When making an appointment with someone for the first time, to me seems awkward. You don't know what they like. Dirty talk, no talking. moaning, ect. But, That part I can get through. So We have a great session and we both get off (well I do. I love sex and having the man go down south), but after that what do you do? We both got what we wanted so now what? It just seems awkward to me. We don't know each other and, well, what do we do after its all over? Am I the only one who feels this way?

When in doubt,do it again...

It is hard to know where to start and not write a book but I'll try.  At 23 you are probably seeing the younger gents and may be some of the mature seasoned gentlemen that I love to endeavor.  But as so many of the younger folks believe this isn't all about just the act.  Even many of the young men haven't figured out why they never totally feel fulfilled.  If you knew and understood it is about bringing the mind, body and soul into the encounter you wouldn't be having these awkward moments of what now.
When your gentleman leaves what do you hold on to as a remebrance of your time together.  If your measuring your time spent with sexual performance more will blend together than set them apart. Some clients will be able to DATY and others will try and fall short of Nirvana more times than not.  So what sets them apart.  Them as a person that is unique like no other.  And the only way you find out how truly remarkable these gentlemen are is through getting to know them.  You need to engage in meaningful conversation that draws out their uniqueness.  While your conversing, you discover the strength in their hands as you gently hold and caress them. As he speaks your eyes will tell him  how impressive he is. If you look with a open mind and heart and seek discovery beyond just the physical attributes there will be very few awkward moments.  
If you feel your not very strong in the conversation dept you need to develop your interpersonal skills.  I hope at your young age you are working on continual personal development.  If your in college take a small groups dynamic course, social pysch, personality theory, and speech.  All these classes will help you to better understand the people you come in contact with. How to read body language, and how to learn what you would like to know about the person in front of you. If you develop soothing gentle body language yourself they will respond to the questions you ask and realise your are truly interested in them as a person and their unique and special life walk.  If you always realise that your clients are more than just a penis and we women are more than just a vagina......your clients are usually educated professional people with much to share and to learn from.   Learn how to drink in the nectar of the mind and soul and the body will always follow.  I hope this helps.

After reading Cheridan's reply, there can be no doubt why this woman is my ATF. Now if I could just find some way to convince her to be the SO. Sigh.

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Ya know what? Some guys go for the female companionship...a certain area of it that is a very fine part of life. Both of ya just had a great romp. Ya both sport that "just freshed fuck glow" and feel the waves of well being and satisfaction. Ya both reach gratification. Both of ya are naked and the body posture you feel is less inhibited. We've reached afterglow. In this time I like holding a lady near me and we can glide our hands over each other, cuddle, kiss, and just feel good together. I don't have a problem with conversation at this point. Even momentary "shared passions" can lead to momentary intimacies where just sharing body warmth and company...I'm digressing, obviously because this is a large part of the session. That's a big part of sex for me. There are certain types of providers who see that in me and share it with me. Guess what? I may want a longer session because of it. And it's stuff like that making me a regular. There's a time to feel comfortable and it seems that some of us won't be at a loss for words.
Flyfisher...a sexual sentimentalist, always.

WOW!!! Now I'm all warm and gooey inside, if I was a woman I'd fuck your brains out...for free...LOL...

I don't know Cheridan and absolutely that is my loss, but you have to love a girl that is looking for more "practice" you know? As they say, Practice makes perfect..." and FF is pretty damn close...


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