So i'm rather new to all this. Had met a very nice Provider, visited a handful of times, and it was GREAT. There was a dinner, even the mention about a possible  "regular arrangement" or possible travel. Than it happened.  
I'm going out of town, thought i'd have a new experience. So I texted this "new gal" asking if she minded if I listed her as a possible reference to see another SW.  
She gets VERY upset with me, almost indignant?? Says why am I spending money on other gals, after asking her about a regular thing? She is really pissed, and it wasn't ended well?  
I feel HORRIBLE, did I do something wrong here? Thought I was being considerate asking about the reference beforehand. I really like this girl ALOT, but now wondering if she is a headcase? Tried to call to smooth things out but she didn't want to talk about it?? HELP, any input is appreciated here.

and move on. It looks like you are most likely  
getting a true understanding of this gals personality.
Did you guys come to a FINAL agreement on an arrangement?
It didn't look like it to me.. just my 2 cents.

The hobby is meant to be drama free.  She sounds a bit to possessive. The real GFE experience!  LOL!  My clients are only my temporary  boyfriends, free to see who they want and usually come back.  I would run, not walk.

I am assuming that you didn't complain over and over again to her as you saw her more often about how much it was costing to see her.                                    That being said…  I have to agree with Angelina this is the true gfe experience! She sounds too possessive or is sleeping over the line… If you truly like her, chat with her about  it. Communication is always the sexiest part and was difficult of a relationship. Otherwise if your version of the hobby is different than hers, I agree with your advice so far move on

Seriously? no client belongs to anyone in particular... Just like providers who have a favorite client in different cities it's should be vise versa!!! She'll get over it once she's in need of funds!!! Smh!!!  Oh the life in Hookerville  

you are a frequent regular and the provider agrees to OTC time in the form of dinner or some other outside activity, the mere fact that you're not paying for the time, even though sex is not involved, seemed to lead one or both parties to believe its suddenly become a RL relationship, giving you each the same expectations  and responsibilities as if you had formally "committed" to be exclusive with each other.  90% of the time, its a love-struck hobbyist that misconstrues the relationship to be more than what it is, but its not unheard of for a slightly unbalanced provider to assume things as well.  

If you are bringing this public, you most likely might be coming here to prove a point to the girl. Which means you might be a little attached. Are you in love with her? If you're not attached you would just say buh bye

a new acronym for our hobby, the "jealous girlfriend experience" . . . .JGE or JGFE?  You pick.    Love it.

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Best to put her in your rear view mirror.

OMG I have to add this option to my website... I'll check their social media constantly and after they leave the session I can text them incessantly wondering why I never see them. The climax will be the huge fight we have leading to make up sex lmfao...

You did it the right way, asking her first before emailing the other Sex Worker.  If that is her reaction, it's best to move on.

thanks for the acronym tip

love it, thanks for the reply

Thanks so much for the reply. Yes, I really do like her, and feel just awful about it. Didn't have a clue she would get upset, and now, not a clue as how to "mend fences" Would like to continue seeing her, but not at the cost of more drama? And no, never complained about anything, was honest and above board with everything??

No, never really had any serious discussion about an arrangement. So disappointed at how this transpired, not a clue what brought it on, or how to address it?

Just chalk it up to BSC and move on.

thanks for the input...ok BSC ????? definition?

I agree that she is probably obsessing over the cash spent on a competitor, even though that competitor isn't local. She is also losing sight of the importance of giving and receiving provider references, which helps make this business safer for her.

I've noticed that there are a few providers that like to act stingy, like they own a client. The fact of the matter is men like a variety and if you're out of town and travelling, you're entitled to have company.  As a provider, you can not hate on that, that's just plain selfish! In this business you need to learn how to share. I can't tell you how many times I've sent out a reference request and received a reply of they don't remember that client and when I let the client know, they find it rather funny as they've seen the provider multiple times, but now the provider is all of a sudden clueless. I've even had providers that I know have read my reference requests and just flat out ignored the message and don't reply. They  are obviously not confident enough in their own skin and are threatened about loosing business.  If she cared to have you as a client it should never have escalated to her hating on you seeing someone else and having to defend yourself about it. Are you in some sort of binding contractual agreement with her? No! You're allowed to see who you'd like, when you'd like. Period.  You shouldn't have to feel bad about asking. As far as I'm concerned, you were courteous enough to even give her a heads up and not blind side her.

Thanks so much for the reply. Well, that's what I thought too, but I tried to search my memory to try and recall if there was anything I had done or said to indicate that it was going to be an exclusive sort of thing?? Nothing came to mind? I do feel badly, as I do like her a lot, and was hoping to spend more time with her, but don't need/want the drama.

Thanks so much for the input, its much appreciated.

You're welcome Hun! It supposed to be all fun and games...No Drama!

But their jealousy is none of my business.

You mean real "Overly Attached Girlfriend" experience?

So they try to pretend the provider is jealous. This should be a fetish.  

because with ZERO evidence you seem convinced this guy brought this nut job down on himself through something HE did.

I promise,  there are more ladies out there...too many to stress over one...when it's hundreds out there.

Thanks for the input. Unfortunately not hundreds close to me. Yes, probably got a little "attached", my way as I look for a deeper connection if it is to be found. Bad call here I guess.

definitely want to give some thought to what might help the guy in the future. Jealousy on either side can be bad. There are ways to avoid too much attachment on either end.

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I had a recent provider who was very upset I used her as a reference. I had paid her nearly $3,000 for two events and yet she was pissed because she was one of a number SPs so felt that she could not give me a reference because I never took her on a one on one date. I still do not get it.

Angelina she is not ready to be a true participant in this world because she hasn't mastered the art of compartmentalization.

Posted By: AngelinaDDD

Re: You are not her boyfriend...
The hobby is meant to be drama free.  She sounds a bit to possessive. The real GFE experience!  LOL!  My clients are only my temporary  boyfriends, free to see who they want and usually come back.  I would run, not walk.

You'll find someone else you'll enjoy just as much, if not more. And they will allow you freedom. Control is no good. Not here, not anywhere. It can get confusing, but just like anything in life, when one door closes, another one opens.  

What kind of events are worth that kind of bread yet don't included any one on one time?

Wow, I understand getting semi attached as a provider. I think if all providers are honest they do have their favorites. But here is the problem that some girls don't give references. Which sucks for other providers, but I think what bothers me is when you ask for a reference and the girl calls and offers a special to keep the client coming to her. It's tacky and disrespectful to us and you. I think you need to move on from her you will connect with another provider and she's being overly dramatic and frankly rude. Which leads me to believe that she's not shall we say making a consistent living and counts heavily on you. If she is not willing to discuss it than it's going to become more crazy! I bet she is trying to punish you but will in a couple weeks if you are persistent in contacting her she will say she forgives you. But she's probably going to want more money to make it up to her! So I think you should cut your losses and move on.

Thanks so much for the input, its much appreciated! Maybe you can help me "forget my sorrows" next week while i'm in Charlotte! LOL....ok, hadda ask.

She just doesn't want you taking your bankroll to someone else.  

I'm in Salt Lake if you were referring to me!!!!
xoxox
Nikki

Thanks for the thoughts, its appreciated.

Some ladies Love to hear this.
They know they can feed you what they want  
and get away with it.

Thanks so much for the input, and support, its appreciated...Steve

Thanks so much for your thoughts and insight.

Thanks for your insight, its appreciated...Steve

Mr Fisher,

Maybe she is just a greedy ho who want's ALL of his cookie money?

How have you been?

....she sounds nuts. Be glad she finally showed how she is before you got into anything more regular with her.
Why is it a question IF she's a headcase? CLEARLY she is.

The irony is clearly lost on her, so at the very least she has a catastrophic lack of self awareness.

Yes, I can relate. I had an SP I would see on regular bases. I would fly in and I would pay her rate but she would tell me she had to give up a regular date and I started to pay her for the date she gave up to see me. I did it once or twice as I felt bad her giving up an hour date with a regular so she would see me for a dinner date or an overnight. Once I did it a few times it became a regular occurrence. So, my dear, I can relate.