do not list every single S&M activity.  I did until I noticed I don't get very many strict BDSM requests it's all combination with GFE or PSE.

Should someone have to pay to see what TER considers premium content on their site? Sure, if they want to charge for it.

She didn't say that he reached out on TER, just that he reached out.

Listing every kink I offer would take lots it's a huge menu. For the past few years I had a separate page, but not one single BDSM strictly booking. I think having a separate website for BDSM will solve my issue. I used to have one when I had lots of BDSM only bookings.  

Most women charge a certain, set fee for many types of fetishes and or BDSM activities, then state the fee may be more if more elaborate gear is needed, or a dungeon needs to be reserved, etc.  
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That way you don't need to have 10 or 15 different rates, as just the one is needed, as long as you are clear that more elaborate play may indeed increase the rate. It isn't too dissimilar to a provider having one rate for GFE, one for FBSM, an uncharge for anal, threesomes, etc.  
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Having it all on one website makes it easier to follow, along with it being quicker as well to get the info.

Really, bdsm is very specific and can push limits so imo this has to be directly discussed

It was only a few threads ago that we were being reminded not to waste a lady's time by asking questions that are answered on her website.  As some of us said then, it's hard to do that when essential information isn't on the site.

Half your posts come across as you trying to get more “friends” and you ask questions that make it seem like you want to grow your clients. And, you want to make it more difficult for a client to understand your rates?

i'll do this for services but not rates. i'll answer basic questions, but anything too in depth, I will kindly refer them to my reviews. If someone asks me about rates, I send them my website. I don't think you are being unreasonable if your rates are listed on your website as well.

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I don’t think it’s fair for you to expect a guy to pay for VIP only to have to pore over all your reviews to find the one where the guy said he paid an extra $50 for foot worship.

as providers whose gallery or rates cannot be viewed on their website without either paying, giving up my email address, or both.  Such providers are an automatic pass for me.  

If you don’t have the rate listed on your site, why not just answer his question?

No! Not fair at all.

What you’re saying is fine. I understand when a provider doesn’t want to discuss specific services that are included. I prefer that’s clear on their website, but also don’t expect it. That said, I have read QB’s reviews and website. There are about 50 different rates. A fair amount is just because it covers different amounts of time. But there numerous categories with creative names that are hard to understand. Nothing in her reviews clarifies what these mean. The guy wanted foot fetish and wanted to know what that cost. Personally, I couldn’t figure that out from her website or her reviews. If he doesn’t have VIP and pays for it, he won’t get the answer. He will still have the same questions.

FBSM or BDSM?  

of LE concerns.  It could be a telemarketing police office looking for low-hanging fruit.  

Agreed. All of the basic information should be on the website. For specific information refer to reviews. Why make a potential client jump through hoops to get basic information by paying for VIP.

I think it is reasonable to expect them to read your website. And, I can only imagine how many time wasters you have to deal with all of the time. I think it is perfectly acceptable to ask someone who obviously has not read your website to read it. That doesn't cost them money, whereas VIP does. And while VIP is great for getting the details on your sessions, it should never replace your website for understanding rates. The rates on TER are listed in one area and are not matched to each review, so it's impossible to look at a rate there and know what rate was paid by the reviewer.

who listed about 40 services (not all of them according to her) on her website which provided me with a pretty good idea of what was available. Needless to say, I had a fabulous time and will be back.  

I generally won't deal with a provider that doesn't publicly list their basic services and rates.  Just seems fishy to me.

Rather then raise rates would rather not see them.

If I don’t want to see a client I simply do not have availability for them. My rates are my rates for all.

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