A lady recently posted on several borads that she was touring my area. I called the day before, set up a appointment. I followed up with two phone calls today to confirm the appointment. I gave her my screening info and everything seemed fine. She told me she was showering and would be over in two hours for our date. An hour after the appointed time and I'm still sitting here waiting. I've called twice and now only get her voice mail. On one of the messages I indicated that if for some reason she has to cancel please call and let me know. I even followed it up with an e-mail. She has directions to my hotel, phone number and cell phone. Talk about being unprofessional! Its stuff like this that gets a lady a trashed review and then she comes back like someone did her an unjustice. No excuse for not calling at least to cancel. I know I would give the same consideration.

The reasons for no-showing are as many and varied as the a**holes who have stood her up and no-showed in the past.
They are not your fault. It happens, because people are people and life is complex. Don't blame yourself. She'll be calling and craving you soon, offering you bbjteomw.
Yesterday a hot leggy, long-haired pouty-lipped Dutch 19 year old naughty vixen cancelled after four phone calls and being on the way. Left me with an opened bottle of Pouilly Fouisse that I can barely spell, and certainly cannot f**k.
This afternoon she calls, comes over out of the blue, and does my brains out for 2 hours for 2 Bens, not to mention she is intelligent, clever, articulate, gorgeous ever-smiling, amusing, leggy, and has a bubble butt. Also has a velvet mouth and tongue. How do you explain bbjteoku!
She made me miss evening church and a sermon on how to avoid the temptations of tits and clits. LOL

Take it in stride. Move on. Seek out your next special experience, and for get about the last one. When you  figure out everything about vixens, give me a call and explain. No shows are a part of life.


-- Modified on 6/2/2002 6:31:22 PM

-- Modified on 6/2/2002 6:46:07 PM

Here is the freakin clincher. She calls me 3 hours later. Part of her screening process is to verify that I've seen another lady. IMHO this is the stupidest and laziest screening method for it may verify I'm not LE but it does not confirm I'm a good client.

Anyway, she said she just got called backed from the lady I offered as a referal. I call the lady since she is a friend of mine and she said nobody called her for a referal of me. So that was a lie. I called the lady back and during our conversation she said she spent the last 3 hours at Hooters drinking with her friend. Not only did she offer the info that she was with her friend but she was plastered and could not drive out. Hell 3 hours later I wasn't asking her to drive out anyway. She wanted to re-book something for the next day but I declined and told her to spend it with her boy friend.

Sorry to hear that Nightrider. I agree with you 100% " Very Unprofessional" But I disagree to the reason you mention regarding this is the reason provider get bad reviews. I have read a lot of different reason provider get bad reviews. There are also bad clients. Everyone is intitle to his/her's own opinion.



-- Modified on 6/3/2002 11:05:17 AM

I did not sy this was the ONLY reason why a lady would get a bad review. This situation was just one reason. YMMV in any interaction with another person. I am as much responsible for a portion of how the encounter will turn out as the lady is. But if she doesn't even show due to the fact that she would rather go drinking at Hooters after scheduling an appointment, then that is totally uncalled for in that situation and it is all on her for not having the common courtesy to call to change her plans.

I know how you feel... believe me, and I am not the only lady who has driven across town to a hotel room, set up the candles, made the room beautiful, got the wine glasses out, showered, primped, etc.... and essentially spent two or three hours getting ready for a gentlemen who didn't even have the courtesy to call and cancel. It happens to all of us on BOTH sides of the fence and I do know how you feel, BUT, shucks honey...maybe something HAPPENED to her. We are all human here and honestly, sometimes despite our best intentions, life happens. Flat tire, broken down car, sudden cold, or maybe just not feeling well... honestly for me if I am feeling even a lil' icky and think I may not be up to seeing a gentlemen, I'd much prefer cancelling than giving him a sub par experience. Give the lady at least 24 hours to respond to you.  In this technical age, technical difficulties also happen. So at least give her the *opportunity* to respond and make it right with you before you fly off the deep end... if she never responds, feel free!

That's my perspective. I know how you feel, been there babydoll, done that! But take a deep breath and give her the CHANCE before you decide to throttle her with a horrid review.

Hugs*
Nicole

Night rider,
I am sorry. You said Its stuff like this that gets a lady a trashed review.  My apoligy.




-- Modified on 6/4/2002 10:18:45 AM

Hey, NightRider!

Sorry to hear you got stood up.  It's a shame that a courtesy call was not made informing you about the no show ...

Here are a few suggestions that perhaps might help avoid this scenario again:

i.  Have the provider give you a call an hour before your scheduled appointment time, or just as she is leaving her house/apartment

ii.  Be patient.  Allow 15 - 30 minutes for delays, etc.  If she is running late past 30 minutes and you have not heard from her - call her, and leave her a message.

iii.  After leaving her a message, all you can do is wait for her response.  If no response is received within 30 odd minutes -- more likely than not, this provider is NOT going to show.

iv.   if there is a NO SHOW, you may want to follow up with the provider and inquire as to what happened.

Use your best judgement in terms of posting a review.  

I guess you didn't read the guy's follow up post. She apparently did call him back. Life happened alright. A detour to Hooters to go drinking with her frined. It didn't take 24 hours for a response. More like 3 hours and a buzz later. Mind you this is after she confirmed the appointment. I think I would be more pissed at the fact that she had the nerve to call back to tell me she decided to go drinking. Even more pissed if she asked could she reschedule. I'm sorry but I'm not in college so getting it on with drunk lady's just doesn't appeal to me.

I'm Out!

Now Hit My Music!

I think he did all of the things you suggested. Also read the "clicher" post he put out on her response. I would not post because of the fact that she was late or as in this case did not show. I would post because of the reason why she did not show. I'm sure she had to have been drunk when she told him the reason why she was not there. If she was sober, I'm sure she would ave made up a plausable story, i.e. lost, car broke down etc. Not ill will would come of that.

Put it this way, if I blew off work to go out drinking I would be ass out of work looking for another job. Its a question of priorities. The lady could have kept the appointment and then went out with her friend with a few $ in her pocket. Not the smartest move in the world.

I'm Out!

Now Hit My Music!

The number of reviews this lady has on TBD, there is no way she is LE unless she is on some national juridiction LE agency and she does this to moonlight LOL. The FBI pay can't be that bad.

No, of course I didn't see that... and in that case, I think it's only fair for him to post that info in a review!

As for drunk ladies... well I very very rarely drink, and I have no tolerance, so a glass of wine is enough to get me tipsy... but I'll tellya honey I'm a lotta fun when I'm tipsy! LOL!

Hugsssssss*
Nicole

Interesting ... Almost the same thing did happen to me a week ago .. with a difference of place and depth of arrangement...
Sorry for my English - it isn't my primary language.
The person I'm complaining about (a lady) had/has even my email (along with phone number). Hm... no response yet...Believe me, I had very simple needs and nothing inadmissible, don't think that I somehow showed I'm not a responsible customer ...
IMHO, it's definitely unprofessional and "dispels the appetite" though, I don't think trashed review would be a good continuance of this story ...

Nothing personal, ladies. And of course I must and I will ignore such misdealing - no doubts we can find more apt and appropriate "candidates" ...

I am not sure where we ended things on TER policy regarding this...can you post about an encounter that didn't happen? Can you call it a "rip-off", even though you are not out of any money (save that for a hotel room potentially)?

I believe that you should post. The only way to stop unprofessional behavior in ANY industry is the hold the service providers accountable, and like ANY industry, the way that is done is via word of mouth. Other hobbyist should know that she is so unprofessional.

Yes, "shit" does happen...people get flat tires, etc. And I am sure that many clients stand up providers...some get cold feet, others do multiple bookings and close the deal with the girl who provides the best offer without bothering to notify the others. I know I am guilty of attempting to book an encounter with several ladies to ensure that I *DO* receive service on the date / time that I am available (since I am in a "real" relationship, rebookings on the providers schedule are seldom feasible). I confirm with which ever ASP gets back to me first, and respond to the other if / when they bother to contact me that I am no longer interested.

What happened to you however was blatant disregard. This lady has no respect for her clients...she probably thinks very little of them. My guess is that she thinks we are all poor lonely hard up pathetic bastards, and she can simply come to collect her cash and do the deed whenever it is convenient for her. She are her friend probably had a good laugh at your expense that evening..."yeah I was supposed to see this guy, but whatever...I am sure he will just jerk himself off to sleep, and I will get with him tomorrow. It isn't like he has any other options, like a GF or whatever..."

Prove her wrong. You HAVE options...more professional providers.

And as long as I am on my rant...gentlemen...the day you stop letting women take advantage of you...be it your time or your money...is the day you will find you have much better relationships with them. Women respect...and are attracted to...men who demand respect. The guy you like to think of as a jerk or an asshole (assuming he really isn't one...say abusive or whatever...) is the guy your ATF is dating in her real life...because he doesn't sit by the phone desperately wanting for her call, he doesn't loan her "tuition money", and he doesn't obsess about her endlessly. She sees him as in interesting and intriguing challenge, versus a walking ATM machine with nothing better to do than wait on her for an appointment that she already knows isn't going to happen...