I am now 28 and been hobbying since I was 18.  Right when i got started, most providers would not see me because of my age, that has changed as I have gotten older but it's still an issue as some providers still will not see me because of my tender age of 28.  I understand it's a question of maturity, but has anyone else ever had this problem????  just fyi..i work full time, have my own place, its not like im sneaking a provider into my room after my parents are asleep.

i draw the line at 38.....after that...it should be retirement time....

"After that" maybe you can just move along to the next ad instead of suggesting that the ladies retire?

I've known both civvies and providers over 38 that could fuck you or anyone under the table, thank you, and looked hot while doing it.

Yes, the perfect 25 year old hardbody is nice, but the best lovers in my life have almost all been over 35...which, by the way, is when a woman supposedly hits her sexual prime.

But I guess that's not a priority to you.

You can not make generalizations in this business. Everyone has his/her taste and preferences. Besides age is not the only issue. Some people consider weight and some others race, etc.

He's forgetting, and it's his loss, that while you buy the sizzle, the steak is what really matters.   Best to go with the experienced chef.

No wonder why we prefer older gentlemen. Thank goodness I have a 28-year old who thinks I'm sexy and the best lover he's ever had.

Hugs,
Ciara

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I have been in the hobby since I was 21 or 22. I am 30 now. While I have never been rejected because of my age, there have been challenges finding providers who will see me sometimes. Usually this can be overcome with deligent research and above all showing some maturity in emails and on the phone when contacting them.

I have also upped my age sometimes with success, you probably could safely up your age to 30-31 on the appointment form.

Usually providers are worried you are too young to have money, will fall in love with them, or they have had a bad experience with someone under 30 and falsely assume everyone under 30 is that way.

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Since your original post seems to have been hijacked and there is only relevant post, I thought I'd chime in.

I started hobbying when I was about 23 or so. I'm 27 now. The reason was simply - its more 'efficient' and I'm in the business of being efficient.

The problem arose as I was naturally attracted to what most would term 'MILF's. In fact, I was once turned down blatantly due to my age, even though the girl I was going to see was probably my age, but the lady that ran the agency didn't like it. Funny thing is, I called back a a couple months later, and the lady didn't even ask my age and I was through - worked out pretty good.

But I've seen many ladies post age limits on their ads, either at 30 or 35. One I just had to see and simply called her up and told her the issue. After talking for a while, she 'got a good vibe' and told me that she really didn't like to see young guys under 30 because they do drugs and are usually disrespectful (her words, not mine). She did however agree to see me, and she loved it. I almost became a regular of hers. I've seen other older providers as well with really good results. The oldest I saw was a very reputable provider in her 50s. She simply loved the fact that I was interested in seeing her.

I simply prefer providers with a good reputation. These women are usually older than I am. Some younger providers are good, but after reading so many posts, I've come to think of them as 'fly by providers'. And also, at the risk of stereotyping again, many posts have put me in the mindset that younger providers usually have a higher likelihood to not be drug and disease free. I know that I've tried to break the stereotype about young hobbyists, but perpetuate the stereotype of young providers. Butif they can prove me otherwise, I certainly love to see them.

I've never really found all the reasons behind why providers dont like the younger guys. Maybe they can help us out here But I'm sure every problem can be solved. The issue about being  a druggie and disrespectful can be figured out by talking to you. One provider in Austin once told me she didn't like the younger guys to spend their parents money on this. I assured her this wasn't the case, and she saw me.

Botttom line is, tell the provider your situation - be honest. If they get a good vibe from you, they'll invite you over. If not, explain your case and have some references from similar providers - this seems to work as a last resort. If the final result is not favorable, move on and try another. There are tons of providers out there.

Just my opinion... and good luck gettin 'em!

I am 63 and 38 is still younger than my daughter.  I draw no lines, and have the best experiences as a result.

The age thing is a case of YMMV.  Since I am still new to this, so far I have chosen providers who are within 10 years of my age (mid-40s) since I figured I would relate to them better.  There are plenty of attractive ladies in their 30s, 40s, and even 50s, and even if they aren't physically perfect, they will more than make up for it in attitude.


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In addition to what Happy Traveller writes, a few other possible points:

1. legal problems -- 18 years old?  What if you're a mature looking 16 year old, as I was.  In addition to the legal problems involved with providing, there could also be stutory rape complications as well;

2. too damn horny -- at 18/28 you ought to have no problem getting 2 cups in an hour, even three.  That might be more work than the lady wants to subject herself to [this in fact did happen to me once, in a somewhat different guise] ;

3. inexperienced -- at 18/28 she's assuming you know jack about lovemaking, and have no concept of how to please a woman [in fact, you probably have no concept that you ought to try to please a woman].

These things are red flas to most providers.  But they're not that serious, IMHO, and an be easily overcome with just the slightest bit of extra effort on your part.

Best wishes and good luck to you.  hope you find a great ATF soon who will make all those problems academic.

I would never lie about my age to a provider as some of them check your id.  If you lie about one thing with her, she will loose complete trust.  I was turned down by one provider because of my age last week.  I had researched her ads, website, and reviews and she had not mentioned anything about age preference.  I was very crestfallen but that was unprofessional on her part asking me my age less than an hour before the appointment and not stating age preference in her ads.  

I prefer the ladies 28-38 years old, as I am 26 and still not much experienced and they take their
time with you.

........20 something ladies to shame. I'm just amazed at her skills in the bedroom. She has the body of  a woman 20 years younger and the sex is unfucking real.....I'm completely hooked on the MILF. These women know their bodies and know exactly what they want in the bedroom.... No wam bam thank you mam stuff here.

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and wisdom is the key to sexual satisfaction.

I see providers from their 20's to 60's and they are all wonderful in their own way.

As for a young man who thinks they are too young, try writing in a mature style to a provider and see what happens.

You may just be surprised.

It's not just the age, it's how old you sound.

thanks for all the responses everyone.  i'm actually seeing a provider next week in the range of 35-40 who, by the conversation we had, seems genuinely pleased to be seeing someone younger.  I guess the addage of "just wait til you're older" still rings true

However, stating 'someone 28-38 take their time with you' is a brazen statement. You've obviously never been with an older provider, hon. That's what we're known for, my dear. Now . . . come here for your spanking. Yummy!

Hugs,
Ciara

Maybe some of them are not seeing you for other reasons and using your age as an excuse.

i'm 25 and generally don't see anyone under 40, for many reasons, mostly based around my own personal preferences (i'm much more comfortable with and much more attracted to older men). maturity of course is a big factor, as is life experience. while i have made an exception here and there and seen men who fit all other qualifications and were in their mid to late 30s, i would never go so far as to see someone still in their 20s or even early 30s.

women mature...emotionally, physically, mentally...far earlier than men, and i feel that a significantly older gentleman is more my natural complement than someone closer to my own age. also i'm not the "teacher" type of provider...meaning, i don't deal well with someone who is very inexperienced and trying to learn the ropes so to speak. instead i prefer a seasoned older man who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to ask for (or demand) it. plus older men are just plain sexy, sorry. *blush*