YES!

Sometimes I get that feeling.  Sometimes 2 or three times a day!

No business, no screening, no appointments ... just a man that TAKES ME!  Plunges into me with all his power .. uses me in every way and all ways and leaving me feeling used, spent and put in my place.  Sometimes I want that man, any man, to bring his friends and make me the centerpiece of the most carnal buffet I can imagine!!!!!!

But then I wait a few minutes ... and that feeling goes away on it's own.

I'm guessing you don't have someone in your personal life? That's what you're missing, and your feeling that way has little to do with being a Provider. It has to do with being human. You want somebody. Just like many people do.

I've been with my SO for four years. I can't imagine being a Provider any other way because that's the only way I know it. Having someone in my personal life makes it so much easier to be a Provider (for me), and being a Provider has so greatly made a difference for me in my personal life. I couldn't do one without the other.

Where there's a will, there's a way. And yes, you CAN be with someone while in the business. Most (?) of us are. And, YES, it does work, so don't feel sad that you can't or are on an isolated Provider Island. You're not. So, chin up, sweetie and start putting out the 'feelers' because there's someone for you that your lifestyle will work for him, too!

Hope that helps..

not having a SO in your life does leave a void. being a provider and making sure that emotional attachments are kept out of your job has to be a tough one. But staying active in all areas of your life is important as well. That sick feeling is something you'll have to deal with. good luck.

In my limited experience with providers (7) I have had one GFE.  I have seen people have a hard time describing what a GFE is.  They try to talk about what acronyms need to be available.  That's where they go wrong.

Services available, all or none.  It makes no difference.  A GFE is when you are with someone and you click with them.  You feel a connection.  It's 100% a YMMV type thing.  Many providers advertise it, but it's not something that a provider can give to any client.  Sure the sex can be great, and there can be good comfortable conversation and even friendship, but it's not the same as a true GFE.

I would never have really understood if I hadn't stumbled across it with someone.

So, IMHO it is comletely possible to have the passionate, caring, special moment feeling that you are looking for without dating someone.  But you have to be lucky and stumble across it, or be very selective about your clients.  If you only see the guys looking for GFE's then you will have higher odds of making that connection with somone.  Even if for only a little while.

I really hear you.  Being lonely is an irony of this lifestyle and an issue I have yet to work out.  When your business is about intense albeit fleeting intimacy it makes sense that you would crave something more substansial, safe, and entirely your own. It's so hard to find the right balance and to let down your guard with someone when you've spent so much energy cultivating those very same guards.  It is possible though.  

I try to give myself a massage every other week.  I have a great and trusted therapist who makes me feel nurtured and refreshed and I feel like he puts me back together again.  PM or E-mail me for reference.  [email protected]

If it's financially possible I would suggest a short vacation.  Go away for the weekend and reconnect with yourself.  Meet a stranger and tell the truth about yourself.  It feels good.  I've done this and never had anybody react in a negative way.  

It might help to see a therapist.  Find someone positive who wants to help you move forward and not to dwell in the past.  Emphasize that you don't want to be "fixed" but that you want to talk about this specific problem you are having.  If you PM me, I can give you a reference.

I have been trying to develop more friendships with women (both in and out of the business) if you are like most providers I know you probably don't have that many strong ones.  But, I'm finding that they really really help.

Or maybe you just need a puppy that you can love and

In return for your love get unconditional love back just for being you without fancy hair, lingere or makeup.  Be loved in your bathrobe and slippers with the flu that is what I need.  A puppy or a man someday but I cannot be in a relationship and be in the business I cannot find the place where they merge but that is just me.  Everyone is different.

It would seem they require a very special kind of man.  What are the qualities tha make a guy successful in this role?

I thought I was the only one that felt like that..thanks for sharing.

Love to you,
Elise