I am fairly new to this hobby and just had an experience which I hope is not normal in the "Hobby World". Just to get the record straight, I am not writing this post out of anger or to hurt anyone.  I am only writing it to try and understand the issues.

My first experience with a provider was so good that she had become my ATF, until yesterday.  I have had dates with some other providers but I just didn't click with them as well as  I did with that very first one.  

Our first two dates where great and she "seemed" to enjoy the time together as much as I did.  She enjoyed the time so much that after our third date, she ask me to spend the night "free of charge", which I did.
Also the next morning we exchanged phone numbers so we could call each other as "friends" which we did.  The last time we spoke, she ask if I wanted to come over for dinner, watch movies, have "play time" and just hang out, which I did.  We "seemed" to be developing a friendship and discussed "playtime" and "hangout time" and she offered me a discount for "playtime". At this time I assured her that I would never ask for free "playtime".She "seemed to have  such a wonderful time, she once again ask me to spend the night "free of charge" which I did.  Then the next morning we discussed me returning that evening to watch one her favorite movies and just hang out.  I ask her to call me later to set up a time and she ask me how late I planned to work. Later that afternoon I text messaged her that I was home and to give me a call when she got a chance.
 
Now this is where it gets strange and bizarre.

 She text messages me back not to "text message" her again because she isn't going to "read them".  Then I am totally confused and called her and before answering, she hangs up on me.  Assuming (stupid me) that it could be the cell phone service, I call again and get her voicemail.  I left a message that I am a little confused of why she will not read my text messages.  She text messages me accussing me of being a sick f**k (which I am not) and informs me never to call her again.  I responded by informing her that I am not a sick f**k and that I will never contact her again (which I will not, to much talent out there).  She responded with a "f**k you" and accused me of being a cheap f**k (trust me none of the accusations are true I have paid this lady very well). late that night she text messages and accusses me of being a cheap f***ker to which I did not reply.

I have a great deal of experience with women in the civilian world(even though I will never claim to understand the female species)but never had one treat me this badly.  Are the rules of mutual respect different in the "escort/hobby" world ? Definitely do not want to be treated this way again!

Any words of wisdom from the veterans and/or providers to keep this from happening again would be greatly appreciated.

Signed,
Dazed and Confused

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-- Modified on 4/6/2006 1:46:36 PM

I'm as dazed and confused as you are.Unless maybe she thought {by mistake} that you did something rotten to her,I'm at a loss for words.It's a shame too....it sounds like you had something really good going there too.

that it may have something to do with a misunderstanding about those "free nights".

Nothing is ever "free", and if a provider does offer such a perk, it should be somehow renumerated with a very nice gift, if not more.

But then again, it could be a million other things.  

Let it go.

I did bring gifts wine,flowers and chocolate.

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If God is a woman, I'm going to hell, and I'll never know why!!

You did something to piss her off

or she thought you were paying someone else & she was giving it to you for FREE

or Last, she wanted you to be her boyfriend & she realized you weren't interested in her that way.

love, Cinderella

This Jekyll/Hyde act is classic of someone on a Drug/Alcohol or other Substance Abuse Binge. While under the influence her mental process got warped-out and she become Paranoid, Angry & Hostile. I know a person Just Like This. Basically it is her own "Self-Hatred" that comes out whenshe gets all _ucked up.

you've got a problem.

Substance abuse, yes, or perhaps she was supposed to be on some meds & had quit taking them - quite a common action among those with depression.

Lighten up !!

do not forget where you are it has nothing to do with you

what does humor have to do with it? but I am perfectly capable of seperating fantasy from reality and this situation had both, which really made it alot of fun!

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That might explain were all her money is going but then again it may not.  She doesn't seem to be using drugs.

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If I were him I would have my review of the lady removed from TER. I am a paying member and have done this myself in the past. I take mine down if I give a good review of a provider, and then subsequently have bad visits for whatever reason. Being discreet is a very wise thing for both hobbyists and providers in matters of conflict. The truth ALWAYS comes out in the end, but by the time it does, a provider could be out of business, or a hobbyist could get blacklisted, both undeserved.

1.Thanks for the advice on being more discreet.  My mistake.  I was not thinking clearly when I began this Post( see change in poster).  I certainly do not want to hurt this providers reputation in the business, she is way to good at what she does and way to classy to hurt.

2.There is no logical reason for me to be "fired" everything seemed to be going quite well until the change in behavior.  I always treated her with the greatest respect and kindness.
3.I want the first copy of the manual please.


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I know I did something to piss her off but can't figure out what that was?

My spending the night did not include free "playtime".

I thought the whole idea off this Hobby was not to cross the line and get involved.

He misinterpreted my, If God is a Woman post as a real opinion. It was just a joke. But the fact is I have been in the dog house many times without knowing why my wife put me there. I'm sure all males have had this experience at one time or another. I didn't mean to make light of your situaton, but we've all been there, and sometimes a little levity helps heal the spirit. Good luck.

I think I have more humor in my pinky sir, than you do in your body.

My post was only intended to take your point about God perhaps being a woman and exaggerating it a bit to show the folly of speculating on a subject so off the wall as the gender of the almighty.

But now that I have to explain it in order to defend myself from being called an old crabby ass, it loses all its punch, don't you think?

but the gals seem to read me like a book.

Highandtight has chunks of guys like you in his stool! lol

No...Highandtight is a good guy, he has been around for a while in Chicago and always has a smile when he posts. Not many people funnier than he is, not that I have seen in my years around here. Don't take offense.

Now me? I am a grouchy old bastard!!

Thanks pal I need the luck and another awesome GFE provider.  I guess all women are the same, sooner or later we men are going to end up in the dog house!

I never called you an old crabby ass, did I? I called you a misinterpreter. Either you didn't get my point, or I didn't get yours. That would make us even. Lets let it go at that.

And I have no doubt that you have more humor in your pinky than I have in my whole body. However that is no big deal since I have been on a major diet, and now weigh only two ounces!!

Thank your lucky stars that this bizarre behavior manifested itself early on. As you say, there are plenty of others out there. If you patch this up, odds are you'll be doing it over, and over, and over .......

Or maybe it was just the world's worst case of PMS

I think this is the right angle, but I'd guess it's not drugs per se.  I'd lean more towards bi-polar or some other emotional distress.

If you really want to find out, give it a couple days and call to apologize.  See where it takes you, but even if it works out, be prepared to replay your last experience.

Good luck

no, really....I have alzheimers.

(That's another lame joke, son.)

I think you hit the nail on the head acidom.  Unfortunately I do feel a need to find out why this happened,  It is hard for me to have a clear conscience if a great gal thinks I did her wrong and I can't "fix it"  So I guess I will be making that call.

duh! tell me something I don't know. (lol)

Since I'm over 60, I haven't heard that in quite a few years.

In that case, I'll call you grandson.