Have a tendency to take every part of my life too seriously. Even this...

Saw Lungman had a HA last week...its a reminder to me why I started hobbying. Life is too short.

i hobby to find partners to engage in a particular fantasy.  not every lady will participate with me (just had two tonight email me, saying it wasn't their thing).  no problem , don't hold it against them , i move on...

however, i do find some ladies more than willing to play the roles i ask for. but then...

more than one lady i have played with has gone onto the boards and adverised that they can "specialize" in this event.  and invariably they get a lot of sh!t from other people, telling them how disgusting they are.

i never go into specifics in my reviews or on the boards because i know people, even here in this hobby, are not open minded, or mature enough to see that consentual fantasy is not the same as doing "it" in real life.

so, i wish folks were adults and open.  but they aren't.

I draw the line when people think that this means that we are "friends" or "buddies."  We aren't.  We just happen to share a common view in wanting to find hot girls and knowing that the quickest way between point A and point B is paying for it.

I know of a few people on this board who have crossed that line, and have mistaken sharing of information via PMs and sharing certain common views on the board for me being their "friends."  I'm not.  Not to be mean, but I have no interest in being anyone's friend.  Sharing information via PM and on the boards is fine, and I'm more than happy to do that.  But I don't need people PM-ing me and telling me how their day went.  I honestly don't care.

Sometimes I think people really fail to understand that, and those are the people I end up having issues with.

But as far as just keeping it to the issues...agree 100%.  The board works wonderfully for that, as long as we keep it to JUST that.

Beautifully captures what the hobby is really about.  These boards allow a conversation between genders that reveals there sexuality, and allows questions to be asked that are usually off limits.

... but unfortunately there will be a few who will not. Even some will make fun of Elle's post.

I never understood those kinds of people who are so narrow-minded.

I am here to engage in civilized and constructive conversation, but there are a number of people who just don't get that at all. Not sure why.

If everyone had the same mentality that Elle has, then the forums would be a great place to hang out.

Right now, it seems that any post (including this one) that anyone makes is subject to ridicule or getting flamed. That's a sad truth.

Serpius

Posted By: ElleJ

I just wanted to remind everyone that the beauty of this hobby is the access to different people and experiences you may never have the chance to experience elsewhere. It's about creating memories to last a lifetime. It's about doing things you've always wanted to try. It's about finding someone special (albeit for a specific amount of time). It's about letting it all hang out and being who you want to be.

As I read the boards, I see so many hobbyists caught up in... who's who? Am I saying the right thing? Should I really write this in the review? Should I admit that I've fantasized about that? I wonder what everyone else thinks? Was this post good enough?

We have a great community here and an awesome platform to express ourselves and exchange loads of invaluable information. But I also think our community is made up of a diverse array of fantasies and interests. There is no need to feel policed or under scrutiny. Perhaps I'm feeling a bit nostalgic, but I like to think that this hobby is the one place where you can share and revel in your deepest desires without shame or judgement.

I just thought I'd remind you. Happy Monday!

Awesome post ElleJ. I got absolutely the best compliment I've ever had in my life from a provider, she said "you are a free spirit". If you knew me in my professional life you would not ever consider me a free spirit. Some may say I've sold out (being who I don't want to be to make a living) but I disagree, my professional life and the income I get from it allows me to hobby and be with people I want to be with. There's a movie that came out last year (Sleeping Beauty - not the Disney version by the way - a good movie, I recommend) in the movie a guy goes up to the bar and asks if he can sit next to the leading lady of the movie, she says of course and he sits down. Then he says to her "some people fake their deaths, I'm faking my life" and that's me. I feel most providers are wonderful, wonderful women. I would be invisible to the ladies I see if it weren't for this arrangement, and I'll say that you pay for it one way or another. This way I know her motivation and she knows mine, most providers make you feel like a king for the short 2-4 hours that you're with them and that's perfectly fine with me. I'm not at all naive, I know that it's a put on but I don't mind being lied to if it's on purpose. Happy Monday.

I have never done this before but I have always wanted to. My only question is how can one be sure that he is not walking into a police run sting?
I did pick a girl that meets, or exceeds my desire, and she does have a long list of what appear to be real reviews, and she has a list of previous postings going back over a year.
Am I right to assume that this is as safe as it gets?