I had a date scheduled with a provider I have seen several times. It was a three hour date. One day before the appointment ( over 24 hrs) I woke up with a cold, trying to be respect full, I left it up to her rather than can cell or just show up anyway ( she wouldn't have known I was sick as it was just a fever and headache). She decided to cancel. After she said it really hurt her financially. I offered her slightly over half the amount if she would come and get it. She does. After I get better we begin planning another date. She then tells me that the "cancellation" fee, which she never asked for, I offered, cannot be used for any future dates. This was no $125. It was 6 hundred. Am I right in being pissed enough to cancel the next date? If this is how she does things I'm not sure I want to give her my busssiness any more. For the record I only asked that SOME of the money be used for the next date, not all.

And ask your fellow mongers to PM you for the specifics.

to the next date?

If so, then she has changed the rules, and I would advise not going back to see her if she reneges like that.

On the other hand, if nothing was said, then you are at fault if you just assumed the money was transferable to the next date.

A cancellation fee is not unreasonable, but I agree that $600 is pretty steep.

In any case, you seem to be a bit soured on this gal anyways, so if I was you, I'd probably be looking to take my business elsewhere.

You should be pissed at yourself for giving her 600 bucks without a clear understanding as to how the money was to be applied.

See her again? not see her again? Only you can decide that for yourself. Personally, I would not book with her again under any circumstances after this, but then again I never would have shelled out 600 clams for a date that never happened in the first place.

Maybe I'll try some of that and demand the next provider who cancels on me to pay me 6 lol

It's not like you to be missing these details.  

If you gave her that much notice and in reality if she was the one who decided to not see you because you told her you were not feeling well means in my mind you did not have to give her anything unless she spent money to come to your area. If she is at least not willing to apply the donation you nicely gave her I would say she is not a reputable nor fair provider in her practices and you should let others know this in one form or another.

That's bullshit..
I mean you could have been a douche. Saw her anyway, and made her sick.
Possibly causing her to loose more than one date.

I didn't miss anything, I think you have been hanging around with Pimples a bit too much as of late.  Just what do you think I missed?

No one is going to say no to money, obviously. Some actually state on their websites that deposits for cancelled appointments, if a longer appointment, can be used toward a future date of the same kind or longer.

There are times I feel it is appropriate. Guy calls, asks me to book a hotel same day specially for him. He cancels last minute for a stupid reason, or no reason at all. I'm so pissed off there is no way I'd ever see him again. (I'm talking about new clients whom I've never seen - and it happens.)

If none of the $600 is to be used toward a future date, she ripped him off IMO.

Since him stated that she came over to get the money, I'm betting she didn't incur the expense of a hotel room.

I think she knew by saying none of the $600 was going toward a future date, he wouldn't want to see her again, so she got $600 free and clear.

Steph


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EOM

As a lady in the biz, a one hour cancellation fee on a 3 hr date, to be used in part towards a future date would be fair and generous if she local, IMO. He overpaid and it seems he got ripped.

I'm wondering if this meets the criteria for a rip off report.

Anytime you leave a client feeling like he was treated unfairly and taken advantage of, you are practicing very BAD biz. That goes for any line of work. Apparently she didn't get the memo.

Steph

So to clear some things up here. She has no cancellation policy on her website. I have seen her many times, once for a overnight, which is what I WAS going to schedule with her this time, but not now. No hotel was involved, she has a private in call. Can't imagine why she wouldn't want me as a client as I don't push boundaries, ask for extras or OTC time, always on time and clean. She still wants to go through with the date we have planned. $600 bucks won't put me in the poor house, but its also nearly a weeks pay, I have never experienced any thing like this, at least not from someone ranked #2 in the state.

I cant believe he gave her 6 when it wasnt really his fault. Wow.  
Is she the one who's avusive and demanding or is he just too nice to the point of being naive and stupid.

She is conducting her business in an unreasonable manner and, just like any service provider who does so, you cease doing business with them and hire another professional.

If she wants to keep you as a client there should be some kind of compromise-PERIOD.

I know there are always 3 sides to every situation, but please keep in mind what I've said.

xoxo,

Steph

Since he's seen her many times, I'm thinking she's figuring he'll pony up for another date and accept the $600 loss as well.

Not that she ever was on my list to begin with, just saying...

You stated in your OP that the "loss of revenue" would hurt her financially, or at least that's what she claimed. In my experience, a woman who charges $400 hr, is highly reviewed AND is always broke, is always going to pull this kind of crap. More than likely she once again is having money problems and even though she KNOWS her treatment of you is wrong, she needs the money, and money comes first.

You do what you like, but I avoid HDH's that constantly have money problems like the plague, their problems always end up becoming your problem, and isn't avoiding that kind of crap the reason we see hookers in the first place? Cut the bitch loose. Try numbers one or three on the list, or even number 234, number 234 on the list is less likely to take you for granted, just another reason the "top" lists on TER are counterproductive IMO

Don't want her to think you're not willing to take it up the ass...and for good measure let her kick you in the balls followed by your teeth.

If I were spending a week's pay on a hooker - I would want to have a LOT of fun.  

I'm not judging you, but if the deposit was almost a week's pay then the session was over a weeks pay...for what? One or two nuts? Damn! I'm just saying, there are a lot of hobbies that might be just as fulfilling for a lot less.

What ya shoulda done, was ask for the regular math.

EOM

Thanks for that laugh....it was a good one.

600 for a cancellation fee that cannot be applied to a future date?
I would be pissed too!
But unfortunately just because you have seen this provider many times does not mean you should not have gotten an understanding.For that kind of money YOU need to get an understanding you are thinking one thing and she is thinking another evidently.

Not that I bothered searching... lol

Maybe OP should have just gone through with the session the first time, cuz she obviously shows no appreciation for his concern for her health.  

she want to get the cold or strep throat or whatever?  

$600 is a hell of a lot of money for this action and the response.  Morally wrong, professionally reprehensible, especially if she says it won't count towards future business.    Kick her cheap hooker ass to the curb.   She has zero respect for you and she deserves none in return.  

under the circumstances you describe) does not speak well of her. She clearly took advantage of your generosity.

Here is another story of a provider getting bitchy about being "hurt financially" because she banked on money not yet received. I'm sure a lot of providers doing. Maybe they need to spend some time with Chi Town CPA to teach them a thing or two about managing money to avoid this clusterfuck

"because it hurt her financially".  I think this was excessive...  then for her to come back with NO consideration on a future date was totally screwing the pooch.  This little game we play works...  as long as both respect each other.  She just dissed you...   there is NO WAY, I would book with her under these circumstances.  

I was let know thru p411 the day that we were supposed to get together.
I thought it was allergies and I told him to go take some allergy medicine (allergy season is in full swing here) until later he told me that he had a fever. That's when I said we probably shouldn't do this. I never told him to pay a cancellation fee.

reread it, SHE CANCELED. he misspelled it

in financial knowledge?  His reviews indicate he is top level.

Didn't mean to yell. Just not good at adding emphasis. I should probably just stay quite but it pushed a button. I cannot know the whole story so just my two cents

Like my teenage daughter says "GET OVER IT! ITS ONLY MONEY!" Spoken like a spoiled but lovable young lady who has never worked a day in her life.  

That's one thing I don't get ... (A "friend" provider) going off on me when I've done nothing wrong. Thankfully it's only happened once, but once was enough for her to lose me as a client. This is a competitive industry ... I just don't get it.

I would call the location first... And if there's a charge or a cancelation fee (many places is the full nite).... I would kindly ask the gentlemen to pay the location..... Since I would not be using it..

I don't think he meant to give away $600.

She should consider he's a good client she wants to keep.

Steph

This text from him suggests there was a little more working out to do with that 600 + time, no?

It is on you

I'm going to be a dick and say "You should write a 10/10 review of him.  Maybe providers will book a "session" with him or he could be smart and trade services. Now that's an idea!

If a provider goes & acquires a room at a customers request, she incurred that fee from him.
If he cancels, it would be a legitimate reason to ask for a cancellation fee.
If she drove to another location (out of town) that would also be a legitimate reason.
The provider mentioned by the OP maintains her own incall.
She may have turned down other appointments to book his call.
I myself have men who book well in advance, a week or two, or more.
This is a legitimate loss of income due to her booking him versus other appointments.
So you would call these reasons b.s.?

SORRY but you remind me of the stripper who told me she had 10 k expensise a month. Of which none was rent, car payment or child care, IT was Shopping. You blew a good thing and he would have paid you again and again, Of course he still might, Does he worship your feet and just hand over a amex card

nd what she did was bullshit.

And PRO-deposit... maybe I've missed you're point, but that's the impression I got.

EOM


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I kind of agree. If she accepts a cancellation fee, it shouldn't be that high for one. And 2nd the client shouldn't expect that
cancellation fee be used for a future appointment.  

First, IMO - 24 hours notice does not deserve a cancellation fee.  If you were a familiar friend and we had a good history together, I wouldn't accept a cancellation fee. Again, JMHO.