I have been doing this for many many years. I am the first one to advise guys to view our sessions with providers as performances and not to read too much into them. So, this is not a falling-in-love post.

Tread lightly. But hot nonetheless if you really know what you're doing. You are either a true Dom or not. There's no middle ground and there's no pretending in that realm. Good luck to you.

Yeah man.  Gotta treat a woman like a ho if that gets her off.  I grab her tits til my finger marks are left on it, slap her ass around silly, dick slap her face like she isn't worthy of sucking my good cock, and basically manhandle her till she gets bruised, and I fuck that pussy til she's sore. Sometimes she starts bleeding because it was too rough

There is something unbelievably orgasm inducing about erotic asphyxiation play.  In the heat of the moment (with a willing partner) grab her throat and give her everything you've got.  I guarantee she will absolutely go wild.
 

et used to wearing an orange jump suit

.Charlie Sheen said I'm not paying for sex.I'm paying for prostittes to leave. Thanks sharing!

I am no David Carrodine.  We are not talking to the point of losing consciousness lol.

I'm not here for the sex, I am here for the money. Those two ought to get together. Sounds like a match made in heaven. At least there will be no overstaying, whiny love crap to deal with. Pay. Fuck. Leave. Roll in money.

She was trying to anticipate your desires, and channel the type of provider she thought would be your 10/10.

I haven't seen her yet, but she advertises that she is a sub and 90% of her reviews are such. I've never done dom yet and it sounds like good fun with a lady who is willing to be a sub. I've thought about it many times and I'm sure what I'd want to do is after the greeting agree on a safe word and then excuse myself to shower up and tell her it's game on when I come out from the shower. It sounds like fun, especially since she is a professional sub. These sessions are just fantasy anyway, so why not experiment a little. My GF in college used to tell me "treat me like the dirty little slut that I am" and she got off on that stuff. Probably why when I get comfortable with a provider and I ensure that she knows nothing is meant by it I like to dirty talk both her and I. Again, this is fantasy, we all like to extend beyond our normal selves now and then, look at Holloween.

To me, this is not a de facto description of "treating someone like a ho".  I domination is more about will, desire and pleasure, and not really related to unnecessary roughness.  

Posted By: BadMotherfucker

Yeah man.  Gotta treat a woman like a ho if that gets her off.  I grab her tits til my finger marks are left on it, slap her ass around silly, dick slap her face like she isn't worthy of sucking my good cock, and basically manhandle her till she gets bruised, and I fuck that pussy til she's sore. Sometimes she starts bleeding because it was too rough  
   
 Now, before the ladies get alarmed,  I only do this if she requests a rough one. I tend to be gentle otherwise.  

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I'm getting into pro subbing pretty soon here (thanks, Kat!) and that shit is complicated. We all have our boundaries, so I'd be too chicken shit to just put that on a note and hope for the best.

I can't count how many times in my youth I was invited to a willing girls party , with three or four guys  
having a gang bang celebration with her .  
  I always refused to attend those events , my mind found the thought of it repulsive , though I felt no  
 ill feelings toward the girl or her gang bang friends .  
   
   A couple times I tried those girls on for size , with her and myself  alone .  
 I never  got the  feeling she particularly  enjoyed  being treated nice with one guy .  
 
 To each their own is my motto , as long as everyone participating is there on their own free will .  
 
   I had a full time GF ask me to come home from work , storm in the door , throw her to the floor and act like I was raping her .
    When I emphatically said NO ,  she continued to try to convince me how much fun play raping her  would be .
 When she persisted with her plea though I continued with NO ,  I found my  fun dumping her , and finding another GF .  

I do not advertise as a  dom/sub provider. But I have had those requests come up....I have usually acquiesced, while naming certain limits (i.e. I enjoy being *lightly* spanked)

How about whiny snot nosed imbecile.

It should be Giraffe or something so off the wall that it couldn't be confused. I suppose there needs to be a level of trust. Personally, I don't take the dom part to be about the spanking and what I mean by that is that the spanking doesn't need to be hard, but more a punishment  (symbolic) for not following instructions or directions. I can understand if a guy is spanking for pain that a lady shouldn't trust him. I haven't done it yet, I want to do it the first time with a pro sub so that I can get some feedback from her afterwards. I think it's interesting, it's not something I'd be interested in on a regular basis though. It's cool to step outside the box now and then though, especially when you have to be so conservative in your daily life.

At least that is my experience...and I've been with pro-subs over the years.  But many more who are gals who advertise GFE but also will explore the dark side with me.

The truths you describe are abundantly clear to me, which is exactly why I want my first time or two to be with a pro sub so that I can get that feedback. I'm not sure, because I haven't experienced this yet but I suspect the best dom/sub experience would be when you encroach the safe word. If you get close enough to it without her having to utter it. So by doing it with a pro once or twice, she can give you hints as to the telltale signs. I have no intentions on hurting anyone, physically or emotionally, it's just a fantasy thing. I suppose when I do it the first time with a non pro, it'll have to be with a friend I have seen quite a few times so that there is some trust. Plus I can always show her my certificate from the pro, lol

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See a ProDomme and have the Domme do to YOU what you had planned on doing to a sub.  Once YOU have experienced that scene understanding how the sub may react will become quite evident.

As long as I've been in here, I didn't know there was a BDSM board. I guess that shows either how new I am to the idea or how unobservant that I am. Cool, I'll have to check that out. As far as being the sub, I'm mot sure I'm there yet, although I guess do unto others, huh?

I've never been with Kat but was introduced to this "sub-ject" by a girl who's since become one of her crew. The gal in question is a lifestyle submissive and taught me some wild stuff.  It's not something I need/want to do very often and would never do it unless invited. I would certainly have to at least believe she wanted and needed it.  If it's obviously an act, that's a turn-off.

I don;t get it but I don;t half the kink around here. As long as it is consensual who knows what drives one to allow that type of thing or what drives one to do that type of thing.

My college GF loved to be called just about every dirty name you can think of including the C word. At first I sucked at it, because I wasn't confident with it. But she persisted and I opened up, she absolutely loved it, I mean she came like a woman possessed. Not because I'm any kind of a stud, but because she went after hers totally unabashedly. I wish I had a video camera back then and would have taped her, and even if I'd have taped just her face with sound. That woman came with more intensity than I have ever seen, those tapes would have made for some great spank material. I came home from work a couple of times and caught her masturbating, no hesitation in her or embarrassment, she just kept going until she was done, I think I didn't catch her and that it was planned. I bet this will come as no surprise but she was a pshyc major. After we discussed it a few times it made sense, she was a bookish, quiet girl (quiet except for when she came) from a comfortable, conservative upbringing, so she wanted to visit the other side sexually and she got off on being used like a little fuck toy and talked to like one too. My point is that she could just let go and be totally in the moment with total confidence that it was just fantasy. I wouldn't want to be a dom with a provider that is not a pro and not be confident in that role as it would either be too reserved or take the chance on going too far, better to learn the ropes with someone experienced with it I guess.

Nearly every GFE gal that I know or have seen would do that scene with you.  That's not a BDSM type of scene.

I wouldn't have picked you as a sub but as a mild dom.  I've got an extra Invisible Fence dog collar... You can adjust the intensities...

"Oklahoma!" for someone I see.  I agree that use of that word accidentally is unlikely.  At least around here.

Funny thing, I'm looking to try the dom role.... Maybe we can mix it up?

I've always leaned more towards the submissive end of the spectrum. I think it's because it takes a confident dude to dominate a beeyatch like me.