How do a provider feel when their client cannot always achieve an orgasm with her?

My regular provider got pissed at me yesterday and now will not talk to me.

She's not getting paid by the spurt is she??

I used certain substances that prevented me from having intercourse. Can understand my wife or girlfriend getting angry at this, but one of the reasons I see a provider is for the purpose of enjoying sexual relations while substance impaired. Told this provider, if it bothers you, will be happy to find someone else to accept my money not to have f/s. Other providers have been very understanding, cooperative, and even managed to have a great time. Wonder which ones I will see in the future?

Knowing this is for the ladies to respond but I am talking for one provider I meet regularly in my hometown and had this to say:

I had pre-booked a local provider for an extended meeting but the night before I got an unexpected visit from my girlfriend who drained me out in all realms of the senses until early morning.

The next day I visited this provider, that I have become a regular client of and the first Pop was awesome but there were not anymore as hard as we both tried. Her question to me was if I did not like her or she did not satisfy me as before? I responded by saying that it was not she but I and did not go further with the conversation but she was really pissed though.

I guess some providers are eager to please the client and start having second thoughts of their performance if their regular clients are not performing the usual raising a flag of they might be doing something wrong.

My .02 cents if anyone cares,

The Good Doctor
PS. It has not happen to me again since I have made sure to drink plenty of carbohydrates and protein drinks to recover rapidly.

There is more to my story than I have disclosed but suffice it to say that she understands that I cannot always attain an erection and definitely cannot orgasm every single time.

She may not have known that I had not taken my Viagra (for which I have a prescription for) beforehand and I was just happy to be hard enough to penetrate her.

She had an orgasm and I stopped after I realized this (this is normal for us).  She gets very sensitive right after her O and doesn't like to be touched or even move when she is in that state of being.  She just kind of freezes in motion for a few minutes.

Is she feeling guilty for allowing herself to
and not holding off until I was ready to finish at the same time?

you can't keep it up for very long. I go to a provider because I'm not a porn star that can keep it up for an hour or longer. Needless to say, anyone that gets upset about that never receives a repeat visit from me.

Even some of the regular MP girls will take it personally if you are not able to get off by having sex and have to finish with a HJ.  If that happens I tell them I just want to watch them for a change and not have to do any of the "work".

P.S. Aspuser, Rosalba never answered the email.  Suggestions.

right I hope.  I have been waiting for her to show me that she is starting to care about me as more than just a client.

Or did I misinterpret your cryptic response (as I typically do when it comes to girls and love)?

If I have it correct, then what do I do now to fix things...leave her alone ......or come on strong .....or just take it slowly again?

Re:Sounds like LOOOOVE to me.....or a huge ego problem..

Care to expound on that reply a little more....

Re:Sounds like LOOOOVE to me.....or a huge ego problem..

I only meant that your provider may have either developed feelings for you (yeah, it happens) and, maybe she is even unaware of it herself. Or, its possible that her sexual ego is damaged by the fact that she is unable to "achieve" in sync with you. Of course, I am completely speculating. I don't know the situation or people involved. These are just two possibilities amongst the many.

I get sad when I cannot finish someone.  They went to a lot of effort to see me and I could not complete the main thing I was there for.  When guys do substances that mess up their ability to finish or start, it feels frustrating.  Either we work really hard and don't ever finish you, or we just end up sitting around watching some dude get high.  How boring.

I am in this to have fun too.  I want to connect and feel you deep within my...soul.  If you don't finish it is frustrating.  Women often don't finish.  Men almost always finish.  Just as men feel bad when the woman do not finish, women feel worse when men won't finish becuase you always finish.

If you are having problems just smile and say it is you and not us.  It is okay to tell us you forgot to take your viagra.  Then providers can know we are not inadequate.

I think that providers are stupid to get angry.

This must be someone who is new, or young, or just ignorant as I use to be.  When I first started being a provider I assumed all men had orgasms. Stupid me read to many books, watched all the wrong movies, none of which ever made it sound like someone might have this difficulty. The first times I encountered it I thought it must be me and felt like I had somehow failed.  I would never dream of getting upset with a client over this. I have come to label this the deprivation syndrome.  Lack of sexual intimacy for extended periods of time is one of the main contributing factors.  Many other variables may play into this as well.  What would be really helpful to a provider you are seeing for the first time is  some insight if you know this happens more times then not.  Direction is never usually a bad thing.  Intimacy is achieved at different levels and a provider is there for the way that floats YOUR boat.  Not ours.  Unfortunately, we're not mind readers so even if you don't orgasm usually you know what still makes it special. Let us know in the beginning  so we can make it as special and fullfilling as possible.  

Hugs,
Cheridan

Yeah, I must agree with you. I have heard so many stories of guys getting high and forgetting of you ladies but thank GOD I am not one that use such substances and much less the Blue Pill yet but have failed in the past for not sleeping/resting sufficiently and what I previouslly stated.

I used to get real frustrated if I could not get off a provider or a provider faking it since it makes me think I was not doing it correctly or for whatever other reasons she was not enjoying it.

Is good to hear a female express her point of view.

Very much appreciated,

The Good Doctor

-- Modified on 12/5/2001 1:48:47 PM

Great response and great attitude.

I've had it happen both with the hobby and in the personal life.  Sometimes it just isn't there.  On the other hand, there was one time with a provider that felt like an act from start to non-finish rather than the connection you're talking about.  But often, a change of position or a break works for me.

Provider, are you staying anonymous? (I'm a sporadic reader, so maybe this has been covered.)  I would enjoy seeing someone with your views.

DVB
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I just wanted to post an answer to my earlier thread because mu urologist pinpointed my problem as a prostrate infection causing me not to be able to ejaculate.

Six weeks of Cipro and I should be good as new.