Ladies always ask us guys not to mention the unmentionables in any e-mail conrrespondence.

What should we think when we (the clients) get naughty responses from providers via e-mail?

These are from well reveiwed providers, not the CL crowd. Nothing very explicit put still a little unsettling.

I did not think we were suposed to discuss this at all?

If you find e-mails that are "bawdy" or "sassy"
"unsettling",then you should change your hobby to butterfly collecting.

Btw, it's spelled "language" & "reviewed".-----

Why, if someone does not play like you  or the majority play, do people recommend they leave the hobby (both provider and hobbyist)?

There is room for everyone on every level. I hope restaurants don't start this crazy practice. If you don't like Mexican food, then don't go out to eat...utter bullshit!

I Like innuendos but not nasty emails...it is a lack of class to discuss certain details with someone you never met. IMHO

I prefer that emails with providers not contain anything sex-related.

I'll discuss practically anything else in the world, but not sex except in very intellectual terms as a topic not pertaining to the two of us.

Why? Because sex is reserved strictly for what is compensated behind closed doors.

I do not think my attitude in this regard indicates that I should take up stamp collecting.

you might wanna start with "The Sound of Music"------------

The only issue I work with is keeping emails which might allude to acts, which would be illegal to pay for, separate from emails talking about money.

It is sitting right next to "Predator."

illegal about talking about sex in an email.

and there is nothing illegal about talking about money in an email.

There is something illegal about talking about sex for money in an email.

Usually what ladies take issue with is prospective clients asking what the rates cover, and what services the ladies offer.  That is putting sex and money in the same email...that is a problem, that is incriminating.

The naughty emails I have received have just been that naughty emails.  No mention of money. So, nothing incriminating there.

You are contacting a lady through an email account that is (more likely than not) directly associated with her provider or companion website that DOES discuss money. Perhaps I'm a cynic, but I don't buy the idea that all the disclaimers in the world of "compensation is of my time only, anything two adults choose to do with said time yadda yadda" are of any sort of legal assist when the cards fall. So then, why add more legal fuel to the fire by further associating sex with anything even remotely associated with money?

Now, with friends I already have a pretty strong established relationship with, I sometimes can't help but let a few phrases slip here and there. With folks I haven't seen before, or have only seen a small handful of times, however, I tend to reserve any comments I may choose to share for our face-to-face time.

Maybe you guys and girls can give me some advice here. I have recently contacted a well reviewed provider who has requested that I send an email and give her specific details about the type of session I am looking for so she can quote me a price. She has also asked for a deposit and reference. The request makes me nervous. Anyone have a similar experience and how did you handle it?

that these were unsolicited emails where he had never contacted the lady before.

Perhaps she has screened him from his initial contact, and feels safe making sexual banter in subsequent emails.

If he passes screening enough to meet alone in a room, it seems a touch disingenuous to then say he isn't safe to flirt with or make a few innuendos in an email.

That, and not all emails sent to / from a business address are business...case in point:  some clients email from work accounts...that doesn't mean they are paying from an expense account or that the boss is giving them a long lunch to have an appointment.  *grin*

Your defense of your client would killer!

your testosterone does not overrule your good sense. Thank you for being a gentleman who understands the need for discretion. Can I clone you?

She is asking for specific details so she can quote a price?!?!

huh?

Ummmm...is this a fetish session?
I could see perhaps needing details to be able to figure out the price for a fetish, especially an involved fetish that would require some kind of preparation on her part.

If this is just FS, GFE or even PSE I don't get the need to give you an estimate for the work order...
even if she charges more for Greek or couples, you shouldn't have to give a list of specifics to get a quote.

Sounds a bit like she has an a'la carte menu, where you pay for each item separately...even if it weren't really weird I would avoid that type of pricing structure, if that is what she has.

You got me...
I am stumped...
and confused...
so, I'll graciously let Miss Eve handle this one.  *grin*

As for the deposit, maybe if she were traveling to see you, or it is a particularly long date (24 hours or more type long) I could see a deposit to insure you aren't going to cancel after she travels to you, or after she clears her calendar for a long appointment.

The reference...that's pretty standard, so nothing weird there. I am comfortable in you giving ladies references...well usually, maybe not when other stuff might be very weird.

I hope it isn't the one tied to your TER account... This smells worse than the mortgage melt-down.

IMO that was a dumb-assed thing for her to do.

You can probably just ignore her. Many ladies will read your reviews to see what you might like.

...and I don't do deposits.

I appreciate the response. The provider I am talking about does in fact do several different types of sessions including GFE and fetish sessions. Her website states that emails should be kept simple and that she can read between the lines, yet she is asking for details. I don't have a big issue with the reference, but I do think that a good reference from another well reviewed provider should eliminate the need for a deposit.

I am just very wary of leaving such a paper trail.

You either talk about it or you do it.

On the other hand, if a gal wants to sit on my lap, we can talk about the first thing that pops up.

OK, I'll go sit in the corner for a while.

men.  You basically just troll the board looking for your next pissing contest.  Although it makes you no different from the rest of the regular providers on this board, they at least will add something to the actual discussion once in a while. You are just a sour ass man hater!
As far as the OP, and priapus53's response, I gotta agree with #53.  The OP says "I thought we weren't supposed to discuss that stuff".  I think that is only if the lady does not want to.  If she wants to talk dirty in an email, great!  I don't have a problem with that.  Of course I'm not one who thinks that the Vice squad, FBI, and CIA are monitoring every keystroke I make.
What Priapus said was just, "Hey, if something like that "unsettles" you, maybe you need to think about some hobby that is less stressful"!
Agreed!  1000%  People put all kinds of shit on this board, which is easily googled to see just what you write (hence a lot of cowardly aliases used LOL), but a private email unsettles you?
I'm surprised any of you pussies are even in this hobby!  Afraid of your own shadow! Take up knitting, or make a quilt, you'll be much happier, and I don't think "big brother" watches that type of activity very closely! LMAO

This should be sending up all sorts of red flags.

I would run from this provider as fast as my legs would carry me. Unless you are flying her in from out of town or she is incurring expenses on your behalf, I would under no other circumstances even consider sending a deposit.

One thing to keep in mind, if she plans on keeping your deposit, there will be no "paper trail" of a session. She will just have your money, and you will be left with your dick in your hand. lol Don't do it.

Here we go again with the accusation that she who speaks her mind and disagrees with certain types of men hates all men.

You would be correct in saying that there is a certain element of male attitude and behavior that I greatly dislike and avoid those that are afflicted with it. To the others who are secure and not frightened little boys who lash out at every opportunity, you are very much appreciated.

Just another angry little boy, chucking a temper tantrum. Did you bully the girls in school?

a GFE, PSE, or particular fetish session--don't give details.  Unless the date is of a long length or she has travel expenses to come and see you, don't do a deposit either.

This multi-request on her part smells.

is totally fine, and makes for good discussion.  She who speaks her mind only TO disagree with men has a problem.  And as usual, any male who points this out to you is an angry bully, "chucking" a temper tantrum.  An intelligent woman can MAKE a good argument, and back it up. The rest will only cause an argument, then call herself a victim of intimidating, bullies.  You also confuse  concept of the frightened little boys who "lash out".  The frightened little boys never lash out, they post things like "agreed litter-bike".  They are frightened that you will not accept them, and love them for being subservient wimps!
The rest of us, on the other hand could care less about the acceptance of an overbearing, gas bag, and will take the opportunity to call you on statements like that.  That's what you don't like.  Sorry!

BTW....Still waiting for your first post that even mentions what is brought up as the subject on a thread.  For someone who cries "foul" as often as you do, you only post to direct your anger at a male, and never to the subject of the thread.  This thread seems to be no different!
You have become the GD board "mosquito" serving no real purpose other than being a constant annoyance!

Read whatever you want into what I have posted...I could care less.

You have become the GD board "mosquito" serving no real purpose other than being a constant annoyance!

Says you...a majority of one...OK now I'm running scared.

I'll be sure to agree with everything any male says on here so as not to upset the men (so I will lie through my teeth here). No skin off my nose...it's an anonymous john board.

So here's the start...you are absolutely right...I hate all men and I only come on here to be the boards anoyance. I will now bow to your superiority and say whatever is pc for a woman to say on this board....how's that for a start?

Just pullin your leg dude.

I am soooo happy I have your approval...now I can go forth and serve.