Take a point or two ..but the written content of who the lady is she has to be reputable ...and therefore a lot of great ladies who have mastered this ....
Happy Holidays xoxoxo.....
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Posted By: Madame Patricia
Just curious what providers & hobbists think...
I personally feel if your an active part of this adult playtime community, and have good reviews, with other's in this field that will vouch for you this makes you reputable.
Not everyone is going to respect you because this industry is not really respectful.
Be on time, respectful, kind, nice, sharing, pleasant, and love what you do.
Very well said .....
Posted By: ilovegfecim
Be on time, respectful, kind, nice, sharing, pleasant, and love what you do.
There are plenty of women who have reviews, and are still flaky as hell. They don't call to tell a client they are late, don't respond to emails in a timely manner, don't bother cleaning up their incall/hotel, don't respond to reference requests, etc. I am talking about TOP providers, but because they are hot, they get a pass. Also, many providers lie about their age, have outdated pics, and blackmail for those 10s... that's not reputable at all. There is so much more to your reputation than looking good and spreading your legs.
I want people to know (men and women) that they can count on me, and when I say I will do something, I do it.
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I totally agree. Professional in every sense of the word. If I am going to be late, or not show communication is key I will gladly notify the individual ASAP.
Great points.
Now here is a provider who knows what integrity actually means!
So many providers think, that because they fuck good, or look Hot, that it translates into Integrity. But London has once again, spoke up, and set the record straight!
Hmmm??
Can we really use the word integrity around here??
In a business sense, I suppose we can?
So true.
It's all those things that add up to make you a good person, whether in your personal world or the business world.
Just as with any business (this included, since at the end of the day a sales transaction has taken place), it's the same things discussed earlier. Being on time. Being consistent. Clear communications. Under promise and over deliver. Building trust through an understanding of the client's needs. Knowing when to walk away from a transaction when what you provide is not what the client needs. Keeping confidential information private. Being a good member of your local community.
Having recently moved into the General board instead of strictly hanging in my local one, I've quickly discovered a new group of ladies with style, class, intelligence and wit that I believe to be solid and reputable. LR, you are one of the tops on my list of Good People here
being where you says you'll be when you says you'll be there. Good communication skills and delivering the goods, thats what makes you reputable to me.
You represent yourself accurately, avoid lies of commission and omission, you do what you say you will do at the time, place and price at which you promised to do it.
"Nothing that is undertaken is to be undertaken without a purpose, nor otherwise than according to a principle which makes the art of living perfect. "
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It's not difficult if you put yourself in your client's position. That goes for any business.
I've been seeing a top-rated provider for months, and I've reached the point of being fed up. Takes forever to return phone calls or emails if she returns them at all, lies so transparently that I question anything she says, has rescheduled me a couple of times for what I think was fitting in another customer, and in general takes me for granted. She'll send the "miss you" or "can't wait to see you" sort of emails, but if she's trying to drive me away, she's doing a good job of it.
In my career, I worked with ad agency art director who are notorious for their egos. I kept notes on what sort of snacks they liked, beverages, wives' names, kids, hobbies, everything. When the art director arrived in the morning, I had fresh strawberries, muffins or whatever else he/she liked, favorite beverages on hand, favorite music on the stereo. I sent gifts for their weddings if I wasn't already invited. I sent gifts when their wives had babies. On big-money jobs they almost always got some sort of gift (kickback). In short, they expected to be treated like royalty, and I did so.
Now I do internet retail sales, and keeping customers happy is so simple I can't believe that other retailers can't do it. Send a thank-you email right away when the order comes in, letting the customer know when the order will ship and when he/she can expect it to arrive. Ship same day or next day. Follow up with an email to make sure the customer received the order and is happy. If there's a problem, address it to the customer's satisfaction as quickly as possible. That's it. Simple. My customers rave about my service.
The providers I've seen make more per hour than what I was charging when I was in advertising, and I know they don't have the $20K a month overhead that I did. If they can't handle simple customer service, hot or not I can't see how they'll make it in the long run. There will always be another hot provider arriving on the scene. If she's smart enough to treat her customers well, she'll leave the ones who don't in the dust.
simply having a voice, having the correct marketing and advertising to showcase who you
really are, not speculation, and the reviews simply to back all that up.
For me personally it has a diverse frame of dynamics where everything has to all work together. I personally give this world just as much time as I do in my real world, you have to, to make it work I believe. For me it's not only the packaging, it's the how...it's not as simple for me as some gals here where they can say, "hey, come on over I'm free". It takes me days, sometimes weeks to schedule with someone after they reach out, plenty of pre-planning and communication involved, as well as usually hours to get to my location, the hotel booking, the restaurant or lounge to meet, the wardrobe I take seriously too, as I personally take pride in never wearing the same thing twice.
I cater each date to the feel of each gentleman and how he has reached out and what I feel as tho would suit him best as no 2 gentlemen are alike. So yes, professionalism stems from a passion to want to do this and how you package yourself should reflect just that. And hopefully the gentleman you are with recognizes the details involved and why he has spent his hard earned money on you afterall. For some of us it's not so simple as it is for others, but we love it, which is why we do it.
There is also an interesting dynamic to this world that is different than the 'real' world in that 'trust' is earned first and foremost before all else. We are to trust these gentleman, who are completely anonymous strangers to not hurt us, to pay us for our time diligently and be on their way. In the same breath, they are to trust us that we are who we say we are when we show up, we deliver the goods the way we have marketed ourselves, and then we go on our merry way....without bother. It's a hug and a kiss and most of the time a great memory.
But Madame, you are correct, this world is a very cutthroat world and respect is an interesting facet of that along with many other things I have learned in my short time here and in coming back..... even with all the criticism. I will forever be criticized for my past here and that's ok, as we all aren't perfect and we learn and grow from what we've learned. The key is to live in the present and NOT the past. If you believe in who you are and what you 'provide' despite what anyone else has to say on these boards or the backchannel or wherver, your reflection and your reputation will speak for itself with only 'time' on it's side.
Sorry for the novel everyone.
I wish you all a happy holiday. Truly.
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I agree reviews are part of being reputable but there is more than goes into being reputable than just having reviews.A provider can have reviews and be consistently late,ncns,doesn't return calls/emails/texts in a timely fashion.I have heard of this happening countless times from gents who are dealing with highly reviewed providers many times nothing is mentioned in a review or on the board so the behavior continues.
Being reviewed and actually being prompt on returning calls and emails.
I pride myself on returning emails in a very timely fashion and providing a great service
Being on time and provide what is expected and not coming to gents with drama or asking for loans.
That is reputable.
Just my .02
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For those threads that consistently ask "What is your ideal body type/looks...." the answer is, Jayda! Just sayin. Perfect boobies, slim, dark hair, light skin...the exact opposite of Moi ha ha.
Not that they are mutually exclusive, at all.
But appearances are very seldom what they seem.
If I hear laudatory praise of a girl from a client I trust...I will believe that. I don't trust just any client though...some clients' opinions I wouldn't trust at all. If I hear laudatory praise on this site...I'll be 10x more likely to suspect the girl of 'gaming the system.' But, it does depend on the context and who is giving the praise.
Generally, guys will 'shill' the girls who do the most the best while asking the least...the best way to get 'in' with the 'boyz' is to do ANYTHING (I mean anything) for massive discounts (altho just being willing to do ANYTHING seems to work, as well). So if the 'boyz' ALL agree that a girl is otherworldly...I'll be suspicious.
That's the lesson I learned from falling for the BS the same way any guy would...I chose my early girlfriends very badly (with one exception).
Some women on here...I trust preliminarily, by the content of their posts. But by far, the women I trust most are the ones I've met face to face.
Anyway, to answer the question - reputable to me, just means that she runs her business in a semi-professional manner without ripping anybody off.
Because we basically came up with the same conclusion. My last sentence is pretty much equivalent to your own post...so are you calling yourself 'dumber than whale shit' too? LOL.
My observations are backed up with concrete experience. Since I entered this business five years ago, I've gotten to know a great many 'reputable' and even 'otherworldly' girls and have worked directly with a few as well (as in having been together naked with them and another dude, and getting to know them IRL). While I don't claim to know everything, I think that I have a VERY rich well from which to draw my [[dumb as whale shit]] observations. 
No matter whether a person is offering the best quality product, good product, or even mediocre product, I value very much the sense of not ripping people off. You can have the best quality product and still be ripping people off, hence I sometimes shake my head when I see reviews of 10 in looks but 1 in performance - feared for my life or something similar it's called.
I want my reputation to be centered on not ripping people off
True, you can't make everyone happy...
BUT if you are confident that you pulled out all the stops...you had candles lit, champagne and fresh fruit served, you insisted upon getting on top 3x for an hour each.....you genuinely squealed when he f***ed you, gave your BEST damn head...you took every toy out of your bag, you doused the dude with massage oil...you put your ALL into the session...
if he STILL doesn't come, then there's nothing more you could've done (within reason, anyway).
But just not ripping people off...it isn't that much.
I think I know what you mean, but have more confidence in yourself
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There are girls who will do that and more...and by more I mean any or ALL of the following:
-OTC
-costumes/role play (whatever the dude desires...if they don't have costume, they will buy it)
-rimming
-toys that might hurt, submission ranging to light spanking to things that are actually dangerous
-anal
-anal w/technique or toys that might hurt
-double penetration w/technique or toys that might hurt
-creampies - vaginal or anal
-receiving (and even drinking) golden showers. Same for Brown showers...if you can't believe that, do a backwards search on the NY regional board and read some corresponding reviews
Some of these girls are young and college-educated, believe it or not. There are also girls who are *no limits*...
That's the market we work in
One whom delivers the services as promised, without deceit. Reputable providers deserve and get my total & utmost respect. It's a very tough profession & I am so appreciative it exists.
I look to see if she has a majority of good reviews or an established positive reputation. Everyone is going to have one or two haters/bad reviews and I have a knack for spotting BS from those who just have an axe to grind.
It helps if she is sober and plays safe.
Trustworthy and honest. Ethical. Always trust your gut, it never lies
If I see any hint of risky practices that is a definite red flag for me.
