I have been seeing a provider on a regular basis for a number of months.  She is a very nice lady.  Recently the quality of the sex has been rapidly going down hill.  I stongly suspect that having sex with me has grown very tedious for her.  I am bored as well.  I am not blaming her for the boredom but think that I am the one to blame.

In the past if I was going to stop seeing a lady I would just not call her again.  That always seemed like the simplest solution.  What can anyone say that will make things better rather than worse?

My question to the ladies is If one of your regulars decides to stop seeing you for any reason would your prefer that he say something or that he just vanish into thin air?

I know you didn't ask the men, however, if I'm seeing a lady on a regular basis, I would very much like her to tell me if she decides to retire or stop seeing me.  I can't stand not knowing why she is no longer responding to my calls or emails.  On the other hand, I suspect the norm is for someone to just disappear.  Too bad.

If she wants to see you she'll call -- if she has your number. Either way-- don't call, this is a business.

I would say that it depends on the lady that you've been seeing and how mature she is when it comes to an issues like this. I would personally want to know that a regular was going to not be in touch because I would really be concerned. Then I know what the business is that I am in and I know that the great part is, the freedom to see whomever. Same thing in your case.

If your ATF is a professional she will understand where you're comin from and be confident enough in herself that she may even give you some recomendations.
If your ATF is the complete opposite of this then move on and play the field a little! Good luck!
Stacee

Well  the right thing of course would be to let her know your no longer going to see her !  As I thought the whole purpose of this was the fun and excitement and the thrills it brings!!  Isn't it?

SensualAthena
http://www.ohmarcella.com/kitten/athena.html

If I see someone a few times and then don't see them again, I assume they have moved on. As I understand it, most prefer some variety in their visiting. It doesn't bother me if I am "off the short list", whether that is for now, or for always. I would be unhappy if someone kept seeing me and thinking, "there has to be something better, why am I here...".
On the other hand, if someone I had seen regularly for a LONG time (more than a year) just disappeared, I might be worried. Especially, if they weren't an active online poster or something that would let me know they were alive and well, just moving on. It wouldn't hurt my feelings if they dropped me an email to say, "lookin' for some strange, I'll get back to you sometime". It doesn't have to be the absolute truth, you know. Even if you have no intention of ever seeing her again, be nice.

If there was something specific that gave you the feeling she didn't want to see you anymore, you could let her know you've picked up a vibe from her. It could be she's just become so familiar with you that she doesn't try so hard anymore.

not the first, nor the last, regular client that stops seeing her. Ladies fully realize that this is a business and that guys like variety. I'd venture to say that you've already given this far more thought than she ever will if/when you stop calling.

so I dont have to call.

In my opinion, the thing for you to consider here is how dependent she's been on your sessions financially.  If you've been seeing her consistently 2-3 times a month (or more) for a long period of time, then I think you should definitely tell her you need to take a break for a while.  Because she may need to take that in consideration for her financial planning.  But if your visits have been less frequent and consistent, then I would offer the folling opinion.

All people fall into routines and things can seem old and dull at times.  If you make some grand announcement that you are going away, it may make it more awkward if you decide to see her again or change your mind in a week.  Try giving it a month or two and see how you feel.  You may just start missing her and the absence will make your next encounter that much more exciting!  But in my opinin, I would rather just imagine that one of my regulars found a nice lady and that's why I haven't heard from him, not that I was boring him, know what I'm saying?  But if she's become dependent on your visits financially, then perhaps a little announcement would be kind.  Just my thoughts, hope it helps!
Veronica LA

It should always be a unique experience each time you see a provider.. we do our damndest the first time to have you come back again.. IMHO It should be the same thing the 2nd 3rd 4th 25th time you see her.. It is our job to provide that to you...

Be honest with her

If it was me I would hope that he at least drop me a note saying anything he feels comfortable with, be it that he is needing a bit of strange, or what ever. But at the same time my oppinion may also be influenced more than a bit by the fact that one of my clients dropped off radar completly a bit over a month ago and when I finaly found out why I was devistated to learn he had passed away suddenly. You do not need to tell her why but remember we girls care for you guys and do appreciate knowing that you are alright should you drop off our radar. Beyond that we all know that this is in large part about variety and few of us are truely so possesive that we would want anything but the best of times for you.

I'm shocked in this day and age that race is a consideration as to whether or not you will see someone.  Men are men!  Unless I'm confused...

I would have respected the provider if she had said "I'm not attracted to black men, so I'm sorry I don't want to see you."  That's not prejudiced.  That's personal preference.  Me, I lean toward Caucasian and Asian men, but you know there are some good-looking black dudes out there!

I had one gentleman contact me, nice professional man, saying he was black and would I see him!  I told him I like clean, nice, neat, professional men who treat me like a princess.  That's all that really matters to me!

Celebrate diversity!  Love, Bethany Sweet xoxo